I recently had a patient in the ED who did have a lot of pain from her 1mm kidney stone. Understandable. However, the drama and borderline traits exhibited by her and her husband were highly disruptive to the staff and surrounding patients in the ED especially as we had a crashing patient who went into septic shock with a BP in the 50s before our eyes. The patient and husband were highly disruptive because of the perception that we were ignoring the patient and not taking care of her needs. I called security and the police who escorted the husband and another visitor out of the ED. I did not approach the husband as he was making a scene. We were all afraid he would come back with a gun. I did go back to the patient to give her more pain medication. This didn't stop the high drama from the patient. Besides for yelling about the pain, the patient was yelling that we didn't check her labs or urine (we did). She was also upset that we did not offer her a tampon or pad after we did her pelvic exam because she was bleeding. We never offer pads and I have never heard such an angry outburst over a pad.
Is there a one liner that you have in your back pocket that will help the patient and or visitors recognize their childish behavior and that we will not help them if they continue with this behavior.
Would something like this work? (Of course have security officer with you)
To the husband: Mr So and So, I can see that you are very upset. However, nobody deserves to be spoken to the way you are speaking. The other patients are disturbed by your outburst. If you want to be helped, you need to calm down and stop yelling. Yelling will not get you help faster. The doctor is with a critical patient at this time. I cannot give your wife a third dose of pain medication until there is an order from the doctor. I will have the doctor come check on your wife as soon as she is available. Is there anything else I can help you with?
To the patient: I can see you are very upset and would like more pain medication. As soon as the doctor puts in an order for more medicine I will bring it to you. The doctor is with a very sick patient at this time. Would you like and ice pack or some warm blankets to help manage your pain until we get an order? I will ask the doctor for some more medicine as soon as she is available. Is there anything else I can help you with?