Nurses eat anybody young old and indifferent

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I often read on allnurses about Nurses eating their young but the older I get, the more experienced I get, the more I know Nurses do not eat their young they eat anybody and anything that gets in their way.

They have no time or consideration for whether they are morally right or wrong, they do not care who gets hurt in the consequences they are on a mission.

These "nurses" are not just male or female they are the ultimate perfect product they make no mistake themselves they have no sex, no race, no color, no religion, no morals they are not doing it most of the time because they care about their patients they are doing it simply because in they are attempting to make themselves look Good, and everybody else look bad.

God help you if you have a bad day, your feeling unwell, your workload is so intense that you have difficulty priortising. This is when they feed on you almost like a vulture waiting and hovering to attack it;s prey, almost lulling you into a false sense of security.

We worry about the ones who are nasty to us, who we know are watching everystep making our fingers shake in case we do something wrong with a procedure we can do with our eyes closed.

In reality we shoudl be worrying about the ones who smile in our face, who understand our problems but are waiting in the background to stab us hard in the back to make the vultures job so much easier.

Bitter I hear you all thinking as you read this, no not bitter just somebody who has had her eyes opened, somebody who considered herself to be a a good nurse, somebody who has never been written up, somebody who has never written up another nurse yet somebody who is working in a hostile environment watching it happen to others around her on a daily bases and somebody who knows it is only a matter of time before it happens to her

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Specializes in ICU/Critical Care.
MichiganRN,

When I read about the petty stuff you've dealt with, my coffee nearly came out my nose! I have worked with that person, I swear!

After taking a communications class where I got lots of practice, I forced myself not to react with a smart remark, but look her in the eye, perhaps with a dramatic pause, repeat what she said, and then agree, sort of. "Wow, a med error could occur if the old room number was on the MAR and the RN didn't check the name stamp and armband? It's great that you caught that." "You are saying that someone should look up what has occurred during their entire hospital stay? It's time for me to leave, so that falls to you." "Why, yes, that page is full. You will definitely need a new one."

I have to remind myself constantly that I will not lower myself to that level.:nono:

If you want to have a discussion about my work habits it will be with the manager present and when I am well rested, not at the end of a 12 hour shift.

Snarky begets snarky.

Well, that happened last year but I did stand my ground and basically explained nursing 101 to her that you don't look at that patient's room number when passing meds, you look at their name and medical record number and I topped it off with "You know what, Patty, every time you come in something is always wrong"

I mean it was so petty because we had to fill in our patients on a report sheet that got copied for all the RNs and NAs and one patient had two different activity orders. We also print out a kardex sheet for each shift and it has the patient's activity order on it. She said "you know you put the wrong activity level on the report sheet. It says the patient is up to chair and on the kardex says up to chair and ambulate in hallway"....I couldn't control myself then and just went off on her "What difference does it make? Do you want report on the patient or not?" She backed down.

my boyfriend, an ICU nurse, had a rough time at work the other day. I was just asking him how his day went when he chewed my head off... at that point, I was like.."whoa, we really have no immunity..nurses eat whoever ticks them off...even if you love them..)

God help me to be more patient and understanding..

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Specializes in ER,ICU,L+D,OR.
They certainly eat interns! I'm a former nurse turned doctor, and while I realize I'm "just an intern," and that nurses can be rude to me without fear of any consequence whatsoever, why are you?! Ok, I realize it's not all of nurses because a lot are AWESOME! Smart, funny, hard working....and even nicer when they learn I used to be a nurse. I'm talking about the ones who have been mean since day one. I suppose when I was a nurse, there was a certain anti-doctor vibe, but I didn't pick up on it as strongly until I was on the outside. I find myself expending so much energy sucking up to the nurses and trying to be ultranice, helpful, and quickly and nicely respond to all pages. (And yes, some pages are really annoying, like a call for iron supplements at 2 AM on a patient I'm cross-covering, but I really try not to let on to the fact that I am annoyed.)

Anyway, just wanted to speak for the doctor (in training) wing....some nurses are super mean to us too! And don't even get me started on how mean they are to medical students.....

Med students, interns, residents. They are fair game for all of us to harass. Actually, I really looked on that as one of the perks of the job.

Specializes in Rodeo Nursing (Neuro).
I love being a nurse.

Well, see, there's your whole problem.

If you didn't care, you could just show up, make everyone around you unhappy, collect your pay and go home.

once i had a job that i was happy to go to work the don was bearable and the nasty nurse that was there when i went to work had moved on somewhere else -

so i went out and bought a car and had a big car payment but i was comfortable in the job and what could go wrong

b a n g

the administrator lost his job [due to the don] then she lost her job due to the administrator and the adon and then they started to look around for someone else to snack on

job went from pleasant to unbearable in the matter of a couple of weeks

stepped out into the cold cruel world scared to death and got another job that i was happy in..moving on is sometimes the best thing that you can do

sorry about the closure

Med students, interns, residents. They are fair game for all of us to harass. Actually, I really looked on that as one of the perks of the job.

