For me, taking our responsibilities to each other to another level, would be indicative of the growth, maturity, and professionalism. Respectful mentoring, support, and constructive criticism are the hallmarks of professionals. I read this past week in the New Grad Forum, of a nurse who admitted to being ashamed of neglecting to help a seizing patient. We could debate all day about what she should have done, what could have happened to that patient, why she left him...Nurses replying to that post did ask and address all of that. And she was given useful advice for that situation as well as for coming clean with it. I applaud the efforts of those who attempted to instruct, and support her. However, I had to shake my head in dismay at the need for some nurses to further shame her. We are long overdue for a change in that model of commication. It is not OK to tell another nurse that she should be deeply ashamed. Even in a supervisory role, this would not be acceptable. Experienced nurses answering a New Grad Support Forum should not be talking down to anyone. Stating your opinion that the new grad's inaction might be considered neglect is alot different from telling her that you would never trust someone like her again. While that might be true for you, communicating in such a way is disrespectful, not useful, and cruel. That we can tolerate that kind of behavior towards any nurse, but in particular to someone who already was distressed, disgraces all of us. We have to stop
and think about how we are treating each other. How many new grads will be willing to come clean if they have made a serious mistake, knowing that they
may be castigated so severely. Correct the behavior, mentor, stop shaming people because when you do it, it then becomes all about you and your needs, not the other persons.