No one thinks I can do it!

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I am a mother to a 9 month old baby boy and soon to be married. I start school for pre nursing this fall. I have been sooo excited about it..I love to discuss my future goals and dreams to other people. When they ask me what I am going to school for they look at me like there is no way I could ever become a nurse. Some have responeded "Nursing is hard with a baby, I would be suprised if you could do it." "I don't know if the time right now for you" "Oh really? You are going into nursing? That is really hard you know?" I don't know why people keep saying these things to me. It really discourages me to the point that sometimes I wonder if I CAN really do it. When I told my parents I am starting school for nursing this fall, they weren't even excited for me. They said "I see..." and that was the extent of the conversation.... I am very motivated and can't wait for school but no longer want to discuss my dreams with people because of the reaction i have been getting.. Has anyone else been under my circumstances and been discouraged by other people about going into nursing school? Any advice?

you chose to have a baby and that is whats most important.

if you decide to go to nursing school your baby will be neglected, unless you have grandparents or babys dad to watch your baby several hours a day.

if there is that support--then it works--if not--you'll be miserable cause your baby will affect everything.

you are not on the front burner anymore--your baby is--you are on the back burner.

wait til the baby is in kindergarten.

if you go to nursing school and get student loans to pay for babysitting, etc. you will be paying that loan off for decades.

stay on the back burner and enjoy being a mother--your baby needs you more than the nursing community.

you can always go to school--you wont always have the opportunity to spend this precious time with your baby.

selfish is as selfish does!!!!!

GIVE ME A BREAK! How is going back to school neglecting your child? I have a husband, grandparents and the best daycare money can buy looking after my son when I cannot, he is in no way neglected while I am in school. Going back to school is not just for the mom, its is so the mom can provide a better future and better example for her child and is NO WAY SELFISH! I cant even comment anymore because hearing a mom called selfish for going to school makes me want to throw up. If this is the case then EVERY man who is at work right now with a child is selfish! Why are we still stuck in these sexist times where women are not supposed to do anything but sit at home and raise children while men can go away on business and golfing trips and do whatever they want?????? GRR

Anyway OP: Do not let anyone get you down. If you think you can do it, thats all that matters. Enjoy this time before school, be excited! If you need someone to be excited for you feel free to message me!

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BTW, a good babysitting option you may consider is finding a stay at home mother you know in your neighborhood. You can offer her a lot less than daycare, for doing something she already does all day. Also check out if the junior college where you are doing your prereqs at has a child care center. Usually the fees are based on your income level.

And don't think for a second that going back to school is selfish. And of course, child care is not neglect. Many children enjoy the company of daycare. Personally, my son gets bored very easily and I think he would enjoy having other kids around.

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U can do it.. I had 5 kids under8 when Igot my lpn.. The husband needs to b supportive or u will fight a lot and u don't need that while u r fighting for every grade in school.. Also it is easier when they r little. I later went back for the rn when they were teens., very hard cause u weren't sure where they were after school.

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Intern67 is right. Get thick skin and get it fast. You will need it because you will be worn down to the nub girl. Answer this- how determined are you? Do you have a reliable support system? Are you willing to go into debt by about 5 figures for this? Not how smart you are but, how big of a load can you carry for the next 4 years? Are you willing to give up the next 3-4 years of raising your child? Consider enrolling in your pre-req's only part-time until your son is 3 y/o and his personality is developed. Cherish the part-time you have with this precious one and go for your goals. This will give you lot's of multi-tasking practice which you will soon learn to do like breathing. (Lol- and nurses arent supposed to give advice, yea right). You will succeed if you have all of the above. Does your husband realize you will be pretty much out of the picture once you start Nursing School full-time? Mine thought he was the sun and the rest of us were planets that rotated around him. Not fun or easy to change. Make up a schedule of how you will spend your time studying and stick to it! Assign him 50% minimum of ALL HOUSEHOLD CHORES. Can he cook, do dishes and laundry? Bingo. I have seen many classmates make it through with young children, but it is extremely difficult. Go ahead and get mad, it may fuel your fire!! You're gonna have to have a slow steady flicker burnin at both ends when you endeavor. Remember also, you can do all things through Christ Who strengthens you. Good luck, hold tight, don't let go!

