Need advice in a sticky situation

[Metapodd]

I work at a hospital have for almost 2 years as a RN, employer has concerns with me and has basically been gunning me down on everything for a few months. Our policy’s is 3 write ups result in termination. I’m at 1. I do NOT like my job I have had sleepless nights and too much anxiety and stress of dreading to work because of this. I want to quit. Here is my dilemma and concerns. They want to meet with me tomorrow but won’t say why, I imagine I’m getting written up again putting me at 2. I want to put in my 2 week notice but I’m concerned they will find a reason for another write up and terminate me before the time is up. I don’t want to quit out right because I’m worried a future employer will find that out when checking my work history on my resume and that looks horrible. (Assuming they can find that out). I don’t want to be fired though because I know that looks horrible on resumes as well. What do I do? Do I quit without notice? Do I try and make it 2 weeks and pray they don’t try to fire me? I really need help I’m losing my mind right now. Any advice is welcome, please and thank you!!

[peachtreednurse, RN]

You already seem resigned to termination, whether you or the administration performs the final step. Exactly what transpired to make the conditions so hostile and would it not be in your favor to correct/overcome the negativity. There are far too many opportunities for coworkers to disagree and potentially damage their relationship, but more reasons to clear the air and begin afresh.

I would have any circumstances/occurrences/incidents in mind for the meeting and definitely an impartial representative deemed acceptable, available to witness the exchange.

Is there any other capacity or position within the facility you might fill? What specifically is causing you to hate your job? There's probably a cluster of contributing factors to consider.

Good luck...

[Orion81RN]

Any updates?

[Jory, MSN, APRN, CNM]

Quitting without notice makes you ineligible for rehire. To me, it is a choice.

I have seen companies that will put anyone that quits ineligible for rehire, even if they give a notice.

[JKL33]

2 hours ago, Jory said:

I have seen companies that will put anyone that quits ineligible for rehire, even if they give a notice.

That's their own moral failing. ??‍♀️

They probably aren't going to put OP down for rehire if they fire him/her, either.

As far as the "choice" part - the OP didn't seem to be asking permission to act unethically - - just looking for technical advice on what to do if you're pretty sure you're about to be terminated.

[Jory, MSN, APRN, CNM]

47 minutes ago, JKL33 said:

That's their own moral failing. ??‍♀️

They probably aren't going to put OP down for rehire if they fire him/her, either.

As far as the "choice" part - the OP didn't seem to be asking permission to act unethically - - just looking for technical advice on what to do if you're pretty sure you're about to be terminated.

I don't see anything unethical about quitting without notice...mainly because employers exercise their "at will" right and won't give you any notice if you are fired or laid off.

Like I said, notice or no notice...it's a choice. My point is being "ineligible for rehire" doesn't necessarily mean someone was a bad employee. Nor should it be interpreted as such should a future employer learn so.

[kp2016]

I have worked at a hospital that fired more people that every other place I have ever worked put together. They normally invited a person to a meeting in a day or so, often after letting them work a shift then fired them with security waiting to escort them out. They routinely refused to let people resign and made a point of refusing their resignation so they could fire them. Be warned there really are HR departments this evil.

If you really think they are really looking to fire you I wouldn’t give notice. Type up your resignation effective immediately, put it in an envelope with your ID and hand it the receptionist at HR and walk out. Obviously this burns your bridge at that hospital and all others in their network, but so does being fired.

Best of luck.