Of course you do. You must work at the same hospital as me. Maybe you're the one who wouldn't shake my hand when I introduced myself to you on my first day?

Or perhaps you mean "harass" in a good natured, teasing, sort of way, in which case, bring it. But probably not.

Specializes in Rodeo Nursing (Neuro).
Of course you do. You must work at the same hospital as me. Maybe you're the one who wouldn't shake my hand when I introduced myself to you on my first day?

Or perhaps you mean "harass" in a good natured, teasing, sort of way, in which case, bring it. But probably not.

I haven't witnessed nurses "eating" docs at my facility, but I recently had to do some peer evaluations, and this year's was more detailed than they were in the past. One question had to do with whether the nurse was too respectful or too friendly with doctors. I had to read it a couple of times, but I guess it makes sense. We do need to be independent enough to advocate for our patients.

I suppose if I had been scoring myself, I might give myself less than perfect marks on that question. I have occassionally defered to a doctor's judgement when we didn't entirely agree. Part of the problem is, I can usually see the doctor's rationale, even when I'm not really satisfied with the conclusion.

I do appreciate your distinction between the bad behaviour of some nurses and the hard work and dedication of most. And I have to say, just about all of the doctor's I've dealt with have been collegial toward the nurses and caring toward the patients.

I haven't witnessed nurses "eating" docs at my facility, but I recently had to do some peer evaluations, and this year's was more detailed than they were in the past. One question had to do with whether the nurse was too respectful or too friendly with doctors. I had to read it a couple of times, but I guess it makes sense. We do need to be independent enough to advocate for our patients.

I suppose if I had been scoring myself, I might give myself less than perfect marks on that question. I have occassionally defered to a doctor's judgement when we didn't entirely agree. Part of the problem is, I can usually see the doctor's rationale, even when I'm not really satisfied with the conclusion.

I do appreciate your distinction between the bad behaviour of some nurses and the hard work and dedication of most. And I have to say, just about all of the doctor's I've dealt with have been collegial toward the nurses and caring toward the patients.

That's an interesting question...and interesting choice of adjectives! Too respectful or too friendly....as in those two things were two extremes? Like you can't be both respectful and friendly? Or that they were the same end of the spectrum, as in being both too friendly and too respectful? I feel like either way it's kind of problematic, since it seems to imply that to disagree is either unfriendly or disrepectful (or both).

Disagreeing is another interesting point...I feel sometimes I can't win on this issue (and I'd imagine you'd feel the same). For example, sometimes when I ask the nurse what s/he thinks about a situation, or what s/he usually does in a similar situation in the past, most of the time, they tell me what they think and what's usually done, and I usualy do what they think. Of course I think about it first and make sure it makes sense to me, but most of the time, they're right and it's what I should be doing. However, sometimes when I ask what they think we should do, I'm answered with a snappy, "I don't know, YOU'RE the doctor!" Which is obviously true, but I think we all know that while the nurses didn't go to medical school, they've had a lot of experience and often DO know what to do, or at least can help you figure it out.

And the reverse is sometimes true, too, albeit less often...sometimes the nurse will call and want to do one thing, and I really disagree with it for one reason or another, so we talk about it, and usually, the nurse is like, "oh yea, that makes sense, was thinking about that differently," or whatever. (Believe me, I almost never do something the nurse doesn't agree with after discussing it, unless I am really, really ,really sure I am right and have discussed it with my senior, and even then, I continue to try to explain WHY we're doing it that way.) But sometimes, I go to start explaining why I'm thinking we should do something, and mid-sentence, I get cut off and the nurse says, "do what you want, I don't know I'm just a NURSE" and then likely goes and talks trash about you to the other nurses.

It's very strange to me, and sometimes I feel as though I can't win. It seems that the very same people who refuse to be helpful and work through a problem with you are the same ones, when you try to correct them, get upset that you're disreguarding their opinion. This is definitely a minority, and perhaps they're the ones that the other nurses have trouble with too (I know there was a group of them in the hospital I used to work in). Or perhaps the nurses who I ask their opinion give it to me, then are secretly bad-mouthing me behind my back? Similarly, maybe the ones that eventually SAY they see my point and agree that's what they should do are really only doing it to get me off the phone or out of the unit so they can say what a jerk I am?

Anyway, sorry for the long post...your point was interesting, though. And it's really interesting having been both a nurse and a doctor and seeing the other group's perspective. Anyhow, my soup is getting cold--lunch time!

Specializes in RN, BSN, CHDN.

My co-worker had just phoned me on my day off to say new policy for our floor alone. doc's dont think we are assessing the pts correctly and that they want us to all be assessed doing head to toe assessments and then checked off as suitable.

Specializes in ICU/Critical Care.

Wow, that would tick me off.

Specializes in Trauma ICU, Surgical ICU, Medical ICU.

That'd be great, if you have awake pts they'll REALLY be worried you dont know what you're doing if you can't do a simple assessment.

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