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As long as you are ready for hard work, and ready to ask for help when needed you can do it.:nurse:

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Just keep stepping toward your dream. I suspect once you get into your prereqs and find some like-minded people, you'll find the encouragement you're looking for.

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Specializes in ICU, CCU, telemetry, PACU.

I did it all with 2 young children, one in diapers & no family to help. There was only 1 way to go...forward. I graduated with honors.

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I am a mother to a 9 month old baby boy and soon to be married. I start school for pre nursing this fall. I have been sooo excited about it..I love to discuss my future goals and dreams to other people. When they ask me what I am going to school for they look at me like there is no way I could ever become a nurse. Some have responeded "Nursing is hard with a baby, I would be suprised if you could do it." "I don't know if the time right now for you" "Oh really? You are going into nursing? That is really hard you know?" I don't know why people keep saying these things to me. It really discourages me to the point that sometimes I wonder if I CAN really do it. When I told my parents I am starting school for nursing this fall, they weren't even excited for me. They said "I see..." and that was the extent of the conversation.... I am very motivated and can't wait for school but no longer want to discuss my dreams with people because of the reaction i have been getting.. Has anyone else been under my circumstances and been discouraged by other people about going into nursing school? Any advice?

I'm not sure why people feel the need to put down other people so much. I'm sure half of the people don't even realize they are doing it. It was the same for me. I told everyone I was going to school to be a nurse, and so many peoiple said, "it's so competitive, and it's so hard"....basically meaning good luck with that. (sarcastically)....I left the country once to live abroad, and someone in my family said...I'll give you six months before you're back....well I was in Asia over a year! So don't let anyone try to discourage you. I am over 30, I have a toddler and I'm returning to school too....I say WE CAN DO IT!!!!!!!! good luck. vent anytime.

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I started my pre-nursing studies a year ago, when MY baby boy was 4 months old!! You can SO do it. If you have the motivation and really want it- then do it! All you have to cover is logistics for the baby, etc... i'm sure you already know all about that! :lol2:

Um, yes of course it's hard- but was anyone expecting it to be easy? I doubt it.

Personally, I am really proud that I have kept going since last summer- and now I only have 2 classes left! I cannot believe how fast the time went by. I'll be applying to schools this fall, and I'm super-excited. Don't let the nay-sayers get you down; they just aren't as tenacious as you! Use it to fuel your fire. :D People say "wow..." to me sometimes, but in all honesty I don't give a Shizzle what they think. My parents and husband are supporting me in this decision, because I was not happy with my first career choice. I know I'm smart enough to do it, and I really want to do it.

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As a pre-nursing instructor, I can tell you this:

One of my best students delivered her baby on a weekend between the first physiology lab practical and the first physiology lecture exam. (She had explicit instructions from me not to go into labor in class, LOL.) She did miss the first lecture exam, whadda slacker, huh? but we had made previous arrangements for that. She went on to ace the course and was admitted to a very good program the next year.

Several other students have done well in my classes despite having young children at home. Several have done well despite having all sorts of Real Life going on in the background. It can definitely work. You'll have more responsibilities than a 19-year old kid, but you also have more motivation, if you keep an undaunted attitude.

It really helps to have a supportive husband, and I hope your fiance fits the bill. There will be times that you will need extra help with child care. If your husband believes in you and is willing to work as a team to make a better life for your family, half the battle is over.

Congratulations on the little one and on the upcoming wedding!

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Your post brings back memories of when I started nursing school. I started a BSN program when my son was 8 months old. Now, 2 1/2 years later, I will be graduating this coming December. I am also married. DO NOT let anyone tell you it can't be done, because it most certainly can be! It is not easy and it is most definitely the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. However, with hard work, planning, and a good support system you can acheive anything! If this is your dream, then go for it!

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Hi,

Ignore those people. You have to do what is in your heart. My advice is to go right on with it. Do not put it off. It will be stressful with a baby or without a baby. You just need to think that by doing nursing you are providing a better future for you and your family. You do not want to be in the position 10 years from now thinking, I should have done nursing a lot earlier. GO FOR IT. You can do it!!!

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