Nurses are Pathetic!!

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I have been reading thread after thread on this forum and I have come to one conclusion. We are all a pathetic bunch. We take abuse that most other human beings would not put up with. We are physically, mentally and emotionally abused by doctors, managers, patients, and families. We work ungodly hours, skip our much needed breaks without pay for months and years on end. And this goes on and on and on. The stories are endless. Then we are all shocked when a nurse who has had enough finally cracks and administers 32 vials of Dilantin and kills a patient. Is this so different than any other human being who finally after years and years of this abuse, just cannot take it anymore? I think not. When are we all going to stand up and demand decent pay, decent working conditions, and respect? Well, the answer is never because we are not a solid group. We have no autonomy or solidarity because we are a weak profession. We pit one against another. We ***** and backstab. We deserve all the abuse that is dealt to us. In nursing school, we are taught to make beds, empty bedpans and clean dentures. Instead we should get vast lessons in how to deal with some of the real issues that face us today. We are understaffed, overworked, pushed to the breaking point. But yet, the martyr instinct kicks in, we get up and go back and endure more of the same. When is enough, enough? When are we all going to come together and and start shouting about our working conditions and wages? We make less than a crew on road construction or a plumber. And look what we do. We are responsible for peoples lives. I went to work down the road as my current employer is union and I felt that maybe the non union hospital down the road would be a better place. Well, it is not, it is worse. 13 nurses have quit in the 6 weeks I have worked there. I won't renew my contract. It is just too unsafe. The hospital is all about profit at the expense of some great nurses. They even charge for an individual bandaid. It is ridiculous. I have decided that as soon as I can afford to, I'm getting out. I will no longer be a member of a profession that eats its young while at the same time, taking unwarrented abuse from unapreciative doctors that we bend over backwards for. Its not about making a living any more, it is about retaining some self respect, free of abuse by doctors, managers and other nurses who have nothing better to do than put a knife in your back the minute you turn around. At least at walmart I won't have to worry about making a life threatening mistake because I'm overwhelmed by what is required of me each day.

Specializes in CRNA, Finally retired.

Brainyheart: Love your moniker - it sums up a lot. You are very eloquent and demonstrate both affection and useful criticism towards the occupational dysfunctions of nursing. I hope you end up in a position advocating for a large group of us since so many nurses are unable to advocate for themselves. I, too, have never experienced some of the horror stories I read on this post BUT, I believe that these things happen to women (less so than men) in EVERY kind of occupation and we're being very shortsighted to think that bad things happen because we're nurses. Bad things happen because we allow them. Some people just have the skills of making comebacks and we all not so razor quick with the witticisms, but we certainly can learn to react effectively but to do so means that we can't be consumed by our emotions. Emotions get us nowhere. Again your posts are very helpful.

Please don't attempt to speak for all nurses by using the 'we' statements.

My exact thoughts!!! Not everyone feels the same. Some complain and some don't!!!

Specializes in Certified Wound Care Nurse.

I can understand how the OP might be feeling/felt... In fact, I've taken such emotions and turned them on myself during my brief career in nursing - such that I am the one that at the end of the day - or even first thing in the morning - that has felt "pathetic"...

As a career changer, I have to say that I've never encountered the kind of disrespect that I've encountered while in nursing. For a profession that is built upon caring, it surprises me to see this type of thing occur. Suzanne Gordon's books discuss this very thing - the oppressed taking it out on each other - these types of situations being part of a larger systemic issue - one that needs to be addressed soon - as the need for nurses increases over the next several years.

Yes, solidarity might help, but can that ever happen? If it can, then why hasn't it worked before now? Even now - with all the posts I've read on this site - this is nothing new. Many of the posts I read (including my own) say the same thing over and over - for me - somehow I hope that if I vent enough, *I'll* change enough to endure the ridicule, criticism regarding my intellect and sometimes the criticisms attacking me as a person... to a place where it can all roll off my back - and never affect me... and yet, if it were my child, sister, mother or father telling me that s/he were being treated this way, I'd regard it as dysfunctional and the definition of insanity - and advise him/her to leave the situation immediately.

For me, this is an edited post... I originally succumbed to writing about my awful day at work but instead realized that by me venting, I'm only contributing to the problem. As far as the OP's post - I regard it as I would a pt's vent - as a signal that something is going on - someone/something needing attention, not ridicule or scolding - an indication of someone in pain and in need of a nurse.

