Quote from firetopaz
I have a young child started school this year. I work 12 hours shift days- so the 12 hours turn into getting home at 10 pm sometimes- then picking her up at the babysitters. I try not to work three in a row for this reason- that would be three night in a row where she is getting to bed late than waking up at 6 am to be dropped off again at the babysitters to do it all over again. I have had my current job for 15 years- but have seriously thought about looking for another with short hours in the evening for this reason. I am tired of the fact that I am the only one responsible for her and the only single mom on the floor not being taken into consideration when the schedule is out. Instead of me complaining, I just do what is left on the schedule. The one who does the most complaining is the one young 21 year old without children without school committments. how do other single moms work such late hours? Does it ever make you upset that nursing jobs do not take into consideration single parents?
My regrets that this is difficult for you. Hopefully it you can work something out with your current situation or find a better one for you and your child's needs.
However, you being a single mother has nothing to do with what goes on with the schedule. It does not entitle you to special privileges over those "young 21 year olds without children and without school commitments". Blunt as this may sound, you chose parenthood and chose to keep your child, no matter how you ended up single and a parent. And while it is a hard road, you chose this life for its advantages and benefits, but have to deal with the disadvantages that come with.
Those "21 year olds" have made choices - they have chosen to focus on career first, instead of early sex/parenthood. They do not come home to a beautiful child, but they also have more freedom. Or they are childless because they cannot have children, in some cases.
You need to be more assertive in voicing your needs regarding the schedule. But it is in your best interest not to use the "childless 21 year olds" as leverage.....they have their own priorities that are just as important as yours.
As far as nursing not taking single parenthood into consideration, I know of very few careers that take parenthood into consideration. This is not unique to nursing. But nurses are one of the few groups that consistantly expect special consideration for parenthood.... considering that I as a single woman is expected to give up all celebration of major holidays, ..."because I don't have children"...and have to work for the parents to be off.