No one thinks I can do it!

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I am a mother to a 9 month old baby boy and soon to be married. I start school for pre nursing this fall. I have been sooo excited about it..I love to discuss my future goals and dreams to other people. When they ask me what I am going to school for they look at me like there is no way I could ever become a nurse. Some have responeded "Nursing is hard with a baby, I would be suprised if you could do it." "I don't know if the time right now for you" "Oh really? You are going into nursing? That is really hard you know?" I don't know why people keep saying these things to me. It really discourages me to the point that sometimes I wonder if I CAN really do it. When I told my parents I am starting school for nursing this fall, they weren't even excited for me. They said "I see..." and that was the extent of the conversation.... I am very motivated and can't wait for school but no longer want to discuss my dreams with people because of the reaction i have been getting.. Has anyone else been under my circumstances and been discouraged by other people about going into nursing school? Any advice?

Reading all these posts are sooo encouraging. I was in a great job with great pay and benefits for 10 years...but deep down, I wanted to be a nurse. So three years ago, I bought some books and studied for college placement tests. Then I kept working full time and took 1-2 classes online for 2 years, then finally took the plunge to knock out my science pre-requisite courses before applying to nursing school. I am 32 years old, married and have a 3 1/2 year old. I have sat in classes with 20 year olds who lived at home and did not work, and yet they couldn't seem to get their butts to class in time, they didn't really study or prepare for class, etc. Those students had ideal situations (in my mind, yet they did not use it to their advantage). I aced all my classes because I was forced to set a schedule because of the other demands on my time.

I am proud to say that I will start nursing school next month and I am so excited I can hardly stand it. I just bought my first set of scrubs two days ago and have tried them on countless times already, just to savor the feeling. During nursing school orientation this week, I met students who were young, older, recently married, recently divorced, recently widowed, with and without children, with and without supportive spouses/families. It all depends on YOU. If you pursue school now, you may feel guilt because you will have less time for your child. If you try to put it off, you may feel guilt because you waited. From what I've seen and heard, there is NO perfect time to go to school.

This online community is awesome because we all know of others who were worse off in their situation...and THEY DID IT. Go for your dream and you will be able to post your story for others to inspire them, too.

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Remember also, you can do all things through Christ Who strengthens you.

This is MY favorite verse and one I think of often when faced with difficulties. This will get you through when nothing or no one else will.

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Specializes in Med-Surg.

I have had the same experience as you. While I am not married and don't have a kid, everyone still acted like they thought it was a stupid idea. My mom was really the only one who said she thought it was a great idea but she worked in a hospital for 15 years as a medical transcriptionist so she knows more about the medical field than anyone else in my family. Everyone else's reaction was "Oh, are you sure?", "It's going to be really hard you know" or my all time favorite is the times I've asked other nurses how they like their job or asking for any advice b/c I was so excited and they reply "don't do it, trust me just don't do it. If I could take it back I would"....etc......but honestly I'm the type of person that when people don't believe in me or try to discourage me, it makes me want to do it that much more....so I'm going for it!!! lol and still super excited! Don't let others bring you down, use it as motivation to prove them wrong! A friend of mine always called me the "airhead" of the group, she didn't think I could do it. Well guess what, she didn't get accepted into the nursing program and I did so take that! hehehe

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Specializes in ICU hopeful!.

ARGH!!!

Doesn't it just wanna make you say "GO TO HELL, YOU *****!!" when someone says something like that to you.

Let me give you a piece of advice: be your own favorite. As in, know that YOU can do it. Know that it will be hard but you are such a badass, that you are going to work hard, you're going to kick butt, you're gonna be a proud mama and wife in a couple of years when you hold that ADN or BSN in your hand!!

:yeah::yeah::yeah:

Sometimes, people are jealous and will put you down for whatever reason, in whatever way they can...and it sucks, and it hurts, but (HONESTLY!) screw them and their negative attitude. Of course you can do it. Look at all the other women and men who have gone thru NS with children, pregnant, divorce, death in families, etc...you CAN get through this. :o:up:

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Specializes in Renal; NICU.

Hey, you just let all that negativity just keep adding fuel to your personal fire. Every time people say something stupid, just smile and say, "I am determined to make something of my life for myself and my child", then walk away.

What other people think of your ability is just wind blowing. Please do not let it effect you one bit!:yeah:

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you chose to have a baby and that is whats most important.

if you decide to go to nursing school your baby will be neglected, unless you have grandparents or babys dad to watch your baby several hours a day.

if there is that support--then it works--if not--you'll be miserable cause your baby will affect everything.

you are not on the front burner anymore--your baby is--you are on the back burner.

wait til the baby is in kindergarten.

if you go to nursing school and get student loans to pay for babysitting, etc. you will be paying that loan off for decades.

stay on the back burner and enjoy being a mother--your baby needs you more than the nursing community.

you can always go to school--you wont always have the opportunity to spend this precious time with your baby.

selfish is as selfish does!!!!!

