leaving my job gave a 2 weeks manager very rude.

  1. I am an RN and just got hired onto a new facility. I have been driving 50 miles one way to work and wanted to find a hospital to work at closer to my home, which I did. I turned in my notice I asked for my last shift to be 1 week and 6 days from then (6 full 12 hour shifts). Well, my manager wanted to have a meeting with me this past week and it was very uncomfortable for me. All she said was how disappointed she was in me for leaving the company. She had nothing nice to say to me at all, no thank you or you've done a good job or good luck in the future.

    Nothing!! When she asked me why I was resigning, in the middle of me explaining why, she cut me off. I pretty much had no talk time or say in this meeting. Well at the end of it she guilt tripped me into working an extra day. After I got home and everything sank in, I'm extremely mad for agreeing to work that extra shift, especially after the way she treated me. I start my new job the week after thanksgiving and I still have a lot to do before the holiday so that I can be prepared to start that next Monday. The only free days I have to do these things is this Friday, and what would have been a day off next Tuesday, but now I have agreed to work. I don't think it will all get done in one day.

    What should I do? Tell her I can't work? Will this hurt me in the future, she is already really mad and I doubt that she would ever give me a good reference. I NEVER plan to work for this hospital again, and since I was there for less than a year I forfeit my paid time off to be cashed out. HELP!!! Advice needed.
    Last edit by NRSKarenRN on Nov 14, '12
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  3. by   Seas
    If she was that rude to me, yes, I would call back and apologize and tell that things happened, and I am not able to work.
    This is me though. If someone treats me bad, they will get it right back at them.
    But what you mean by rude is what matters. Yes, it isn't nice that she didn't talk anything good. If your leave will make the facility short staffed, I see she may get disappointed and frustrated. But how rude exactly are we talking about here? Did she do more than this?
  4. by   SweettartRN
    This is why I never give two weeks notice. When I am done at an organization I hand in my things, and say goodbye. There is no need in an at-will state to give notice. And I am certainly not going to be guilt tripped like this. Lesson learned. Or, at this point, leave. You have nothing to lose, and you're not going to work there ever again.

    Others will tell you "don't burn bridges" but I disagree. At-will employment is not set up to ONLY benefit the employer.
  5. by   RNperdiem
    I hope this does not come across as harsh, it is honestly not meant that way. Why would you expect niceness?
    Was she outright insulting or just very frosty?
    I would be expecting frosty if a hire of less than a year quits right before or in the middle of the holiday schedule.
  6. by   bubblejet50
    I had a boss when I worked as an LPN that the day I put my 2 weeks in decided I should work as an aide the last two weeks. I am not above this by any means but there were two reasons this was a definite no-go. 1-the aide hours did not work with my schedule. 2-she scheduled me on the floor that has one aide and absolutely no training. I saw this change on the schedule and wrote her a lovely letter saying thanks but no thanks and took that two weeks as a nice vacation. I also forfeited my pto but I never looked back. She was giving me bad references before I left anyways because she disliked working the floor and she was going to be short staffed.
  7. by   Flare
    I wouldn't dwell upon it too much. Do your time, make sure you cross you t's and dot your I's, and keep a low profile. She's probably more ticked off that she needs to find another nurse and miffed about the timing, like RNperdiem said, holidays are an awful time to find a new nurse, have to orient train and precept. If you agreed to work the extra shift, then stick to your commitments and work, but there is no harm in requesting a cancel shift if one becomes available for that day, or making a few phone calls to see if one of your colleagues wants to pick up that shift from you.
  8. by   P B and J
    The only thing no one addressed was the PTO... Since you can't cash it out, can't you use some of it before you go to get some of that time you need?
  9. by   TakeTwoAspirin
    You may never want to work at this place again, but you will have to depend on them for a reference at some point or another. If your HR file is tagged "not eligible for re-employment" (which it almost certainly will be if you just walk out on them with no notice) then your hard work at this company will go down the drain. Time for big girl panties. Work your notice like the professional that you are. You can only control your own behavior and retaliating with bad behavior to get back at them for their bad behavior only diminishes you.
  10. by   MattNurse
    I always schedule 2 weeks of vacation and my last day before vacation I give my 2 week notice. This gives them coverage and I never have to deal with the manager again.
  11. by   T-Bird78
    Always give two weeks notice and be nice, even if you want to punch them in the nose. They might not be a good professional reference, but if HR verifies employment and is asked if you would be rehired it would at least be a "yes" because they have no valid reason for a "no". Plus, giving the notice would avoid any possibility of "abandonment" issues (I had a manager threaten another nurse with that. In fact, I had to turn in my notice, in writing, 4 months before I left--got married and moved--so the doctor wouldn't get mad and fire me). I'd suck it up and work that extra shift so you can at least go out on a good note, working extra for them. I was fired from my very first nursing job, long story, and when the HR person was telling me how I'm not doing the job right (5 weeks on the job), it was all I could do to NOT look at the nursing supervisor and wish her luck on her baby--she was hiding the pregnancy pending a promotion. I took the high road, don't list them as a reference but only to verify employment.
  12. by   monkeybug
    Ugh, the hospital that I will be free from in 1 day (!!) requires 30 days notice from professional employees, and requires that you work your last scheduled shift in order to be eligible for rehire. And I second all the comments about not burning bridges. In my case, the employer owns all the hospitals in a 3 county area. That's a lot of bridges to light up.
  13. by   amarilla
    I understand that we all do what we need to do, but I imagine that your boss was disappointed and (unpleasantly) surprised to have you quit during the holiday season with barely two weeks notice, particularly when you've been there less than a year. While she obviously could have been more professional and not let emotion control the meeting she had with you, I wouldn't expect someone to give you praise if you're leaving with little notice at an inopportune time. JMO.

    I would work the time you've agreed to and leave with your reference intact. Rather than the personal reference from your boss, I would be more concerned that HR would verify your eligibility for rehire, which you may lose if you renege on what you've agreed to do. When I left my last job, I made a new schedule for the month and turned in my notice that it would be my last schedule (30 days notice, by their policy), the day it was confirmed and posted. I do like the idea above where you use the last two weeks as PTO though - never thought of that!
  14. by   squatmunkie_RN
    Wait until an hour before the shift and call in. That'll show her.