Really hate this nurse

Nurses General Nursing

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Unfortunately, I'm stuck working with her every shift and I can't get away from her. Let me start out by saying that I really love all of the nurses on my floor except for this one and another one. The two that I don't care for are always up my rear end to give THEIR patients priority in everything (baths, rounds, water passing, linens, etc.), and if I don't jump to what they want, they never let me forget it and stay on my rear all shift long until I do what they want. They seem to forget while they have 3-4 patients max, I have 18. They don't want to account for real life things (beds needing changed, patients needing changed, vitals need done, post op vitals being done, etc.), they want THEIR patients taken care of and RIGHT NOW. I'm changing a bed, too bad, they can wait, their patients need a bath, their patients need this, need that, (which they really don't, and they can wait till I pull a patient up, get a blood sugar, etc.)

Last night, nurse was on my rear end because patient missed the bedpan, and I was changing her gown and pad, and I didn't snap the gown sleeves first (Patient had an IV) on one shoulder. Later on, patient had to have a Foley inserted, and she said to me "You can strap it to her leg". Um.... excuse me... never done this before.. I said please show me how, I've never done this before. She got all snotty with me and said "Just WHAT did they teach you in your class?" What would have been a perfect chance to teach turned out to be yet another incident that made me start thinking maybe I need to change jobs, and rethink nursing as a career. Can anyone offer some advice as to how to deal with this (fill in the blank) nurse? :angryfire

I don't want to bring this to my boss' attention because it will make me look like a whiner, and difficult to get along with, which I really am not. Usually I'm always happy to help the nurses and do whatever they ask. Of course, the other ones are nicer at asking than this one and the other one.

Specializes in Med/Surg, Ortho.

I think there is a lot of primadonna complexes running amock at this place. First off, if they have 4-5 patients and you have 18 there is something terribly wrong with this picture!!!

I would definately have a chat with them,, with your nurse manager present and let them know that if they FIND a mess,, it is also THEIR responsiblity to clean it up. It serves no purpose for them to hunt you down to do something they are also capable of doing. They were taught this in school too, so whats their problem?

Definately you need to get your nurse manager in on this and quick. With 18 patients you shouldnt have to be doing much of anything but vitals and passing water and answering a few call lights. You wouldnt have time for anything else.

They are passing a buck that has long since worn out. RN doesnt mean you dont do the patient care too.

Specializes in Ortho, Neuro, Detox, Tele.

I understand where everyone is coming from with this....let me put in my .02 cents....I've only been a CNA for 7 months, but I worked as a activity manager for 3.5 years....I had NO problem asking a CNA to do something, but only if "they had time"...If they're in the breakroom, reading, smoking, etc..I figure they could probably do it pretty soon.

After working at the hospital though, I realize that when you have 14-15 patients, and the nurses only have 8-9, that you have to prioritize requests...if a patient is asking for a cold soda, well, that comes last after someone who's wet, VS needing to be taken, post ops needing supplies,etc.

If a nurse asks me to do something, and it seems as though they want it done now, I calmly explain that "I'm sorry, but I have 2-3 things here to do above that right now, but I will be happy to take care of that ASAP for you...if that's not ok, could you please do what you can now, and I'll be in shortly?" I have my routine things that I have to do every shift, so that's that.

I also understand how much charting/work a nurse actually does, even when it looks like they're just sitting....between checking orders, talking to docs, passing meds, taking care of IVs, etc.

I don't fault them for delegating, but if it's not important then I'm not placing it above the things I HAVE to get done right away....

IMHO, that's what you have to do to make it through a shift.

I work with what the OP described. It was one nurse who would act so snotty, bratty, and elitist. I firmly believe that no one has the right to make you feel inferior without your permission. So, if you stand there and don't do anything you are giving her free reign. The next time she behaves as you described, pull her aside and calmly (I always make it sound sugary sweet) tell her that you will no longer tolerate her attitude. You will not tolerate her saying anything demeaning or rude in front of a patient, visitor or another coworker. Tell her this is her ONE notice and if she doesn't shape up, you have no problems telling the charge nurse, nurse manager, etc. Or you can write her up and remind her that a CNA can write up a LPN or RN. Stand firm on this.