I must say I don't agree with your statement....My baby will always come first. I will not be working anymore when school starts so school will be my work and I will be spending just as much time with my child as I do now. Don't reply to people's posts stating that they would be "neglecting" their child if they went to school, Maybe that was the case for you but not for me...thanks for your reply tho...

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If you really like nursing, you will find a way to make it happen. If you have a good support system to help with your little one it will be easier. My advice - do what works for YOU. Everyone does things differently so take advice with a grain of salt and throw their criticism to the wind. I wish you the very best of luck and am rooting for you to succeed!!

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Specializes in ER, ICU/CCU, OPS, Psych.

good morning! from personal experience i would save that you have to follow your heart and your dreams. it may not be easy, but i guarantee that you can complete this journey that you're beginning and fulfill your dreams!

i was working fulltime 11p-7a as an x-ray tech when i went back to nursing school with the encouragement of my wife. i got off at 7 in the morning, drove 50+ miles to school, studied at night in between patients and on weekends, had two little girls, our two boys were born while i was in school, we built a house, bought a car, i had a second part time job and i had to maintain an a or b average each semester to get tuition reimbursement through my work to pay for my next semester of school. the night of my graduation my wife told me after at our dinner celebration that she didn't know how in the world that i did it. she said: "with all that we had going on and you working two jobs; you still managed to stay on the presidents list every semester...i never could have done that". my answer to her was: honey you do what you have to do for family and we both knew that it would benefit us all in the long run. you can do this!!!!

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Specializes in Women's Surgical , MIU,MBU.

Dear MSO90,

Yes nursing is very hard and challenging. But if you have someone who can help you with babysitting and give you the time you need to study for exams and attend clinicals then yes you can do it. Many times you can choose the days and times you want to do your clinicals but there are many times where they place you in the clinical times and days and you will have to adhere to those days and times which can be challenging. If there is someone where you can switch with that is also an option.

I started school in 2002 and nursing classes started in 2003 my 1st daughter at that time was about 8 years old. I do not have family here in the state in which I live and my husband worked full time. It was challening but it was done. Because I am now looking at obtaining my bachelors I now have a 22 month old daughter and because of not having family here I wonder how I would complete that degree but I know that when I do I will be successful.

I think that if we all only looked at our circumstances and listen to those negative voices that said we couldn't do something then none of us would be where we are or made the accomplishments that we have made. I stand in agreement with you that you will become the nurse that you desire to be. Good luck in your upcoming nuptial too! God Bless :)

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honestly who cares what anybody else thinks? if this is what you want to do, then do it. it's your life. please understand that it's a huge commitment and it will take hours upon hours of time away from your children and family, but in the end it will be worth it. i am a mommy of 3 and i graduate in 22 weeks. good luck.;)

a quote i saw somewhere....

" people to weak to follow their dreams, will find a way to discourage yours..."

:twocents:

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Nobody thought I could do it either being a single father and never taking school seriously, and I just finished as class victorian at Tallahassee Tech. Don't let anyone tell you that you cannot acheive anything you put your mind to

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I am a mother to a 9 month old baby boy and soon to be married. I start school for pre nursing this fall. I have been sooo excited about it..I love to discuss my future goals and dreams to other people. When they ask me what I am going to school for they look at me like there is no way I could ever become a nurse. Some have responeded "Nursing is hard with a baby, I would be suprised if you could do it." "I don't know if the time right now for you" "Oh really? You are going into nursing? That is really hard you know?" I don't know why people keep saying these things to me. It really discourages me to the point that sometimes I wonder if I CAN really do it. When I told my parents I am starting school for nursing this fall, they weren't even excited for me. They said "I see..." and that was the extent of the conversation.... I am very motivated and can't wait for school but no longer want to discuss my dreams with people because of the reaction i have been getting.. Has anyone else been under my circumstances and been discouraged by other people about going into nursing school? Any advice?

I myself am a mother (13 yr. old, a soon to be 2 yr old) with one on the way in November. I plan to go to Nursing school in the spring 11'. I also get and hear.. "nursing is very hard... I hope you have some good help..." well of course, like with any schooling while rearing kids prompts a good needed plan to be successful. I haven't been to school since 1998 and I plan on things being a little challenging from time to time.... I WILL EMBRACE IT :))) don't listen to the negative usually people have their inner motives to voice negativity in general thats their fault do not let it become your own... much love and luck you can DO IT!!

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