Published Nov 27, 2010
canesdukegirl, BSN, RN
1 Article; 2,543 Posts
I was cooking dinner for Thanksgiving on Thursday and saw an excerpt that was aired on ESPN. Chris Henry, a wide receiver for the Bengals had passed away after suffering injuries in an MVA. Because his mother decided to donate his organs, several people received a new lease on life. I had to put my mashed potato scooper down and had myself a good cry. Before you think I am a total wimp, I want to share my last Thanksgiving experience with you.
I had to work in the OR last Thanksgiving. Although I was bummed that I would not be having dinner with my husband, I went in and knew that we would only be doing emergency cases so I expected a relatively light working day. How wrong I was.
We were alerted that the ER had a patient that was DOA. I wish I could tell you more about the tragedy surrounding this event, but to do so would be walking on the wrong side of HIPAA. The family consented to organ donation and I set up the OR to do the harvest. I spent 15 grueling hours doing meticulous organ recovery. When we were done, I sent the staff out of the room. I sat beside the OR bed and looked at this poor young person. I picked up their lifeless hand and said a prayer for their soul, hoping that they would find peace. I shed several tears during this time.
After I felt more composed, I walked out of the room. I went to the OR front desk and saw the most beautiful thing. A soldier and his family were in pre-op. They were so excited because this brave man would be getting the life saving liver that I just helped recover. I couldn't help but get misty again. One life has ended and another was beginning.
I went home EXHAUSTED. My dear husband had dinner re-heated for me, but I could not eat. I was outside having some hot chocolate and heard the helicopter buzz over my house that carried my patient's other organs to another location. I just smiled. I spent that Thanksgiving doing what I love and in the process learned a very valuable lesson: to GIVE is precious. To be thankful is humbling. I witnessed both that day, and I will forever be honored to be a part of that.
Simply Complicated
1,100 Posts
My old fiance was murdered 6 years ago, and we donated his organs. I know nothing of who recieved them, but I love knowing that his tragedy was able to save so many other lives. It's a great gift to be able to give.
Nursing can be so frusturating and hard at times. I can just imagine how great it must feel to be able to say that you were a part of that. Reading posts like this are very refreshing. Thank you for sharing.
Simply-
Honey, I am so sorry for your loss. I can't even pretend to know what that is like, and any words of comfort would seem trite.
Organ recovery is such an emotional thing. On the one hand, I must keep my emotions in check while in surgery. On the other hand, I am weeping on the inside because most of our organ recoveries are resulting from tragedies. I just wanted to share my thoughts...and thank you for responding. :)
Batman25
686 Posts
That's such a beautiful post. Thank you for sharing. I would feel comforted knowing that my loved one was in such kind and caring hands at such a terrible time. Your post is also a reminder of how much we truly have to be thankful for this holiday season.
bridezillatobe
34 Posts
Thank you for your lovely post, it brought tears to my eyes. My cousin was blessed with a kidney donation 12 years ago. It is such a selfless and one of the kindest things one family can do for another.
I had to go to the er yesterday (I fractured my ankle) and while I was there someone was brought in from an MVA who was DOA. As we left I bowed my head, prayed for the family and the poor soul who died, and I also prayed that they would choose to donate the person's organs to help so many others out there.
Simply-Honey, I am so sorry for your loss. I can't even pretend to know what that is like, and any words of comfort would seem trite. Organ recovery is such an emotional thing. On the one hand, I must keep my emotions in check while in surgery. On the other hand, I am weeping on the inside because most of our organ recoveries are resulting from tragedies. I just wanted to share my thoughts...and thank you for responding. :)
Thank you. It was a very tough time. I've since married and have a daughter with my now husband, so while it still hurts, its not as bad.
I can imagine that would be a tough field to work in. On the one hand you know that it was someone's family member, but on the other hand, you know someone else is going to live because of it. I always look at it as atleast something good can come out of a bad situation!
Anisettes, BSN, RN
235 Posts
Thanks for sharing your story. I've been there. It's a haunting, humbling thing to be part of. One precious life goes out giving a last gift to others as it passes. Even in the darkest hour, there is grace.
dudette10, MSN, RN
3,530 Posts
Thank you for sharing the story. :redpinkhe
I could not have put it more eloquently had I enlisted the help of Shakespeare himself. Beautiful sentiment. Thank you for understanding, and for putting my own thoughts into a more pragmatic and honorable statement.
Neveranurseagain, RN
866 Posts
My late husband was an organ donor when he died, and the man who received his kidney had a baby this year with his girlfriend. They named the baby after my late husband, a wonderful gesture on their part.
SBarn
47 Posts
My nephew died in a MVA also. His liver and kidneys were donated. Time passed and my cousin became pregnant with twin boys about that were born 5 days short of the one year anniversary of JT's death. We were so thankful for healthy baby boys. Then, on March 31 of this year one of the twins died of SIDS. We were so angry and bitter toward God. Then one week later we received a letter from the family of the young boy who had received one of JT's kidneys. It was the restoration of faith we so desperately needed.
All of this to say, organ donation makes a difference for both the giving and receiving family. Please consider it for yourself or your loved one.
SmilesHeal101
116 Posts
Beautifully said...