Overall Body Numbness and Irritability

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Specializes in Emergency Nursing / CV/STICU.

Hey how's it going everybody. I don't know why lately I'm been feeling very irritable lately. My whole body feels numb and I should be happy. I just passed NCLEX-RN, I'm a brand new nurse...but for some reason I still feel completely empty and I'm thinking this is what is making me feel irritable.

I guess it's also that lately many of your friends that you were once close to barely even give you a call anymore like you don't exist.

I'm also upset at the fact that as much as people are being nice, I know I gained like 40 lbs during nursing school, and they don't tell me the truth.

Girls are finding me less attractive and I know it's due to my current weight. I'm overweight, but have the best personality anyone could have. Why do woman have to be superficial with men that don't meet their physical expectations. :nono:

It's not the outside that matters, but the inside.

Bolonga! :madface:

I'm down. :o

Doesn't anyone have a sincere heart these days?

The only thing I have at this point is my family, my career, and God.

I just don't know why I'm overwhelmed with numbness and irritability.

Anyone ever feel this way?

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Hi Punkstar!

Yeah, that happened when I got married young and started my family. You certainly know who your friends are when your life takes a turn!!

And unfortunately girls can be superficial, as can some guys too!!

Trust in God, he has a master plan for you...the girl of your dreams is just waiting for you, she will probably make an appearance when you least expect it!!!

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Specializes in LTC,Hospice/palliative care,acute care.

You are in a DEPRESSION-get thee to the MD stat. You have been through alot of life changes and you are off balance.Not a thing wrong with taking an anti-depressant.Your brain chemicals need to be stabilized- maybe a little counseling,too-that can do wonders. Once you start to get back into control you'll feel like doing something about the weight issue. ..Your friends maybe don't want to be around you because you bring them down(do you want friends like that anyway?) -get yourself some help.We in the medical field are the last to take care of ourselves-you would not stand idly by and watch a patient suffer,would you? You are your own patient-treat yourself and then you can treat others...

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Specializes in Med-Surg.
The only thing I have at this point is my family my career, and God.[/quote']

Sounds like you're depressed. Let's see, you have a family, a career that's stable and provides middle income, and a higher power you have faith in. That's a lot more than many other people and perhaps a moment to count your blessings is a good place to start.

Life after nursing school can be a bit of an adjustment. We're working so hard and focused, and suddenly we are left with ourselves and a whole new frigthening reality.

It's now well documented that stress contributes to weight gain and nursing school, nclex, etc. is very stressful. Now is the time to combat that with a good diet and exercise program. Nothing like a good workout to life your spirits and help you feel good about yourself.

Don't take it personal. After nursing school people go their own way and you lose touch. I moved to a new city and had no friends or significant other and started volunteer work and it was there I made some new friends and even found a boyfriend.

Best wishes. Hang in there and stay positive. Get help if you need to.

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Specializes in PeriOp, ICU, PICU, NICU.

I am so sorry you are feeling this way. I too, gained lots of weight during nursing school but am determined to shake those lbs. off!

My advice, change what is bothering you. Get to the gym, eat healthy and find a hobby you enjoy. It's not all about work-you need time for yourself as well.

When I am eating healthy and excercising, I feel so energized! So yeah, if gaining weight has you depressed...........change it! I guarantee you self-esteem will go up.

I used to be 303lbs and never anyone once dated me. I was just the "fat girl". I changed that and lost 173lbs. All of a sudden guys were coming out of the woodworks.........I ignored them.

I am now married to a wonderful guy who loves me with my extra blubber. While I am just a few lbs overweight this time (like 15lbs), I know they will be gone in no time.

I learned to love myself before anyone could. It's their loss, not mine. I know who I am and that is all that matters..........

Hugs to you!!

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Specializes in LTC,Hospice/palliative care,acute care.
Sounds like you're depressed. Let's see, you have a family, a career that's stable and provides middle income, and a higher power you have faith in. That's a lot more than many other people and perhaps a moment to count your blessings is a good place to start.

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We can always count on you,Tweety-you are a "glass half full kind of guy" Great advice-be thankful for what you have and forget about what you have not.....

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Specializes in Emergency Nursing / CV/STICU.

Thank you all for your replies.

All advice were both blunt and informative.

