I've never had a good poker face. If I don't like someone or I'm unhappy with a situation, I tend to wear my frustration on my face. This is a problem now that I'm forced to deal with a coworker I dislike (for a legit reason).
How do you manage staying cordial with people who rub you the wrong way? I'm not a confrontational person but I'm afraid that my interactions aren't the nicest...
Specializes in critical care/emergency departement.
I know very well what you mean. Usually i'm not able to hide my emotions, so if I dislike a situation, you understand it.
But on workplace I'm and I must be professional and I have to work with other professionals, therefore for the good of the patient I'm cordial and professional with all members of team even if I dislike somebody of them.
If the situation get worse I try to talk with he/she in order to solve or improve the work relationship, always, first of all, for the good of patient.
(PS: excuse me for possible grammatical or writing mistakes)
I sort of disagree with the avoid-unless-absolutely-necessary tactic. I'm not saying crawl up your coworker's butt and tell her that her hair looks good and ask her about her weekend (or his weekend, but I'm just going to go with feminine pronouns tonight), but I think forcing yourself to be pleasant, and not just cordial, has a way of breaking tension (for your sake, no your coworker's). Just saying good morning goes a long way.
Of course, I don't know any details of your situation, and I don't mean to imply that you don't have a legitimate reason for disliking this person. But, keep in mind that a great deal of workplace squabbles are caused by (sometimes even a series of) misunderstandings, with all parties involved being well-meaning. You could potentially work with this person for years, and unless she is a truly toxic, hateful person, it's usually easier to be on friendly terms with your coworkers. Or it is for me, at least. That's how I deal with people I don't like.
I am working with a man who is a competent nurse. I caught him in a huge lie and I know now that he would throw his own Mother under the bus rather than accept responsibilty for something that he did. I have zero respect for this person but I keep that to myself.
It is necessary to be pleasant and friendly to your coworkers. It's part of the job. Give the person two minutes of chit chat about the weather, the Red Sox, the food in the cafeteria and get on with your life.
I am working with a man who is a competent nurse. I caught him in a huge lie and I know now that he would throw his own Mother under the bus rather than accept responsibilty for something that he did. I have zero respect for this person but I keep that to myself.
It is necessary to be pleasant and friendly to your coworkers. It's part of the job. Give the person two minutes of chit chat about the weather, the Red Sox, the food in the cafeteria and get on with your life.
This is pretty much what's the problem. She's a liar and her laziness puts pts at risk, but she'll lie and weasel her way out of it. It makes me angry and its a pattern of behavior. She's been apprehended and disciplined but like you said, she'll throw her mom under a tractor trailer if it means saving her sniveling dishonest butt...
I know I know. The situation is what it is. She has no integrity. Keep your opinion to yourself. The person I mentioned has no idea just how disgusted I am about what he did.
They have a paper trail on her. When enough physicians and families complain, the karma bus will come for her.
Try to schedule yourself on a schedule the opposite of hers.
You cant walk around being angry all of the time. When you go to sleep ask God or someone to take this anger away from you.
This is pretty much what's the problem. She's a liar and her laziness puts pts at risk, but she'll lie and weasel her way out of it. It makes me angry and its a pattern of behavior. She's been apprehended and disciplined but like you said, she'll throw her mom under a tractor trailer if it means saving her sniveling dishonest butt...
She'll get caught eventually. In the meantime, that's even more of a reason not to make waves!
I guess every place has a nurse like that because we have one, too. Lazy, lies her way out of stuff, b!tches nonstop. Also roams around the units to find somebody willing to listen to her. One night I was on the hall charting on my WOW when I saw her heading my way.
I thought "BEAT IT!" might reach her as a subliminal message but it didn't. I found a reason to get up & go into a pt's room for several minutes. She got tired of waiting around so wandered off to find a better prospect.
You can always find something to do for a pt. to get out of the way of somebody like that.
Specializes in Specializes in L/D, newborn, GYN, LTC, Dialysis.
I do it by remembering it's not all about me, and they things they do or say that may upset me, are not mine to own. I reboot my brain when feeling super negative about such people. It takes practice, but is worth trying.
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I know very well what you mean. Usually i'm not able to hide my emotions, so if I dislike a situation, you understand it.
But on workplace I'm and I must be professional and I have to work with other professionals, therefore for the good of the patient I'm cordial and professional with all members of team even if I dislike somebody of them.
If the situation get worse I try to talk with he/she in order to solve or improve the work relationship, always, first of all, for the good of patient.
(PS: excuse me for possible grammatical or writing mistakes)