Did being unattractive hurt your career? - page 6

While I'm not trying to be a troll, I sometimes feel that for me, that may be true. It's not my weight, it's my face mostly. I have had coworkers and pts complain about my face, saying I looked... Read More

  1. by   Satori77
    I'm guessing I have that face too. I'm told I have a nice smile, but I am just not one of those people that can plaster a smile on my face 24/7. And honestly, I wonder about people who do. Now when I pass someone in the hall to say hi, I always smile. But just all the time? No. And I do get the "Are you mad?" "Are you tired?" Type comments all the time. No, it's JUST MY FACE! It is aggravating sometimes. I am a pretty friendly person, shy at first maybe, but I always go out of my way to be nice to people, to be helpful. So when I hear that a friend says they were intimidated by me when they first met me because they thought I looked like a ****, it is a little hurtful. But I can't do anything to change how I look. I still try to be polite, friendly and helpful. Knowing that when people actually get to know me, they realize I am a nice person.

    And honestly, I would rather be that than the person with the phony smile all the time that is nasty behind your back.
    Last edit by Esme12 on Sep 5, '13 : Reason: TOS
  2. by   Satori77
    Quote from HeatherGurl84
    i have trouble with people thinking I am under 18 years old......they always ask me "Are you sure you know what you're doing?" I may appreciate looking younger someday, but just not at the moment
    Yep, I get this all the time too. I think it is more frustrating than the angry face comments. I am almost 36 years old, and many people still think I am a early 20's, or even a teenager! You should hear some of the comments I get when people realize I have a 10 year old daughter. (Were you 12 when you had her? I mean, seriously, how rude!).

    Everyone says I will appreciate it when I am older. And I bet when I am 50 and look 30 (God willing), it will be lovely. But right now, it is hard for people to take me seriously.
  3. by   Been there,done that

    Being beautiful didn't help in the slightest, either.
  4. by   smartnurse1982
    Thanks to all who responded.
    I didnt realize this was pretty common.

    I will try to smile more,but its hard,esp working with children that probably wont make it to adulthood.
  5. by   smartnurse1982
    Not sure why the grammar police are on Allnurses.

    im on a tablet,so forgive the typos.
  6. by   rntravlon
    I get asked all the time-"are you tired,you look tired"-Now I just say Nah need an eye lift , want to donate?
  7. by   RainMom
    When I start getting the "you look tired" comment more frequently, I know it's time for a haircut. My hair is thin & the longer I let it grow, the more drained I look. I also tend to squint; hubby's often asking what I'm *** off about this time when I'm perfectly content.