Nursing school with young kids

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by MNSS MNSS (New) New

Hello,

I will be starting nursing school Fall 2016. My kids will be 4.5 and 8.5. My husband travels a lot so I cannot depend on him. I am stressed out trying to come up with a plan for my kids. I know I cant drop them at 6 am or earlier at a day care . So my next best option would be to hire a nanny who came 5 days a week from 6 am to 6 pm or then hire a full time live in nanny. But I dont know how to find a good and reliable one whom I can trust with my kids. I plan on doing BSN nursing which is 2 years so I have to be at class for4 days a week.

I so badly want to do nursing and dont feel like quitting now. I have only A& P 2 left to take but the class timings are just not suitable to me right now so I decided to take A & P 2 in Spring 2016 and apply for fall 2016.

Please tell me how should I go about the nanny option.

Thanks so much for you advice and support.

Atl-Murse

Atl-Murse

Has 1 years experience. 474 Posts

You have about 2 years to figure that part out, use your brain cells to get an A in class to even make it to nursing school, first things first

scjaguar

scjaguar

5 Posts

I'm starting nursing school this fall with 2 young kids. My husband's job makes him unreliable also so I know how you feel. I don't live near any family and I feel much more comfortable knowing my children will be at a daycare vs hiring a stranger to watch them. With that said, I had to get a little creative. Is it possible to have a family member stay with you during the days you have class? Could you take your kids to a friend or trustworthy neighbor's house and let them drop your children off at daycare? It's never too early I start thinking of a childcare plan. I hope it all works out for you.

TooManyCats

TooManyCats, ASN, BSN

Specializes in Critical Care. Has 5 years experience. 80 Posts

I'm in a similar boat. I have a 3 year old and 5 year old AND one on the way, and we utilize school for the older kids, with a nanny in the mornings if I have school before I can drop them off (7am is the earliest I can drop them), and an after school program. Then for days my littlest doesn't have preschool and for the upcoming baby, we'll be using the nanny all day. We got her through care.com, they did the background check and all we had to do was submit our needs.

scjaguar

scjaguar

5 Posts

How extensive was the background check on care.com? When I read reviews about the site, someone said that the caregivers pretty much are able to put whatever they want for their background check. That turned me off from using them, however, that could have just been a dissatisfied customer. I'm interested in hearing your experience

MNSS

MNSS

6 Posts

Thanks you all for your advice. I dont have family in the same state and the others won't be able to come help me either. So it is pretty much me and the kids since my husband travels. I have no idea how much is the cost of hiring a nanny. I have heard good and bad things about care.com and sittercity.com

MNSS

MNSS

6 Posts

Yes You are right. I have just 1 class left and I have to try and make a really good score on the teas.

MNSS

MNSS

6 Posts

I have no family who would be able to come help me. As far as my friends, they all work. They could help me if they didnt work but even then they would be able to help me only for 1 day if my nanny didnt show up. But on a daily basis no one is available among my friends to help me. But I dont want to quit now and not apply to nursing school. Its so hard when you have a travelling husband...I am practically a single mom running the show.

NurseGirl525, ASN, RN

Specializes in ICU. 3,663 Posts

I'm a single mom. My son is 9. I'm going to tell you it's not easy. I have no family out here. I am fortunate that my ex-husband owns his own business and can take my son for me most of the time. But there are times that at the last minute he cancels because he has a big job somewhere or something comes up. Then I am stuck at the last minute and I cannot miss. Plus, remember to plan for 2 hour delays and for snow days. Those definitely come up at the last minute and college does not close. I have some friends that help me. I have an awesome boyfriend who also owns his own business and can leave at the drop of a hat to help.

You do need to get a support system in place now. That part is critical in getting through nursing school. My clinical rotation now, I have to be at the hospital at 6:30am. My son's school does not open until 7. So my schedule had to get thoroughly rearranged. I have days I can't be there to pick him up from school and take him to practice. I had to learn to rely on other people. And my school does not like to hear excuses especially when it comes to clinical. You go when they tell you. I'm just telling you to prep now. It's important.

Nurse SMS, MSN, RN

Specializes in Critical Care; Cardiac; Professional Development. Has 11 years experience. 2 Articles; 6,837 Posts

I would suggest a live-in nanny if you can afford it. State licensing requirements are not flexible when it comes to how many hours of classroom and clinical instruction you must have to be qualified to sit for the licensing exam (NCLEX). Therefore the school will be completely inflexible about tardies and absences, as they are judged by what percentage of their students sit for and pass NCLEX. This has caused many students to fail out, often in situations that seem very pitiable. A live-in nanny sounds like your best bet for when your kids get sick while you are in school, which they will. Their issues will not be "excused" absences. Your next bet is going to be a nanny that doesn't live with you. You need to make it clear to whomever you hire that sick care is part of the job, as are occasional extended hours. You will only have actual class for three to four days a week, but so much of nursing school occurs outside of class. Group projects. Mandatory community service projects. Care plans that have to be done AFTER clinicals take place and turned in the next day. Nursing school is full time and very intense.

As far as finding someone, you only have the resources you have. I would suggest rather than waiting until your classes start you hire someone to start a month or two before you start nursing school, so that you can get a feel for them and start building trust and, if necessary, give you time to find someone else if that one isn't going to work. Recognize nobody is going to seem "good enough" for your kids to you and you will have to loosen the controls a bit.

Best of luck. It won't be easy but others have done it.

Seaofclouds, BSN, RN

Specializes in CCRN. 188 Posts

Have you looked to see if your school has a child care program? My school did for the childhood/early education majors. They ran an on-campus daycare with flexible hours. It had quite a waiting list. Even if you manage to find a daycare, you will need additional support to help with the times when the kids can't go to daycare, so a nanny would most likely be a better option. Good luck figuring out a plan. I know it's tough getting through nursing school with little children.

SaraAN

SaraAN

24 Posts

We've used care.com in the past with great luck. Start 2-3 months early so you can interview several nannies and have them come out for a few hours to get to know the kids.