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New Job Offer but bad situation with daycare (advice needed)

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Hello all! I have been viewing allnurses.com for sometime but this is my first post so here goes.....I just got a voicemail from a nurse recruiter with a job offer for a prn position. I am soooo happy I really wanted this job!:D The bad news is my child is in parttime daycare (MWF) and there is not a spot available for him to switch to fulltime daycare until May 17th :crying2:. Im not sure what to do. I truly want this job, but will they hold the position that long? I really want this position! I need advice. Im sooooo stressed!

TigerGalLE, BSN, RN

Specializes in ICU, Med/Surg.

What kind of schedule are they wanting you to work? It is a PRN position, so can you work MWF while he is in daycare? Do you have and family or friends that can keep the child?

Yes, its a PRN position, but its that first week of hospital orientation that I'm required to have that is the problem! After that initial week is over the daycare wont be an issue. We are a military family and have been in the area for 2 months if that, so...family really isnt an option.

Pinkster

Specializes in Cardiac. Has 2 years experience.

Can you accept the job with the start date being after May 17th?

Yes, its a PRN position, but its that first week of hospital orientation that I'm required to have that is the problem! After that initial week is over the daycare wont be an issue. We are a military family and have been in the area for 2 months if that, so...family really isnt an option.

If you are by chance in Ft Huachuca, I'll watch him for that week. I adopted 3 special needs kids and I also taught in a K-3rd grade resource room, as well as being a preschool teacher and director. I would only do it for the week, though!

webmansx, ASN, RN

Specializes in rehab.

Dear Joyfulone84,

When I read your post, I felt an obligation to anwer/help/advice you as this (child care issue) has been the main reason why I have not worked in certain places or accepted certain jobs that I would have loved in the past. It haunts all nurses with children at some point in their careers. Its a sacrifice working moms must make. What makes me appreciate this predicament more that others is the fact that we are both military-you know what that means, moving, not knowing anyone, no family support as you are in a new place...I totally feel yah!

Enough of that...now for solutions!!

1. Can you talk to your boss and explain you position and see if she can work orientation around your schedule? (assuming you are 100% sure the job is yours)

2. Ask around at the militarily base. Which day care do you use?, military? those waiting lists can be long. I have found that some of those care givers do their own private baby sitting on the side. talk, ask around

3. Does the hospital offer some kind of child care for their employees?

4.Bring your kid over and I will help baby sit...just for a week right? :-)

5. Call family support center. They may have some ideas. You may be surprised by how many people were/have been in your situation

Good luck, take the job!!!! It almost always works out in the end.

PM me if needed.

Agree you should call the family support center. Hard to believe that there wouldn't be someone on a military post who wouldn't be available to watch your child for one week.

If you are by chance in Ft Huachuca, I'll watch him for that week. I adopted 3 special needs kids and I also taught in a K-3rd grade resource room, as well as being a preschool teacher and director. I would only do it for the week, though!

Awww thanks! I appreciate it but I'm at Fort Carson! I think Ill just ask if I can push my start date back and hope its ok!

UWRN07

Specializes in Primary Care, Home Health, Diabetes. Has 4 years experience.

Are there any military mom's that you are friends with that would be willing to watch your child on the off days?

salamandaRN

Specializes in Pedi, LTC, Community Health.

Just a suggestion, but are there any stay at home moms on bas who can help you out? It sounds like you really only need help two days - I'm sure one of the women on base would be willing to do that. Good luck and congrats!

Awww thanks! I appreciate it but I'm at Fort Carson! I think Ill just ask if I can push my start date back and hope its ok!

Bummer! Also, you can call DES/CPS?/Economic services or whatever they call themselves and get a list of cert'd babysitters so that you can find people that might be willing to watch the kiddo at odd hrs....

Thanks everyone for your suggestions! All of the women I've met thus far have jobs! Go figure huh? Webmansx, I do use the child care on post and have been to CYS and they have given me a list of FCC providers to call. I just feel more comfortable with him at a daycare center than someone's home. Hopefully it will all work out for the best!

I looked on Meetup.com and there are a lot of groups for military wives you could join. I am in a group that started out with like 15 or 20 people last summer and now it has almost 200 members and we all support each other. I thought it was kind of weird at first because of meeting off the internet, but with all first meetings, they are in a public place. We host a new member meetup everymonth, have playdates for the wives with children, bingo, movies, bunco tournaments, etc. It's a really good support system, and there are a lot of close friendships that have formed out of it. You should look into it!

A lot of the wives have children and can look after other's children with their own.

Here's the update: I spoke with the nurse manager and she said a start date after May 17th is fine! Thanks everyone for the advice!

Here's the update: I spoke with the nurse manager and she said a start date after May 17th is fine! Thanks everyone for the advice!

Awesome and congrats!! Glad it worked out for you.

webmansx, ASN, RN

Specializes in rehab.

Woooo HOOOOOO!

See!! It almost always works out in the end!

Good luck on your new Job!!!!

Congratulations. God is good!