the longest day of my life - page 2

as the title goes, today is the longest day ever! I recalled taking nclex last December and didnt become lucky with 265 questions. the problem at that time is I am really wasnt prepared. been... Read More

  1. by   sillysee
    Quote from leilah75
    when did you take the test sillysee? try tomorrow as they update the site everyday... i feel u as well. all e can do is to be positive and try and try again... i had a hard time coping because i wasnt aware how hard being an instant mom. i live alone, taking care of only myself then just 13months ago everything changed...i instantly became the mom of 2 boys and a hubby... theyre the sweetest kids i have ever met in my ife, never in a day that they made me feel a stranger, it is the workload that is difficult plus having a military hubby that is really strict about cleanliness and healthy foods...i.e cooking 6meals a day, 3 for adult and 3 for kids.(very rare fastfoodslike once a month) stuff and more stuff.... thanks again sillysee and best of luck to yah..

    I took the test on Monday the 26th.....
  2. by   Leilah75_RN
    best of luck sillysee.hope you make it...
  3. by   renri4
    hi,leilah where in the same shoe im a mother of two a 4yrsold.and 9mos. and i can't decide yet when im going to take the exam coz i know im not really ready yet.its very hard to us to focus on review,having a child to take care , a husband and doing household chores,til now im not yet done with the Suzanne 1stplan i started last feb. im too slow...well,i know you can make it! you desrve know what everytime i open this site and saw your post or postreply i read it,coz i like reading your encouraging advised and uplifting keep it up! goodluck...GOD is with you bless you...:spin:
  4. by   Leilah75_RN
    thanks Renri4. i think being a mom and a wife makes us stronger and we really need to be strong for the sake of the kids and for the marriage. i dont feel bad being busy, doing household work all the time and tendering kids, what i regret is not having the chance to really prepare myself. i have done and read the book for Suzanne's plan, it was last Feb. but it doesnt mean, i completely remember everything, right? i havent got the chance to do the 2nd tip. i have answered only 250--300 questions and i know it isnt, i need to review stuff tha i have forgotten. I havent got the quality time to do it. and I havent gotten the chance to choose when i wil take the test. I asked for the 2nd week of May. My husband said, he isnt available on that month. he cannot get any extra day off either. i said i will ask his relatives to bring me to the test centre instead. they didnt refuse but didnt answer if they will be available for me. it is like a silent refusal...hehehe..anyways, maybe taxi/cab will be my next choice. we are in short financially and from my place to the test center will cost me like $100+. Not a good idea for hubby since he is the bread winner. so to avoid any confrontation, no choice, i didnt re schedule the test. so i went to the test centre with hopes and prayers in my hand. i know in my mind, that i am not prepared, so naturally, i leaned to God, and by his gracious, he blessed myself with confidence. but it wasnt me who had the anxiety attacks. it was my 5yo step son! he vomited intermittently the night before the test until a day after the test. so i went to the test centre without any sleep and rest but i have confidence tho lol....we just came home today from my son's doctor and the doctor sad he's had tummy virus and my son is now doing well....if ever the confidence will not make me pass, next time i wi incude more prayers, confidence, knowledge and more knowledge all together to pass...i wil still be doing the plan. best of luck to all of you/us ... hope we all pass very soon
  5. by   LZRN
    That is a great story! it makes me feel like a real slacker, because I tend to have a lot of time but, can't seem to focus on studying when I need to. Lets's hope you never have to go back to the test center but, if you ever need a ride I will find you one! , that is not a problem!

    Quote from leilah75
    as the title goes, today is the longest day ever!

