I am the one who keeps the roster prepare the scheduling of nursing staff for in service classes and mandatory classes. Our policy is that anyone who needs it has to make a copy of it.
A nurse educator took my roster and refused to give it back to me for 3 days. In the meantime I had to accomplish a deadline by using the roster.
This nurse knows that sometimes I can have a bad temper due to emotional conditions (take medicine for that). I asked for the roster to make a copy of it for myselt. She refused to give it to me again.
We had an argument over this and I get upset and she even had the nerve to call hospital police as if I was the one at fault. Hospital police and my immediate supervisor supported her because of her status of Nurse Educator. Does this constitutes professional misconduct? Please let me know what you think. I was very aggravated by the presence of hospital police to watch me. I appreciate your comments/suggestions. Because I am clerk I should be abused? Thank you.
Let me share something with you that I hope will sink in. I tell it to my children all the time and top level execs and very successful people live by this rule.
NOBODY CAN MAKE YOU ANGRY. YOU MAKE YOURSELF ANGRY. You are the ONLY one in control of your emotions and nobody can make you hurt, sad, happy, angry or any other feeling without you letting them- or in other words you choosing how you will feel.
Until you learn this you will never go very far in life because those that let their emotions rule them, and not master their emotions, then you never have total control of yourself or any situation for that matter. People will learn that they can manipulate and control you and some will use this to their advantage.
Another thing that I will throw out there for thought- if you do let someone hurt you with their words or control your emotions, you have let them win and they really do control you in every sense of the word.
Think of this- in an alzheimers ward a woman used to call me and my kids filthy names all the time. I had taught my children she did not mean what she was saying and we all were able to keep smiling and let it roll off our backs instead of thinking she was insulting us and getting angy. The results can be applied in any situation- getting cut off driving, getting yelled at by a co-worker, etc.
When things are getting crazy, just try to think of whatever is bugging you from another point of view and see how quickly things can change. It is really amazing honestly!
Hello there,
The lady in question does not have Alzheimer's or any other mental impairment.
In the professional world we are still human beings. You should know better.
Okay... this made no sense at all. Being biased against what? Someone who cannot control themselves to the point that the police have to be called? Sure, I'm biased against unstable people like that in the workplace.
Bertita, you need to stop looking at yourself as a victim who should be excluded from the consequences of your own behavior because of an emotional condition. Every job has it's stressors and people are not necessarily going to treat you differentially simply because YOU think they should because you have a condition.
NOBODY CAN MAKE YOU ANGRY. YOU MAKE YOURSELF ANGRY. You are the ONLY one in control of your emotions and nobody can make you hurt, sad, happy, angry or any other feeling without you letting them- or in other words you choosing how you will feel.
Very true words. We are all expected to control our behavior in the workplace, irregardless of circumstance or the factors involved in a situation. Whether or not the nurse educator deliberately chose to bait you with the intent to make you lose your temper, it does not excuse your response. After requesting the roster back and her refusing to give it back, you could have taken the situation to your superior, especially since you had a deadline to meet. You didn't, you chose to argue with her about it to the point that it got heated enough for the hospital police to be called. Once one gives in to anger, they lose control of the situation.
You can either sit there and play the victim, feel like your the one abused and biased against, or you can learn from this experience.
im sorry i think its sad when someone has a weakness,and this someone knew she has that problem took advanceage of it ok. how would you like if someone was missing with you weakness?
Who says the educator was taking advantage of the woman's weakness. She needed the roster. If the clerk also needed it, well that's what copy machines are for. The clerk should have made a copy before handing the roster over if the roster is so important.
The point is, the OP knows she has a terrible temper and is using that as an excuse to let loose. She's not taking any responsibility for her own actions. It doesn't matter if she's taking meds for it. She still needs to learn to control herself. It's unprofessional and anyone who, for any reason creates a hostile work environment should be strongly disciplined.
I have to come down on the side of the majority here. People cannot go around blaming bad behaviors on their "conditions" when it's convenient.
This nurse knows that sometimes I can have a bad temper due to emotional conditions (take medicine for that)
There is one comment I have concerning this statement. It would seem that you have inadequate control of your emotional conditions if this is common knowledge and you should probably talk with you physician about a reimen change to help get this under better control.
I would also have disciplinary action started as you made another person feel threatened enough to call in the "police" . In the world outside of the hospital this is called assault.
Specializes in Case mgmt., rehab, (CRRN), LTC & psych.
Some people are targeted in the workplace, whereas others are left alone. There's a very simple reason for this and the OP fails to realize it.
We have all been subtly tested in the workplace. Our superiors discreetly will place us in difficult situations and/or say insensitive things just to see our reactions. If an employee maintains self-control, even temperament, and poise in the midst of difficult situations, it is likely that (s)he will not be targeted. Even-tempered employees have unofficially passed the discreet test and tend to be left alone.
Employees that continue to demonstrate the inability to wisely choose their battles will be targeted and picked on by superiors. People who bark at every wrongdoing, lose self-control, and make big scenes are easy targets because management enjoys seeing the adverse reaction of the employee with the temper tantrum. On the other hand, passive people who do not defend themselves are easy targets. You need to be assertive, not passive or aggressive.
You need to choose your battles cautiously because some issues are not worth the fight. People pick on you because they know you'll bark, so stop giving them this satisfaction.
bertita
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I am only one that is i should be abused