This is my first post to these boards and I do apologize for the length.I have an aboslutely wonderful friend of eight years. He and I both went through divorces during those eight years. His was some six years ago and mine was about three years back. We had known each other a very long time, but it wasnt until two years ago that we began to see each other as more then just friends. I am proud to say that I married this wonderful man last March!!! I could not be more pleased with my choice of husband. He is adoring, supportive, responsible, all out wonderful. He is all these things to me and to my three darling little boys from my previous marriage.Here in lies my problem. Nursing School. He knew this was in the cards and no one was more excited and supportive of me when I finally entered nursing school after five years of preperation (three years completing general education and nursing pre-reqs and another two years on the waiting list)I have to work full time. I have my three boys to take care of and my ex-husband has only paid his child support once this last year. Just not a reliable enough income to raise a family on. So I work full time, go to nursing school, and I am a newlywed. I knew Nursing School would be tough. I knew I would struggle and that the next two years would be among the most stressed out I would ever be. I am lucky atleast in that my current job is flexible and pays well (better then most LPN's) I warned him of all this. I warned him that most nursing students are advised not to work while in the program. He was fully informed, but unfortunately not as prepared as I had hoped. He expected that I would be stressed out constantly and under extreme time constraints and he knew being a step-father was not going to be a cake-walk. He knew all these things, but knowing and experiencing are such different things. He became the primary care giver to my three boys and while he loves them and they love him it just hasnt been an easy transition. I've felt guilty. The transition would be easier if I were able to be home more. After all I am the connection between this man and these boys. But I cant quit work and lord knows school is not going to ease up just because I need it to. My dear husband has been a trooper. He's prepared kids for school and preschool. Prepared breakfasts, dinners, lunches. Helped with homework, read bedtime stories, tucked kids in. Taken days off work or worked from home when my kids or I get sick. He does more then half our housework and he works more then 60 hours a week. Like I said. He is amazing. He did his best to support me, but... He broke down two months ago. I saw this man that I love brought to tears. Tears for feeling guilty as well. He is tired, burned out, and hates not seeing the person he just committed to spending the rest of his life with. He felt guilty for wanting me to quit school. He promised that he would continue to support me and to cheer me on, if it was that important to me, but he is suffering and he wishes I would quit. He did not ask me to quit, just admitted to his feelings. I make a good living now, not as good as RN, but good enough to meet all of the financial goals that he and I have made even without completing my degree. This fact alone keeps him from worrying about our need for me to graduate at this time.I arranged to take a hiatus from school. Just a little time to get my boys, me, and my husband more accustomed to just being a family. I have been told that as long as I return to school within the year I will be able to continue in my program without any further detriment, but if I postpone any longer then I will be placed back at the end of the waiting list (which is now 5 years out) Its been 2 months now (about half a semester). I need to let my school know what my expected return date is very soon so I cant put my decision off much longer. I feel physically so much healthier without the stress of nursing school and I guess it shows. My dear husband cant stop commenting on how much more I am smiling and how how he keeps catching me singing. He has been so much happier and so have my kids. Things have been amazing. I finally feel like a newlywed and so does he. He'd like to look at growing our family more, as he'd like a child of his own, but we cant progress in that till I make a decision.I am at a crossroads now. I love my family more then anything in this world. I dont want to ask my family to go back to the same level of stress we were at. I dont want ask my husband to make so many sacrifices that he regrets marrying me. Family is always first. But I have never wanted anything more strongly for myself then to complete a Nursing degree. I worked five years to get into the program! I sacrificed so much time already! So much money invested in education! I worked my way towards this during my first marriage and after my ex-husband left me and the boys to go join a rock band. I've sacrificed so much. I dont know if I can walk away. I was doing well in school and love the profession so much. I have cried almsot every night since I went on this hiatus because I am terrified that I will never get to go back. I'm also aware of what a great benefit me being in the nursing profession could be to my family. But is it worth it if I risk my family for it? I dont want to do something that will put my kids at risk of watching Mom go through another divorce.So here are my options; 1. I go back to school and finish my RN degree and risk putting my husband through another breakdown. 2. I go back to school for one more semester then take a transition to LPN course. Its not what I was shooting for and it pays less then my current profession, but atleast it would be nursing. or 3. Quit school, keep my current job as a Registered Polysomnographic Technologist (atleast its in health care and I do enjoy it---but who can work the night shift forever), and just enjoy being a wife and mother. 4. Wait beyond the one year mark and have my name placed back at the end of the waiting list. Maybe in five years when my kids are older things will be a little easier on the family.My husband says he will respect any decision I make and that he will do all that he can to make me happy in my decision, but will he feel that way in another year and a half? Is it fair to ask him to take so much responsibility for another man's kids while I run off to complete my degree?Does anyone have suggestions on how I can minimize the impact on my sweet family and still manage to complete school?Your guidance or opinions would be much appreciated.