Playing with fire...

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Lets say you meet another nurse or a tech at your work that you really like and would like to date. But you can't just ask, because the other person is already in a relationship with someone else.

What's would be a good way indirectly find out if she is interested or is she just being friendly without completely letting the cat out of the bag?

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But they're already in a relationship with someone else....

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I would not. It can quickly become a mess you don't want. And let's say they really were interested....it would involve them cheating or breaking off their current relationship and who's to say they wouldn't turn and do it to you?

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You're serious???? The other person is in a relationship already so why would you want to get in the mix?

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This is your occupation, not Melrose Place.

With all due respect, don't play where you get paid.

If "you would not" and you understand that if the person does it with you, they will do it on you, then I am not sure the intent of the question.

My response? If someone is flirting, or you don't know if they are just being friendly, a gentle reminder that you all are at work and have work to do is a option. Or flat out that you are not into people who are with someone else.

And you should never invest in anyone that is with someone else, but trying to get with you.

Again, you are at work. It is highly inappropriate on a number of levels....

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Specializes in Med/Surg, Academics.

Just wait it out. If she's interested, let her make the first move.

I've been married for almost two decades. I met my husband at work, which, back then, was the number one place where people met their future spouses (before online and social media were even phrases). When I met him, I was living with a long-term boyfriend of 3 years. Eight months later, I broke up with my boyfriend, told the guy at work, and one week later, we had our first date.

Again, let her make the first move.

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Specializes in Critical Care; Cardiac; Professional Development.

I am amazed how often being nice is mistaken for flirting/interest. Just sayin'. I am happily married and it makes me feel very awkward that a smile and kindness with eye contact is mistaken for a come on.

I think it would be wise to find someone who isn't committed elsewhere. If it ever changes and the interest is real, believe me, that person will make sure you know they are back on the market.

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Specializes in PDN; Burn; Phone triage.

Just don't have sex in the parking lot of your workplace. Then you'll get fired!

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Specializes in MDS/ UR.

It shows how little respect you have for that person and yourself.

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Just don't have sex in the parking lot of your workplace. Then you'll get fired!

Or the stairwell, bathroom, locker room, empty patient room, etc.

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Or the stairwell, bathroom, locker room, empty patient room, etc.

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Aaah. I was referencing an older (possibly infamous) post.

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Specializes in Going to Peds!.

Aaah. I was referencing an older (possibly infamous) post.

:-) Ok, that makes sense!

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