Shawna

Listen... We're all human and I can understand where you're coming from and your frustrations but I'm going to be blunt: You are naive. You can not sit there and complain about solidarity when you fail to realize how much progress the nursing profession has made over the years. It's not perfect, but nothing is. The ONLY thing I see that is pathetic is just quiting and contributing to the problem and not proposing any solutions. It's self-defeating and demoralizing. Sweeping generalizations are never the way to go. I think anyone that DOES put up with the abuse that some (not all) nurses due, is a strong very dedicated person. Do some of us break down? Sure... but you don't see a whole bunch of Nurse Ratchets running around. It takes a very special kind of person to do the job that nurses do (I'm not speaking for myself because I am still a student) and I may be naive in my own right, but at least I'm trying. You face diversity, you don't run away from it then call everyone else around you that continues to fight 'pathetic'. I'm sorry for the flame, but it hit a nerve.

It has been nearly two years since I wrote this post and obviously struck a nerve with many nurses and at the same time, many others could relate to my frustration with our profession at the time. In that two years, much has changed for me. I am still working in the same job and even though the problems have not changed, I have. I no longer view us as a pathetic bunch. We are a great profession and have made much progress in the past many years but we do have a ways to go and I doubt it will be where we want it to be by the time I retire in 5 years. I became more active in my union organization. I became a true advocate of safety for my patients. I no longer put up with any abuse from a doctor or anyone else. And man, have things changed for me. I have learned so much and I appreciate everything that was posted here even though some of it was painful for me to read. But this is the start of a very positive position in this profession for me. I only have 5 years left and it will be the best five years of my profession. So here are some ways that any of you can improve how you are feeling about your job. Speak up, don't allow a patient to get in an unsafe situation, go to your manager, if they don't listen, start climbing the chain of command, go to your union if you have to. Don't compromise your licence or the safety of your patient for anything. Don't take abuse from anyone, doctors, managers, administraton, coworkers, or patients. Pull them aside, right away and settle it. You will not be the most popular person on the unit, but you will be one of the more respected members. I finally realized that I was not at work to be popular and make friends but I have made many as a result of being forward, talking to people, and not back stabbing my co workers. I plan on being in this profession for another 5 years and then I'm gonna be a stay at home wife, something I have been wanting to do for years. Again, I want to thank everyone for their comments. I guess I just had to unleash all the frustration I felt at the time.

It has been nearly two years since I wrote this post and obviously struck a nerve with many nurses and at the same time, many others could relate to my frustration with our profession at the time. In that two years, much has changed for me. I am still working in the same job and even though the problems have not changed, I have. I no longer view us as a pathetic bunch. We are a great profession and have made much progress in the past many years but we do have a ways to go and I doubt it will be where we want it to be by the time I retire in 5 years. I became more active in my union organization. I became a true advocate of safety for my patients. I no longer put up with any abuse from a doctor or anyone else. And man, have things changed for me. I have learned so much and I appreciate everything that was posted here even though some of it was painful for me to read. But this is the start of a very positive position in this profession for me. I only have 5 years left and it will be the best five years of my profession. So here are some ways that any of you can improve how you are feeling about your job. Speak up, don't allow a patient to get in an unsafe situation, go to your manager, if they don't listen, start climbing the chain of command, go to your union if you have to. Don't compromise your licence or the safety of your patient for anything. Don't take abuse from anyone, doctors, managers, administraton, coworkers, or patients. Pull them aside, right away and settle it. You will not be the most popular person on the unit, but you will be one of the more respected members. I finally realized that I was not at work to be popular and make friends but I have made many as a result of being forward, talking to people, and not back stabbing my co workers. I plan on being in this profession for another 5 years and then I'm gonna be a stay at home wife, something I have been wanting to do for years. Again, I want to thank everyone for their comments. I guess I just had to unleash all the frustration I felt at the time.

I'm delighted that you stayed, that you learned to start fighting the good fight, that you are learning to stand up for yourself and for your patients. That's the spirit, Girl!

i agree i think nurse are a bunch of backstabbing *******

Specializes in Rodeo Nursing (Neuro).

Thanks, Lorster, for the update. I'm glad you're feeling better.

I'm only 16 years, 7 months, and 12 days from retirement, myself. Fortunately, I love my stupid job. Sometimes I even forget to play the Lotto.

Specializes in Med-Surg, Trauma, Ortho, Neuro, Cardiac.

Glad to hear you've stuck it out and am finding some semblence of peace of mind.

fighting the good fight

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