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Has anyone ever had another student rag on them or get mad at them because you got a better mark then the rest of the class and they are mad at you because you knew what they didnt for a test and they want to know how you knew and you just paid attention and studied but that answer was not good enough for them? It happened to me for the past 2 days now and im really upset and i dont really know how to solve this problem, i cant just quit now because i graduate in june and am so close, i just dont see what it is to them that they all failed and i did not? Help please..... stressed PN student......:cry::crying2::bluecry1:

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Specializes in Endoscopy/MICU/SICU.

Are you kidding me? You're thinking about quitting over that? I'm sure it's frustrating and you probably feel like an outcast, but just keep your head down and get through the last two months! Who cares what they say! You did what you needed to do in order to do well on the test, and I wouldn't really worry about what the other students are saying. Two months to go, you can do it!!

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Specializes in OB/GYN, Peds, School Nurse, DD.

:twocents: You didn't do anything to them. This is THEIR problem, not yours. You did the reading, you took the notes, you studied your butt off, you deserve a high grade. Tell them to take it up with the instructor and then REFUSE to re-engage. They can argue all the want, but if you don't play the game they will be forced to give it up.

I have children and one of my most effective working techniques is the "broken record" response. It goes like this:

"Can I have $40?"

"No, you may not."

whining, "But I'm going to the mall with my friends, I need $40."

"No, I will not give you $40."

"I hate you, you're so mean. It's a measly $40! I know you have the money."

"No, I will not give you $40 (hear a trend?) This conversation is finished." And then you walk away.

Notice that at no time did I feel the need to explain myself, negotiate, or make excuses. This works with anyone, child or adult. That is, if you stick to the script. Keep repeating yourself and they eventually get so frustrated that they drop it.

The bottom line is you didn't do anything wrong. You're very close to graduating. Don't let this person keep you from accomplishing your dreams. Incidently, I had a similar conflict in nursing school, with a girl who was physically taller and heavier with me. She tried to intimidate me and was very competative. I just minded my business, graduated, and aced my boards. She failed her boards twice and ended up working in another field.

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It is happening to me now. I've been shunned from "the group" because I prefer to study alone and continue to make better marks than they do. Whatever. I don't have time to justify myself to anyone. I just do my thing and know that I will be a safe and competent nurse come December. Keep going! Chin up, buttercup. You've gotten this far, you can smile and make it another few months! Good luck!

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Specializes in ob/gyn med /surg.

you were going to quit because you passed? who gives a rats behind what your classmates think. you don't have to live with them , you just sit in class with them . they will be strangers in a few months and you'll never see the people again. hold your head up high and be happy you passed.

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Specializes in psych, addictions, hospice, education.

Plus, it's very unlikely that you'll ever see many, if any of them, ever again, after graduation!

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Has anyone ever had another student rag on them or get mad at them because you got a better mark then the rest of the class and they are mad at you because you knew what they didnt for a test and they want to know how you knew and you just paid attention and studied but that answer was not good enough for them? It happened to me for the past 2 days now and im really upset and i dont really know how to solve this problem, i cant just quit now because i graduate in june and am so close, i just dont see what it is to them that they all failed and i did not? Help please..... stressed PN student......:cry::crying2::bluecry1:

IMO...don't let anyone know your grades anymore. If asked just say yeah I did ok. Some people are better test takers than others. Just worry about finishing your classes and keep up the good work.

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IMO...don't let anyone know your grades anymore. If asked just say yeah I did ok. Some people are better test takers than others. Just worry about finishing your classes and keep up the good work.

I was going to suggest this as well. No one will know your grades unless YOU tell them. It's rude for people to ask you what you got anyway.

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OP, "the group" is usually who you don't want to be with. IMO they are the ones who hang with each other out of insecurity/incompetence. You excel, and that is what your future employers will want. Keep it up, girl. Remember, nursing is mainly gonna be a solitary thing... if you can do well on your own, all the better. Just think of your grades as insurance on your Masters degree, which, "the group" won't be able to qualify for... :cry: ...aint that just too bad for them, huh.

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now, no more of this, Okay?!

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Specializes in Psych..

Great posts from everyone, and I agree with them all.

It sucks being singled out. I'm sorry you're having a hard time. Don't quit. This may seem like something very important at the moment, but in just a few months, or even a few weeks, everyone will have moved on.

And there will be some new drama for "the group" to focus on.

Keep your head up, be proud of your grade, and don't be badgered into revealing any of your future grades!

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Thank you all for your encouragement and i do things just for myself from now on and well i thought i may want to fit in but really its easier to be alone and then im happy :nurse: thank you all future LPN:redbeathe

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