People think you are rich because you are a nurse

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First I had to loan my in-laws 1500.00 to keep the bank from foreclosing on their home (never got it back). Then 2 other people borrowed 20.00 and never paid me back. Now I have this so-called "friend" who calls me about 2-3 times per month to borrow money. She has 5 kids and uses the line "the baby needs milk" or "we have no food". Now, neither work and they draw checks, foodstamps, plus the kids draw checks as well, they get assistance with utilities, and free medical care and free medicines. I used to loan them money, never to get it back. I felt sorry for them. Well, I wont loan them money anymore, but they still try it constantly. She called me 4 times today WHILE I WAS WORKING...hinting for money. I work all day 5 days a week while they lay on their butts all day and do nothing (there is more physically wrong with me than either of them). Im working, they can too. But they honestly think Im rich because Im a nurse and I can just shell out money at a moment's notice. Do any of you experience this with people? I get tired of watching lazy people (not the people who actually need help) get so much help and still expect more from people who WORK. Im tired of lines like "you are a nurse and make the big bucks", etc. grrrrrrrrr.

And yes, the doors to "chenoaspirit national bank" are now closed. lol, but I just find it so frustrating. I will no longer allow anyone to make me feel sorry for them. I feel bad when I say no, but dang.

Specializes in Ortho and Tele med/surg.

Do you know how to change your phone number? Cut them off permanently.

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Specializes in Telemetry, Neuro, Renal, Ortho.

Plus, if you keep giving them money then you are allowing them to be lazy. They know they can freeload off you. Cut them off.

-Heather

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o nice guy that can cook=d and thats too bad u lost a friend over that.thats always hard

I am recently trying to get back in touch friendship wise with the former roommate, but it's a slow process... I am still friends with the friend I cook with (he's one of my best friends). It *is* hard to lose a friend, but I was literally bleeding money b/c of him...

The thing that confirmed he was no longer going to be a roommate was when a hole mysteriously appeared in the door to his room in my apartment. That was the last straw. The drinking made / makes him do rash and not-thought-through things ... he's not usually violent w/ drinking, but I was to the point where I was ready for home ownership and holes in the walls/doors was NOT acceptable. I would have reconsidered if he replaced the door like he said he was going to, but unfortunately that didn't happen, so he ended up having to find a new place to live b/c I wasn't having it anymore. The stupid thing is I *do* miss having him around because he was a lot of fun and we got along great, but there was just too many bad things going on at once to deal with on that one... :banghead:

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i am recently trying to get back in touch friendship wise with the former roommate, but it's a slow process... I am still friends with the friend i cook with (he's one of my best friends). It *is* hard to lose a friend, but i was literally bleeding money b/c of him...

The thing that confirmed he was no longer going to be a roommate was when a hole mysteriously appeared in the door to his room in my apartment. That was the last straw. The drinking made / makes him do rash and not-thought-through things ... He's not usually violent w/ drinking, but i was to the point where i was ready for home ownership and holes in the walls/doors was not acceptable. I would have reconsidered if he replaced the door like he said he was going to, but unfortunately that didn't happen, so he ended up having to find a new place to live b/c i wasn't having it anymore. The stupid thing is i *do* miss having him around because he was a lot of fun and we got along great, but there was just too many bad things going on at once to deal with on that one... :banghead:

aww well maybe ya should just stay friends just not live together lol

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Specializes in Family Nurse Practitioner.

Thankfully my family is financially independent and I have made it a point to avoid "friends" with any kind of financial drama issues in their lives. It may sound harsh but I just don't need that kind of stress and I'm surely not giving out money that won't get paid back. Heck I'm one of the lower paid people in my circle.

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Specializes in Critical Care.

My mom thinks i'll be making big money once I'm a nurse, but I think she is seriously mistaken. None the less I know I'll be the one taking care of my family way in the future, when my dad passes. I don't mind this, but I think people are wrong when they think nurses make a boat load of money. These days not even Dr.'s, let alone nurses, make that much money.

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Specializes in CVICU.

No offense, but you must be putting it out there that you're a pushover. I have never in my entire life had anyone ask me to float them a loan for anything bigger than a cheeseburger because they forgot their money for lunch. My father always taught me to never lend anyone anything that you actually expect to get back, because it will ruin your relationship with them. It's true, he's absolutely right. So, if you're going to continue to hand out cash to everyone who comes begging, consider it a gift and then forget about it. You're not going to see it again.

I'd suggest, however, just cutting them off. What entitles them to the money you've worked so hard to earn?

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Specializes in OB.

My personal rule is not to lend any money I can't afford not to get back. I really don't have any problem though with saying "Sorry I can't do that" to any request.

Family members are a different story, particularly older family. I figure any amount given to them is a small percentage of payback for all the years they raised me. The hardest part with my mom is getting her to accept it.

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Specializes in Telemetry.

wow! they owe you a lot of money.

looks like they are just using you. learn to say NO. change your phone number or block them so they won't bother you and ask for money. :)

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Honestly, whether you're "rich" or not isn't the issue. You could be Bill bloody Gates....it's your money, not theirs and they have no automatic claim to it.

It sounds like the kindest thing you can do for both you and them, is to not give any more money. The next request, I'd just be straight up and tell them, that you've been giving them a lot of money and that practice has stopped. There will be no more money, so don't bother asking.

Now the hard part is....you have to stick to your guns. If you give in, even once.....you'll be hit up for cash for the rest of your lives.

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Well, I am going to be the bad guy on this. Sorry. Nursing and people asking for money are just not, the same face, or a tokens with different sides.

I am an LVN, now. Not making the money of an RN. But this is my second career. My first career was in the automotive business. RN's wages were comparable. I did not have people knocking at my door asking for money. Why?

I did not let people believe that I was making so much and that I would care if they were short of paying their bills.

Nurses are not a non for profit organization, or have the catholic church to help fund you, as in my hero Mother Teresa, whom I could never do what she did.

So when someone tells you, "I need, I need, I need." Point them to the nearest nursing school.

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Yeah right. We can live a comfortable living as nurse but we are not rich.

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