I have not seen any forums related to this and seem to still have more questions than solid answers, so I post this for all of you woderful people to read and comment on. I am hoping to get some type of clarification for knowledge sake. For an example, I will use this senario- An RN who has a child. This said child one day decided to report to someone that the mom(RN) has been abusing and sexually inapproriatly touching this child for years. This child decided to place themself in a potentially dangerous situation than to continue to take the abuse...like jumping out of a moving car to get away from being punched in the face...). Child is taken to ER at the facility where mom(RN) works but not in the ER, child requires many stitches and after police are called by ER staff, goes to foster care protection. Situation then changes to child going to live with dad and dad being awarded custody of child. Mom(RN) then decides to refuse to let child have any of their clothes, music, books, bike...etc and continues to verbally place threatening limits on child (ie. example- I wouldn't keep all your stuff away from you if you hadn't...fill in the blank, it's all your fault anyway). So now, child is away from mom(RN) and tells dad about him waking up in the middle of the night with mom(RN) laying in twin bed with her hand in child's pants caressing privates. Child also stated that mom(RN) used to always give kisses that resulted in dark red hickys on child. So, if you were listening to this story...what would your thoughts be and what actions would you try to do? Keep in mind this mom is an RN and is in a position of teaching nursing students. Thanks so much for any input.
actually rude person, i do have a role in this. And what you are saying is that nurses need to butt out of child abuse situations because the abuser is a nurse? I think that you need to rethhink your stance.
If you have a role in all of this then you would know what you're suppose to do then wouldn't you?
If you don't like others opinions then don't ask.
You're the one who brought the whole thing up - we're not having any problems with how we dieal with abuse situations - reporting - proper agencies to contact ......professionalism etc.
If you're involved why didn't you help the child in advance?
actually rude person, i do have a role in this. And what you are saying is that nurses need to butt out of child abuse situations because the abuser is a nurse? I think that you need to rethhink your stance.
Excuse me, "rude person"??? It doesn't seem to me that anyone here has been rude to you ...
And no one has said anything about staying out of the situation "because the abuser is a nurse." I think we all agree/understand that nurses are mandated reporters; in the situation you describe, the abuse has been reported, and the proper authorities are involved. That is the end of the responsibility of any individual nurse aware of the situation. It is not anyone else's job to try to stir up additional trouble for the alleged abuser (nor is it wise to do so).
I'm with some of the other posters here; just what is the OP's involvement in this situation?? The whole things sounds kinda fishy to me ...
I do not work with this person. I would have intervened earlier if I had known, I learned from the child after the fact. I cannot tell details that could identify the perpetrator but dfcs did not report this rn to the board. There is verifiable proof as the the truthfulness of the child and the 'rude' person I was refering to sent me a private email being quite nasty, claiming I should butt out and that the child should be left with the mother. The story only may seem fishy to some because there are some facts that are not being released. I do know that many times the 'authorities' in charge do sometimes let things fall through the cracks and I am hoping that will not be the case. I do thank those who responded and I certainly agree that the person should be reported and authorities should do something .
I think you need to mind your own business. This is not your place to be judging someone or thinking you need to do something too.
Sorry to disagree but that is how many children end up dead. Even when child services are involved.
If enough people make a big enough stink about itthat do know what is going on, it will have to be looked at again
We had a huge case here in Oklhoma that is making the state reform DHS. The case was about a child which was repeatly abused and given back to its mother who eventually killed it. Many tried to tell them about the abuse. So don't count on the authorites to take care of it, because they don't.
Parents due not always get arrested right away due to investigations being in progress, especially if authorities have already removed child. Unless you are directly responsible for this childs care KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT! You could be violating HIPPA and making things worse for the child and all other family members. Unless you have direct knowledge and have witnessed the alleged abuse it does NOT concern you. If the ensuing investigation shows or points to truth in the allegations she will be terminated from her teaching position as well as have her license revoked, still noy our business unless you are directly involved.
it's all too easy to say myob, what if you were this child being abused? would you want someone who could potentially help you to mind their own business? as healthcare professionals we have an obligation to report any child abuse, elderly abuse, spousal abuse etc...to the proper authorities. you can be anonymous if that's the issue.
i wouldn't be able to sleep at night if i felt i had not done everything that i should of and was capable of doing.
just because something is easier to does not mean it's the best thing to do.
YellowFinchFan
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If you have a role in all of this then you would know what you're suppose to do then wouldn't you?
If you don't like others opinions then don't ask.
You're the one who brought the whole thing up - we're not having any problems with how we dieal with abuse situations - reporting - proper agencies to contact ......professionalism etc.
If you're involved why didn't you help the child in advance?
This is all very odd.