I did this with a RN I had problems with. One night as I was leaving, I walked past the nurse's station and she asked me if I knew how to turn a pt, how to give a bath, etc as none of her pts had been receiving care (there was no aide on the floor that night - her poor pts). She got in my face and I told her that she will not act that way towards me again. Oh, and I told her that I hadn't been working med surg that night. I had been in ICU. That shut her up fast. Some people you have to stand up to in order to earn their respect.

Good luck!

Blood sugars, wound care, foley caths are all nurses' jobs where I work.

Funny how different things are.

I agree that this nurse was very disrespectful and rude. Please take the advice offered here and don't let anyone take advantage of you.

I love my CNA's.

steph

Specializes in Med Surg, Hospice.

Well, God got me... I prayed on the way in that I wouldn't have to work with Ms. Perfect RN's. Well, I got pulled to work Orthopedics today (which I love). The LPN on the floor is wonderful and I would work with him in a heartbeat. When I went back to the locker room after shift, I saw both of them in the locker room. "Oh, Kylee, where were you? We missed you today." I'm thinking BS, you just didn't have anyone to kick around... (and yes, they will hear it from me next time they try to pull crap). I just smiled and said "Orthopedics, and I had the most wonderful time and the most wonderful nurses. Have a good day." And I left. Felt good, too.....

You are not alone. When I read your post, I could swear that you were talking about a nurse I worked with when I was a CNA. I still chuckle thinking about him.

He would walk the unit 3 times looking for me to ask me to get his patient something. He wouldn't get ice water for a patient on fire! I'm serious. He spent so much time just looking for me, he could have done most of what he asked me to do 2 or 3 times by the the time he caught up with me.

The charge nurse on the unit noticed what was going on. He told me to politely tell this nurse that I was busy at the moment, but would help him as soon as I could. I was still a bit frustrated, but for the most part, it worked.

You are not a slave to the nurses! You are there to provide patient care, and you must prioritize. Do the best you can, giving priority to the patients who need care the most.

Be as nice as you can to this troublesome nurse, and help her when you are able. By doing this, you rise above the behavior of this nurse.

Best wishes!

Hate is a strong word.

Specializes in critical care.

I work in the unit and we do not utilize techs. I did start on Med-Surge and then Tele, where we had very competent techs. I Never abused them, I was just as capable of putting someone on the bedpan, or doing a sugar if needed. It really annoyed me when I saw a fellow nurse sitting on her rump, and then ordering the tech to do something. I like to think that we are all in this together so we have to work as a team. I am sorry you are experiencing this type of difficulty, perhaps you should move to a different floor.

Specializes in OB, M/S, HH, Medical Imaging RN.
My two cents...

1. You won't work with this person forever. Either step up & set limits or bite your tongue & bide your time. Eventually you'll realize that people like that aren't worth your energy/emotion.

2. Every profession has its bad apples, and she doesn't represent the majority of our profession. Take this experience as a "lesson" and remember it when you're a nurse someday.

Hang in there! Good luck!

:yeahthat:

Specializes in Med Surg, Hospice.

Boy.. how things have changed! I haven't been assigned to work with this nurse for months. I did let her know I didn't appreciate her trying to shove her work off on me. She wouldn't do post mortem care on a patient that had just passed. I had never done it before (my first time a patient passed on my shift), but I was right there in the room doing it. She asked me to pull the IV and I explained that I wasn't a Care Tech yet and couldn't do that. She said she "couldn't handle" doing the care. At that point, I had had it and told her that she's the nurse, it's part of her job and to just grow up and do it.

On the professional level, I've qualified (as in passed my 6 months probation period) to and took the Care Tech class and passed. The best part is I've been mostly assigned to three nurses who are just wonderful.

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