Breaking up is hard to do

[ceebeejay]

Due to changes in the 485 due to medicaid, I am no longer on my longest peds case. A part of me is relieved, another terrified, and my heart is so sad. I will miss this case. I would love to know about them as they grow up.

How do you deal with moving on?

[Girlafraid13]

I always wonder about pts that I have worked with in the past. I wonder how they are, if they're still alive, etc. But I've never personally called to check with the family. I personally think that might be crossing the professionalism barrier.

[CloudySue]

I stopped working w a little boy when I switched from days to nights. A couple of years later I googled his name and found his obituary from about 6 months before.

[SDALPN]

I stopped working w a little boy when I switched from days to nights. A couple of years later I googled his name and found his obituary from about 6 months before.

I've found that kind of bad news in a few ways. That is hard. Same for when I've found out a parent passed that I liked.

[meanmaryjean, DNP, RN]

I keep in touch with one family (child no longer needs nursing care) as kid's daddy is a pastor in the same denomination as Mr. Meanmaryjean's congregation.

I do occasionally google the names of prior kids to see if they have passed. I did discover a teen I cared for many decades ago finally won a tens-of-millions-of-dollars settlement for the accident that left him a quadriplegic. I was overjoyed for this because they lived in a tiny apartment- and I'm sure his quality of life improved with this settlement.

[caliotter3]

Although the parents of my "best" case offered to be references for me and to keep in touch, I have not contacted them.

[ceebeejay]

My instinct tells me to stay away, which is what I will listen to. They will remain in my thoughts and prayers though.