    I recalled taking nclex last December and didnt become lucky with 265 questions. the problem at that time is I am really wasnt prepared. been having a difficult time adjusting with my situation at that time and depressed. despite of begging to postpone the test, i wasnt able to, to avoid marital fights. but it is all done. after that, I started to review again, used Suzanne's plan and have been very optimistic about my next test. But things arent doing as smooth as what i want to, the same situation hit me again, plus being worried about parent's health and a death of my fave uncle... the amount of time i needed to review werent anymore available as the mom of my step son gave all the responsibility of me taking care of him during spring break. the workload became dreadful. hubby tried to help me but the notion that I only stay in the house and can do miracles remained. no one realized that i am already exhausted. the cry of giving me enough time to take the test the second time around is again imposible to achieve. i tried to study 2 hrs a day from 12mn til 2am as it is the only time for me to do it without disturbance. i asked if i can take the test 2nd week of may as i still need to familiarize myself from answering questions and reading rationales. but again, i have no choice but to take it today cuz nobody will bring me to the test centre except hubby. i couldnt take the cab due to financial reason.
    As i prepare to sleep early last night, my son asked to lay down beside me. he wasnt feeling well after eating 6 KFC thighs. (i just took him from his mom, looking dirty and his eyes were sunken), he told me that he wasnt eating and drinking well lately. by 10pm, he started vomiting. until this morning before i went to the test centre. we havent got any sleep at all! we just finished washing ALL our bed sheets and blankets and carpet. so i went to the test centre feeling sleepy.
    to make the story short, another 265 questions. 6 select all that apply, 3 drug computations, about 20 meds questions, more than a hundred of priority questions(ER and ward based). about 10 Q IN PEdiatrics. 4 q in psyche and about 20 universal precautions.I tell you, ALL the questions were very easy if you study...LOL
    i find the SAunders BOOK AND CD REALLY VALUABLE AND KAPLAN'S Q & A & CD'S REALLY the TOP CHOICEs. i find most of the questions similar to those. NCSBN review offers less info that these books altho i suggest that their meds review is realy awesome.(again, my bad, i didnt study much :-( )
    i am not expecting anything good about the test. I still believe that SUZZANNE's PLAN is the best plan ever, i just didnt follow it due to timing reason, and i will still be using it on my next test. i dont know the result but i am not waiting for it. I left the test site feeling well and hungry lol...
    thanks ms Suzanne for sharing me your plan, i will do better next time, thanks for this site for preparing me emotionally and helping me althroughout, thanks to all my new found friends here, thanks for everyone who shares their experiences and words of wisdom. for everyone BEST OF LUCK TO YAH ALL... dont stop believing... WE WILL SOON DEFEAT THE NCLEX MONSTER. JUST KEEP ON TRYING.....GOD BLESS!!!
  6. by   Leilah75_RN
    i checked the BON website today and it said it is last updated the 23rd of april and my name isnt on it...anyways, theres still more time to wait

  7. by   whirlwind
    there is still time...
    goodluck! and keep us posted no matter what....
    i salute u girl....
  8. by   Leilah75_RN
    thanks whirlwind. i am trying to be really positive...i really love the saying "Dream, It's free!"

    i tried to talk to my husband last night about what we will do if i fail since my name isnt written in the BON site yet, altho he has a point of waiting til i get the papers, i really need to know what will be our plan pass or fail wise. that whether good or bad, i really need to find a job. And one that prohibits me from getting a job is the kids. he refused to bring the kids to any daycare or after school programs. my kinder goes to school at 11am and the grade 4 at 8am. they go out of the school at 2:30pm. i am a workaholic when i was single and never really stayed at home much and the transition from that to full time mom is abrupt. he is concerned as wel that if i get a job other than nursing, the cost of child care will be the cost of my whole salary. point taken. my point is, since i arrived here in USA, i wasnt able to go out and meet people. been here for a year and a half now and the people that i know are them and his relatives who tends to tell me dont trust their other relatives(crab mentality). i wanna build my confidence back, my zest, my self worth and asked if i could get a job close to home PM shift. i will still fill my motherly and wifey duty before and after that tho and the kids will only stay in any afterschool program for 2 hours until he arrives at 4pm. he replied, "SHUT UP" sigh....sometimes mom feels really invisible to her family huh? I just hope they will see what i have sacrificed for them....
    Last edit by Leilah75_RN on Apr 25, '07
  9. by   jayann
    hi leilah,

    i hope you can make it, with all the sacrifices that you are going through! you're such a brave person to take all the responsiblities and to take the NCLEX. Hang on to HIM....I'd be praying for you.
  10. by   Leilah75_RN
    Ok, i got my results andits the same...nearly passing...===> awsnt really fortunate ei...i feel OK since I was already expecting it. I am about to start to review again.spoke with my hubby. askedto help me with the kids and house chores. he said yes. hopefully things ae getting better. i will start reviewing next week. i needed this week to breath, relax and prepare. hope i will be lucky this time

    best of luck to all of the test takers....
  11. by   yalpog
    these were my encouraging words in the past for you and they still are for you

