AA hair care racist?

  1. I was caring for a very sweet AA lady, w/ TKA and asked if there was anything special she wanted me to do for her hair. She got all upset and said I was a racist. I was shocked by this, as I was only trying to care for the 'whole person'. How would you handle this?
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  3. by   TazziRN
    Say "I'm very sorry you see that as a racist comment, I would have asked the same if you were of any other race, since many people like their hair a certain way."
  4. by   psalm
    If this was inpatient, I would have mentioned that some of my patients have a sleep bonnett they wear while in bed and did she have one? I hope you documented/charted.
  5. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    Quote from TazziRN
    Say "I'm very sorry you see that as a racist comment, I would have asked the same if you were of any other race, since many people like their hair a certain way."

    :yeahthat:
  6. by   vickynurse
    Nice reply ! I was just speechless at the time.
  7. by   TazziRN
    Yeah, well, it's easy to come up with a reply when not right in the middle of the situation. I probably would have been flabbergasted at the time too.
  8. by   I_am_Julia
    maybe she read it that way. apologize and move on.

    Quote from vickynurse
    i was caring for a very sweet aa lady, w/ tka and asked if there was anything special she wanted me to do for her hair. she got all upset and said i was a racist. i was shocked by this, as i was only trying to care for the 'whole person'. how would you handle this?
  9. by   I_am_Julia
    documented and charted that comment...why?

    Quote from psalm
    if this was inpatient, i would have mentioned that some of my patients have a sleep bonnett they wear while in bed and did she have one? i hope you documented/charted.
  10. by   Marie_LPN, RN
    Quote from i_am_julia
    documented and charted that comment...why?
    what if the pt. tells people "that nurse made a racist comment to me."?
  11. by   TazziRN
    You document any negative comment/action to cover all bases. In this case, to cover the possibility that the pt might later file a complaint against the OP for being racist.
  12. by   thedude
    She automatically assumed you were racist and all you were trying to do was give good care. I think we know who the real racist is here.
  13. by   psalm
    Quote from TazziRN
    You document any negative comment/action to cover all bases. In this case, to cover the possibility that the pt might later file a complaint against the OP for being racist.

    Yes, Thank you, that is why I always chart anything said that could come back to haunt me. Even if a pt. calls me a "78ioaufj##" I will chart that "while assessing pt. IV, pt called this nurse a ,&*^%_ and said' leave me alone!". This nurse attempted to reorient pt to time & place and reassure hospital personnel here to help pt, yadayadayada.
  14. by   pickledpepperRN
    I was curious as to the abbreviation "AA".
    I was thinking Alcoholics Anonymous or American Airlines. :chuckle
    I knew she had knee surgery.

    You received good advice. Always document direct quotes.

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