Parent tips to send home when kids are watching bad stuff on the internet.

MrNurse(x2), ADN · Feb 23, 2016

I know! My son came home from a sleepover saying he was playing Grand Theft Auto with his friend and the dad. My son is 7.

:banghead: I was soooo much worse than my kids are at their ages. We are pretty counter culture. The Muppets is the ONLY network TV we watch. What I see in patient rooms sickens me. Unfortunately, most parents want their kids to be cool above all else.

kidzcare · Feb 23, 2016

I was soooo much worse than my kids are at their ages. We are pretty counter culture. The Muppets is the ONLY network TV we watch. What I see in patient rooms sickens me. Unfortunately, most parents want their kids to be cool above all else.

I have become more lax about what my own children see/hear. NOT completely lax, but their dad has no problem with them seeing anything and curses pretty much nonstop. I tell the kids that they will not be allowed to watch or even talk about some of the more inappropriate shows/movies (Ted, Family Guy, ect) that I know they have seen at his house. I know they will be exposed to some of it and they will point out to me when something is inappropriate.

kidzcare · Feb 23, 2016

Unfortunately, most parents want their kids to be cool above all else.

I wanted to add on this that sometimes it's more about selfishness/laziness on the parent's part also. The parents want to watch the inappropriate shows so they put them on when the kids are around because they don't want to wait.

The worst thing I ever watched with my dad was Married...With Children. I didn't get a lot of the jokes then, but knew that they were sex related (I was preteen to early teenager). Later in life, it became a bonding thing between us. We would quote Al and Kelly's sweeter moments when he would call her pumpkin. Sometimes he would call me, laughing because he was watching an old episode and wanted to share it with me. I miss him so damn much.

allnurses Guide · Feb 23, 2016

Good morning Friends. I was just asked from one of my administrators for help in finding a tips/info sheet to send home to parents. Apparently, some of our upper elem. aged students are talking about inappropriate subjects that they have seen on the internet. I know this is sadly, no news flash, to most of us. Especially with all the tablets and smartphones that are available at every breath. Do any of you have a good quick resource that you can direct me to?
Thanks Friends!

When My son was in 5th grade he got caught at his very Christian school looking up "Dirty" words in the school's computer lab. and I got a call from the principal. That day my son lost his internet privileges for 30 days, and free time computer access at school for a month.

I will say that in today's permissive culture most people think I am a bit of a prude. but when my husband who monitors our son's internet active found some fairly erotic Anime stuff on the internet he just tightens the firewall. We talked about it and I spoke to my son's pediatrician who said it was pretty normal for adolescents and likened it to kids looking at their dads playboy of Victoria's secret catalogs before the internet became a thing. I am not sure how I would feel about getting this type of info sheet from a school since everybody has a different idea of what is inappropriate.

Hppy

MrNurse(x2), ADN · Feb 23, 2016

I wanted to add on this that sometimes it's more about selfishness/laziness on the parent's part also. The parents want to watch the inappropriate shows so they put them on when the kids are around because they don't want to wait.

We deal with this with the pseudo-foster kid. Mom has the TV on garbage and he and his 5 yo half brother in the room. He takes his brother and leaves the room, but mom sees nothing wrong with it. Brought up in counseling and she dismissed it as normal despite the SW saying no, it is not normal.

Farawyn · Feb 23, 2016

We deal with this with the pseudo-foster kid. Mom has the TV on garbage and he and his 5 yo half brother in the room. He takes his brother and leaves the room, but mom sees nothing wrong with it. Brought up in counseling and she dismissed it as normal despite the SW saying no, it is not normal.

So, the kid is self censoring. That's cool, but kind of sad that he HAS to.

MrNurse(x2), ADN · Feb 23, 2016

Lots of counseling and prayer, horrible situation. He is only there about three weeks a year, but it takes the full year to reset the damage. The saddest, he really is uber-bright and somewhere in there is a good heart.

Farawyn · Feb 23, 2016

Lots of counseling and prayer, horrible situation. He is only there about three weeks a year, but it takes the full year to reset the damage. The saddest, he really is uber-bright and somewhere in there is a good heart.

Obviously, if he is looking out for himself and his younger sibling.

So sad when kids have to grow up so fast. He is lucky to have you.

Farawyn · Feb 23, 2016

Bottom line, this is one more thing that is NOT the SN job. Yes, we can always be supportive, but we are not there to be the moral police of these kids, and what goes on in their homes. We can't take that on as well.

MrNurse(x2), ADN · Feb 23, 2016

Obviously, if he is looking out for himself and his younger sibling.
So sad when kids have to grow up so fast. He is lucky to have you.

We are the lucky ones. We are so blessed to have him. We kept trying to adopt internationally and everything kept getting blocked, then he came to us. Everything has a reason and we were able to see it here on Earth this time. The hardest part is to watch the dichotomy in families, not poor vs. rich, as we had 2 years of serious financial hardships, but loving vs. non-loving. He struggles daily with being accepted by his family versus letting them no longer influence him. The saddest part is his family doesn't care either way.

kidzcare · Feb 23, 2016

We are the lucky ones. We are so blessed to have him. We kept trying to adopt internationally and everything kept getting blocked, then he came to us. Everything has a reason and we were able to see it here on Earth this time. The hardest part is to watch the dichotomy in families, not poor vs. rich, as we had 2 years of serious financial hardships, but loving vs. non-loving. He struggles daily with being accepted by his family versus letting them no longer influence him. The saddest part is his family doesn't care either way.

All of you are blessed to have each other

Farawyn · Feb 23, 2016

We are the lucky ones. We are so blessed to have him. We kept trying to adopt internationally and everything kept getting blocked, then he came to us. Everything has a reason and we were able to see it here on Earth this time. The hardest part is to watch the dichotomy in families, not poor vs. rich, as we had 2 years of serious financial hardships, but loving vs. non-loving. He struggles daily with being accepted by his family versus letting them no longer influence him. The saddest part is his family doesn't care either way.

*HUGS* to you and your family. :inlove: