I am a new grad nurse. Passed my boards and accepted a position at UVA for their nurse residencey program. I applied 6 months ago and it was my dream job in the oncology, and I got it. I was so happy. I'm supposed to start at the end of july. I'm currently living with my parents in northern va, and me moving to Charlottesville to work at uva is 2 hours away.
i have been really excited to start my job and move down there. Everything seemed to be going so well.
my dad was diagnosed with brain cancer in 2011. He had been doing well up until a couple months ago, 2 weeks ago we went in for his MRI and they just kept growing. Doctors basically said they are stopping treatment and referring him to hospice. Prognosis of 6 months. This CRUSHED ME. And my mom and sister. And most of all my dad. We have always had a special bond. And while we all knew that this would happen someday. We didn't know it was going to be so soon.
it has been eating me up inside about what I should do in terms of my job at uva. At first my initial reaction was too basically just stay here and continue to live in northern va with my mom and dad and spend time with him and help. With brain cancer, we are seeing confusion about and coordination problems already and I know it's going be getting worse soon. I know my mom needs help. And I so badly want to be there for my father. And while that all I want to do, given that time is really precious right now.
However I kept thinking about the importance my career and what I worked so hard for. Finishing school and landing my dream job. I feel so selfish for wanting to continue and take the job and move out in a couple of months to pursue that. I'm so torn and every day it seems like I'm flip flopping on what I should do. I know it's imperative for me as a new nurse to start working as soon as I can to master my skills etc... I could take a job up here somewhere but I really hate to just let that opportunity at uva slip through my fingers. Even just writing this I feel guilt for even considering leaving, but I also know how it important it will be for me to have made a life so that I am able to grieve my dad in a healthy way when that time comes.
im asking for advice. What would you do if you were in my spot.
i don't want to regret leaving my mom and dad and possibly spending what precious time he has left with him. I also don't want to regret this opportunity at uva. My theory has been that uva is only 2 hours away and with working only 3 days a week . I could be up here. But I don't want him to pass, and to regret spending that time with him for the rest of my life either.