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Specializes in Hemodialysis, Home Health. Has 10 years experience.

Again. Another patient gone. :o

NM just emailed me... one of our patients didn't show for tx. yesterday, her DH called and said she wasn't feeling too well and didn't think she would make it in ... would be back Monday.

But she died at home before he could get her to the ER.

Oh, how sad it is. What a neat little woman she was ! I had tremendous respect and admiration for her... have known her now 6+ years... she had some other issues going on with her these past 2 years, and began developing some serious ascites... had to have fluid removed every few weeks...

No matter how sick she was, she always had a smile, always managed to find something to laugh about...

Now I'll miss her so..... and all the "little things"... her funny little knitted winter sox she used to pull on after removing her shoes... her little brown lace-up shoes... how I used to put them on for her at the end of tx., and tie them up for her... her yellow blanket... just her funny, sweet little ways.........

***SIGH***

God, this job really hurts sometimes. shakehead.gif

gwenith, BSN, RN

Specializes in ICU.

Jnette many years ago when I worked Dialysis I was told that the great thing about it was that the patients became your friends and that the worst thing about it was that your patients became your friends. (((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))

jnette, ASN, EMT-I

Specializes in Hemodialysis, Home Health. Has 10 years experience.

Originally posted by gwenith

Jnette many years ago when I worked Dialysis I was told that the great thing about it was that the patients became your friends and that the worst thing about it was that your patients became your friends. (((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))

Oh, so VERY true, Gwenyth. I wouldn't change it, either... not for a moment.

But how it DOES hurt when you lose them. So many years together... 3 X a week...so many memories... they become more than friends, they become family.

One of the very reasons I love this specialty.. I am able to give my all every time I see my patients... make them feel special.

Laugh and carry on with them just as you would with family, cry with them, hope with them.. hug and rejoice with them... listen to their stories, hopes and disappointments.

Heck, even grow old with them ! We have one fellow my age.. well, he's younger, really.. but we laugh all the time how we are 'growing old' together...;)

oh, but how deeply it hurts when you lose one... especially unexpected as this one was... and the last one.... * argh *

Jnette, thanks for sharing that with us. Hugs to you and thanks for sharing your memories with all of us. Leaves me to wonder if she left a family who will remember her also.

jnette, ASN, EMT-I

Specializes in Hemodialysis, Home Health. Has 10 years experience.

Originally posted by stressednurse

Leaves me to wonder if she left a family who will remember her also.

Her husband brought her in every morning, carried her bag with her yellow blanket, funny little sox.... he will miss her sorely.

As will our other patients... anytime one of them doesn't show for tx., they all inquire... they are a tightknit group. Come Monday morning, there will be a noticable quiet on the floor... she and the lady in the chair next to her had become quite good friends... it will be hard....

The patients just drew names to exchange gifts Christmas week...

now the one who drew her name will have to deal with this as well... :o

Thanx for allowing me to pour my heart out.

Tweety, BSN, RN

Specializes in Med-Surg, Trauma, Ortho, Neuro, Cardiac. Has 28 years experience.

((((jnette))))

Thanks, that is a nice closing for me.

I still think I need to hug you though, such a loss.

(((((((((((((((Jnette)))))))))))))),

I've been there and know how you feel.

renerian, BSN, RN

Specializes in MS Home Health.

I know it does hurt to lose a patient you really liked. You are compassionate to care about your clients.

Hugs,

renerian

ShelleyERgirl, LPN

Specializes in Oncology, Cardiology, ER, L/D. Has 20 years experience.

Jnette, my friend, I am so sorry for your loss. You are such a wonderful nurse and compassionate person, I know this has affected you deeply. I will be thinking of you and your patients. She sounds like a lovely person and I am sure she will be missed by all.

(((((((((((((((((jnette))))))):kiss

Warm hugs {{{Jnette}}}

live4today, RN

Specializes in Community Health Nurse.

((((((((((warm hugs for you jnette)))))))))) losing a patient that we have grown close to is always tough. the positive side of the loss is knowing you gave her the best of you as a nurse, and made her three trips to dialysis each week comfortable and filled with laughter. i will pray for the family. :kiss

SmilingBluEyes

Has 20 years experience.

(((((((((((((Jnette)))))))))))))))

sad sad sad. I am sorry!

dianah, ADN

Specializes in Cath Lab/Radiology. Has 45 years experience.

((((jnette)))) So sorry for your loss. You helped provide warmth, love, smiles and acceptance at her home-away-from-home. What gwenith said is SO TRUE. Bless you, and the woman's family/friends too.

bluesky, BSN, RN

Specializes in Critical Care, ER. Has 4 years experience.

((((((jnette))))))

((((((jnette's pt's dh))))))

I'm so glad she had a great gal like you to take care of her all these years.

perfectbluebuildings, BSN, RN

Specializes in Pediatrics.

(((jnette)))

it really hurts to lose one of your "special" ones... happened three weeks ago to me and you all were so supportive and it is still hard now... will be thinking of you and keeping you in my prayers. know that your compassion and sweetness probably made such a difference to this lady and to her husband. take care jnette, we love you.

jnette, ASN, EMT-I

Specializes in Hemodialysis, Home Health. Has 10 years experience.

Thank you all.

I know this will happen time and again, yet it is so good to have a place to come to and share... with ppl who have "been there" and can understand and relate. It feels good to release it and know it is going out to other compassionate hearts and not just lost in space somewhere.

Tomorrow morning will be difficult.. she was always one of the very first patients to arrive. Her chair will be so obviously empty...

she should BE there... but she won't. While she had other comorbidities, this was NOT expected... makes it so much harder.

Then comes the task of sharing the sad news with her fellow "dialysismates"..... always a sad time for all. Not only in grieving the loss of a friend but in having to confront their own vulnerability each time... as they silently wonder "will I be next" ?

On a more hopeful note, we do have a young gentleman who has been with us 8 mos. and has been arranging for a transplant. A woman in his church has a match, and all is now ready for the big day. He goes for his transplant on the 16th (day after tomorrow), so if any of you feel moved to lift him up in prayer, I know he would greatly appreciate it.

I would also add that he is a fellow RN. He had been doing PD for several years, but would always end up with peritonitis due to infections from the PD catheter and ended up having to come to us for hemo instead. He is very active, works out at the gym regularly and has everything yet to live for.

He would love to go back to bedside nursing, but due to his PD and then hemodialysis schedule, it was difficult for him to maintain his position at the hospital and went to work for a PT clininc in town which was more flexible.

So here's to HOPE and wishing him well !

Thanx again to all for listening... and caring. :kiss

Having worked an outpatient cardiac rehab program I can relate...we also became quite close...staff, patients, and family members. It was hard to lose one...hard for everybody in our little 'family'.

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