    "leilah75 we sometimes have to take things as they come. i have been hard times also, and i will be taking the nclex-rn this april 30. i did all reading from saunder's, but unable to get second tip from suzanne4. anyway. i will keep you in my prayers because i know you and i , and whomever take the nclex has the oportunity to pass, but i thing that timming a nd circumstances play a roll in our results on the nclex. please keep your chin up. i am sure eventually god will give you the right circumstances to do your best as nclex taker because so far i do believe god is letting you do your best as a beautiful strong commited woman, mother, wife and i am sure you are succeeding. please expect the best becuase you are the best you are a woman, a nurse. the best so far are the thing where you put your heart. nclex will be always there waiting to be overcome, but family members... we do not know. please leilah75 keep your chin up!! and felt cared"

    i understand how you feel; at least i try, getting fail is the difference in our life of what to do. i' like to tell you that please do not give up, many nurses from around the world are still trying to get their credentials validated and pass english test, they do not even know when they will get the att.

    you arlready got it ( att), so that is a huge step. i understand that being a full time mom and wife is very difficult specially when we; wives, are having a very hard time in our marriage due to many factor such as finances, time and priorities. i have seen people going thru very difficult matters , but they never give up.

    one of my friends is a single parent and for her getting nursing school done was a dream and a way to provide, so it took her 7 years, english, pre-req and then nursing , plus nclex , she relied on friends and relatives and her first pay check went to pay part of her debt.

    in my case, the process of getting credentials validated was a very long process that took about three years plus english and six week of study for nclex, two times a root canal done with infection, two weeks of a bad stomach infection and the painful 6 weeks of reading saunders because, in all topics i saw every member of my family, diabetes mellitus, schezofrenia, prostate cancer, renal failure, obesity, anorexia, etc. it was painful for me to recall signs and three big fights with hubby because home was a mess and no clean clothes.

    i; with all due respect, recomend you to take not one week but two weeks off, then start over, if you are going to read saunders again, read it from back to front. i went to the library two hours mostly every day and i tried to stay focus on the reading of each chapter. library makes you feel the process of learning, so maybe you will find this helpful.
    allow your self time to retake, please do not rush your self or you will become anxious, i am sure your time will come, yes, that time to become rn sure will come.
    please think about; or make , a list about things you did wrong in the past and learn from them.
    maybe the fact that you worry too much is preventing you fromm letting your nursing brain think as it, so do not put so much pressure on your shoulders. your hubby is already providing , so you won't become the super hero after passing nclex. you will keep being the perfect helper we; women, were originaly made to be.
    please do not give up, keep your chin up, sooner or later you will succeed.

    praying for you
  12. by   Leilah75_RN
    that really lifted my spirits up yalpog. thanks so much. i am not rushing eventho family members are asking when am i gonna have a job, when am i gonna take the test and when are we moving to a new apartment? i made a mark on my calendar. i already had 3 weeks of "no nclex in my life" days. i started from the time i took the test since i know that i really didnt make it. i enjoyed everyday of it. altho the workload in the house stayed the same, i didnt think of really studying. i moved myself away from it for a while. i think my body is now rested. iw ill start reviewing again. it will take time before i take the next test, but hopefully by the time i take it, i am confident enough to pass it. there are things in our lives that we cannot anymore change. sometimes we need to sacrifice one in exchange of the other. i have sacrificed my freedom for the sake of my husband , my brother in law and my step son. I may have failed nclex but iknow i didnt fail giving them enough love and attention. and at present, their smiles and laughters are my greatest achievent. I changed their lives. Nclex will come next and if i pass it, It will be a bonus!

    thanks Yalpog. may God bless you and your family. God is great all the time. my time of passing nclex is just around the corner waiting for its turn. and i am waiting for it too...

    best ofluck guys...
    Last edit by Leilah75_RN on May 8, '07
  13. by   renri4
    hi leilah, im sorry to hear that you didnt make it! well cheer up,and take a break,just relax... everything will be fine! We have lot of chances right! our motto is try and try and try and try! hehehe til we succeed di ba! so dont give up! well, me? stil undecided yet when to take my exam this will be my 2nd attempt too. til now im stil reading saunders im not done yet! im half way atleast lol! Well if you need a friend to talk to,im here cheers "mare" hehehe jokes...oks! GOD bless you and your family!