I may feel unstable at times but in no way does it affect my nursing performance. I took no offense to what any of you had to say. I believe depression hits us all right? One time or another...

Maybe I'm just going through one of those phases.

I guess I'm still in the beginning of my process in truly loving myself completely.

"To love someone, you must first love yourself."

...this is how I will become positive.

SUCCESS doesn't come in CANTs but in CANS.

THANK YOU! I have so many dreams and goals for myself...I just need constant inspiration/motivation. It's nice to know that people do care about your well being in a holistic way.

Thanks again everyone.

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Specializes in LTC,Hospice/palliative care,acute care.
THANK YOU! I have so many dreams and goals for myself...I just need constant inspiration/motivation. It's nice to know that people do care about your well being in a holistic way.

Thanks again everyone.

We DO care-especially us old farts.We need you young nurses-you'll take care of us someday! But please consult your MD-all of that positive thinking may need a boost (can you tell I am a big believer in anti-depressants? And cats-you can't have too many pets.They really create a positive energy and promote mental and physical health.Also-aromatherapy is a good thing...and music...Nothing like an hour of Nine Inch Nails to get that energy up...
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Specializes in ICU;CCU;Telemetry;L&D;Hospice;ER/Trauma;.

Punkstar!! One of the best things to help you feel your body again is to get on a treadmill, or go lift some weights at a gym....believe me....it does a body good to work out regularly, and not just for the weight loss....but because your body was meant to move....you will enjoy the benefits of endorphin release after an hour of hard exercise....and you will feel SOOOOO GOOD! (you might meet a real cutey at the gym, too....) This has been the best investment I have ever made, to hire a personal trainer, watch what I eat, and work out has made a very dark time in my life less painful and stressful....

I also have always loved this phrase, and I hope you can embrace it as well....

I never complained of the vicissitudes of fortune, nor suffered my face to be overcast at the revolution of the heavens, except once, when my feet were bare, and I had not the means of obtaining shoes. I came to the chief of Kfah in a state of much dejection, and saw there a man who had no feet. I returned thanks to God and acknowledged his mercies, and endured my want of shoes with patience, and exclaimed,

“Roast fowl to him that’s sated will seem less

Upon the board than leaves of garden cress.

While, in the sight of helpless poverty,

Boiled turnip will a roasted pullet be.”

~SADI, The Gulistan, or Rose Garden, trans. Edward B. Eastwick, chapter 3, story 19, p. 129 (1880).

blessings to you, crni

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Specializes in Infection Preventionist/ Occ Health.

The transition from school to a career, coupled with the stress of being a new nurse, is a lot for anyone to handle. If you feel like you are having a hard time coping and this has been going on for a while, it might not be a bad idea to go talk to someone. Does your employer have an employee assistance program? This might be a good place to start, since services are confidential and free. If your symptoms are severe and you feel that you might require medication, you should contact your physician as well (meds are no substitute for counseling as they say, so doing both would be best)

After being so caught up in school for so long, I found that it was difficult to settle in to "normal" life. It is more work to find groups and activities to join that jive with your interests. Have you considered joining a class at your local YMCA or pledging membership to a civic group? An activity such as one of these might serve as a social outlet, as well as a way to keep busy during your time off of work.

Good luck to you.

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Specializes in Med-Surg.

THANK YOU! I have so many dreams and goals for myself...I just need constant inspiration/motivation. It's nice to know that people do care about your well being in a holistic way.

Thanks again everyone.

Stop and take stock at how far you've come, how many dreams you've realized just by graduating and passing NCLEX.

Having goals means also accepting who we are, where are at today and saying "well, I may be overweight (my problem too).........(add all the other things we're down on ourselves about)...........but I accept and love myself exactly as I am, where I'm at. Now I can move forward."

Good luck!

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it sounds like you are more burnt out/exhausted, more than anything else.

there is nothing that quite compares to this feeling, when nsg school and nclex are complete.

i had to take a month off after finishing everything, before i even started feeling energetic enough to start working.

i would suggest that you take some "me time" for 1-2 wks.

once you feel somewhat rested, start any form of exercise.

get the old adrenalin pumping.

you have a lot going for you.

you just need to attain a level of wellness, where you can appreciate it, and move forward.

here's to new beginnings. :balloons:

leslie

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