Calling all you nurturing, sensitive, caring, and extremely empathetic nurses out there - I need some advice!!
I have some nurses in my family, and also one who is currently in LPN school. I thought since I am interested in becoming a nurse, that I can go to them for advice, questions that I have, and even buy some used books/equipment off of them. So I thought. Every time I ask questions, they give me short answers, leaving me to just do the research on my own anyway. In addition, when I ask for advice, they give me generic "you'll do great!", or "good luck in school!" responses - nothing too detailed or indepth, which makes my asking the question a total waste of time. Also, I've asked my mother-in-law for help on obtaining volunteer positions, and used books (I offered to buy them - not get them for free). Both times, I got a nice response "Sure, I'll help". Nothing came of it. I asked a few times later, and still nothing...eventually I just forgot about it, and said they do not want to help.
I am a totally different type of person. I love helping others, and go out of my way to do research for others. Why am I not getting this in return? Should I feel angry about this, or should I just ignore it? I know I am very sensitive, but I am honestly getting more advice and assistance from you wonderful nurses than I am my own family. That kind of makes me question some things.
Lastly, does anyone think they are not assisting me, because they had to do things on their own? Even so, what happened to the term "pay it forward"? It's not like I'm going to steal their jobs away - one of them is in california, and the other has been a nurse for over 21 years - there is no way that I could even compete with them. I was told to ask for help whenever you need it. But what should I do, when no one helps?? For the past few days I have been feeling lost and completely alone - and it's not because I don't ask for help - it's because when I do ask for help, no one seems to give 2 cents about me. I feel like saying "screw you - and thanks for nothing!" - but I know that is not going to help.
:-(