Patient Death Experience.

[2k15NurseExtern4u]

I love to hear stories of memorable patient deaths. Sometimes it's just eerily cool to watch the process unfold (not to be a creep about it). Im still a nursing student so I only have 1 experience so far. Patient had stage 4 cancer with mets to the liver, brain, and a completely occluded left lung. Patient was a super goner, but family was in complete denial and believed she would "pull through." Patient finally expired during one of my clinical rotation and I felt SO relieved for her. Such a crappy way to leave this world. Thats all I got so far..

Please, share a memorable patient death experience that you have had.

[JustBeachyNurse, LPN]

You will only be an RN if you pass NCLEX. And that isn't a given.

And why do you have to contact the mods?? YOU changed it from Bea-whatever to the name you have now, not them. So change it back yourself.

Free members can only change user names once a year. Any issues site admin must be contacted as she has

[JustKeepSmiling, ADN, BSN, RN]

I would engage in this topic if, like another poster described, was about staff resolution/adaptation.

As a nurse still new to ICU, the amount of death and withdrawals of care I deal with in a few months totals the amount I dealt with in a few years in medsurg.

It's tough.

However I think the language choices you used are unthinkable.

I actually want to recommend to the AN mods to shut this thread down.

[OrganizedChaos, LVN]

I would engage in this topic if, like another poster described, was about staff resolution/adaptation.

As a nurse still new to ICU, the amount of death and withdrawals of care I deal with in a few months totals the amount I dealt with in a few years in medsurg.

It's tough.

However I think the language choices you used are unthinkable.

I actually want to recommend to the AN mods to shut this thread down.

I usually don't think the mods should shut down many posts but I am all for the mods closing this one. Also, I don't mind discussing patient deaths but this topic is all about the OP and her fascination when it should be about the patient.

[JustKeepSmiling, ADN, BSN, RN]

Ditto.

The OPs post history speaks...

Goal of finishing CRNA school by 30 and has 7 years to do so and only wants ICU and can't waste time in medsurg.

Had to ask what diverting meant.

What does SNF stand for?

Openly admits to cheating

All posts from 1-3 months ago.

Now this..

I fear that a December graduation is much too soon.

[OrganizedChaos, LVN]

Ditto.

The OPs post history speaks...

Goal of finishing CRNA school by 30 and has 7 years to do so and only wants ICU and can't waste time in medsurg.

Had to ask what diverting meant.

What does SNF stand for?

Openly admits to cheating

All posts from 1-3 months ago.

Now this..

I fear that a December graduation is much too soon.

Well that's just scary!

[icuRNmaggie, BSN, RN]

I have contacted administration in regards to my username, but I WILL be a BSN-RN in December. So excited! Can't wait:)

You do not seem to realize that you may have jeopardized your future just to satisfy your "morbid curiosity."

If any of the faculty at your SON in Houston, or one of the ICU nurses from your recent clinical, read your accounts of the "eerily cool" death of the "super goner" Stage 4 ca pt in ICU whose family was in denial or the dying leukemia pt in ICU with fluids gushing around an "anal catheter" you will be in the dean's office.

How are you going to explain these HIPAA violations?

Are you going to tell her to relax because it's an anonymous forum?

You have posted your age, hometown and the actual name of an employer. It will appear on job applications.

It would be in your best interest to contact the site administrators and ask to have this thread removed.

[Jensmom7, BSN, RN]

I usually don't think the mods should shut down many posts but I am all for the mods closing this one. Also, I don't mind discussing patient deaths but this topic is all about the OP and her fascination when it should be about the patient.

I second that motion.

[rowrowyourboat]

Oh man the Internet ate my post! Maybe just as well because I was going to go all in on you.

[FlyingScot, RN]

Personally, I think it would be in everyone's best interest if this thread was removed.

[OrganizedChaos, LVN]

Personally, I think it would be in everyone's best interest if this thread was removed.

It should be removed & maybe the OP should take a hiatus from the internet.

[Cricket183, BSN, RN]

Just one problem with this. I'm sure you're very passionate about your feelings, and really believe in them, but someone's death isn't about YOU, it's about THEM.

Death is a very private and personal journey. Many don't want friends and family to hover over the bed, watching them draw their last breath. They don't want that to be the last memory of them.

I have had patients wait until everyone has stepped out of the room before they die. We prepare our families for this, so they know they aren't terrible spouses, children, siblings, etc. if it happens like that.

Dying by yourself is completely different than dying alone or lonely. I suggest to families that they each say goodbye, I love you, we'll be ok, you can relax and let go when you're ready, because the dying can still hear, even when unresponsive, and some people do need permission to go.

Fulfilling YOUR needs when someone dies doesn't do anything for anyone except you, and to possibly inflict your presence on someone who may neither need nor want it as they navigate life's final journey, no matter how well intentioned, is not a good thing.

I cannot like this enough! Well said Jensmom!

I regret that I shared anything about one of my patients on this post.

[icuRNmaggie, BSN, RN]

You misconstrue the differences between boundaries in reality with the boundaries of an anonynous online forum. Also, if you have cancer, "a bad kind," and you are well aware that there are things on AN that upset you or trigger certain emotions within you,

then why would you click on a thread about death when you KNOW it would disturb you??

What is disturbing is that a Senior level nursing student is unable to comprehend why an individual with a life threatening form of cancer would not want her family subjected to seeing her treated as an object of your morbid curiosity.

You don't understand boundaries because you have none. You have posted confidential details about two dying patients in a Houston ICU on international forum for nurses. If I worked where you did your clinical I would not even let you in the door again.

Setting boundaries means to protect what is mine. OCN63 has set very clear

boundaries of having no gawkers around her family and enforcing that by use of her cane if needed.

I am disgusted by your callous response and assumption that a nurse who is battling cancer is too sensitive to participate in a discussion titled "the dying patient."