My 5-Year-Old Son

[chuckz]

Hey Guys and Girls,

I am a male nurse of just over a year and I have a wonderful, amazing, awesome son named Ben who is my life. My absolute world. He does everything with me and we are inseparable. I work a night shift that is a cadre shift. I work 7p-7a Sat-Mon and pick up OT when I can. I came from a factory and took an educational buyout, and went to school full time and got my BSN and I haven't looked back. My son has only known me as being in school and being a nurse. He has never known me to do anything else really.

So I ask my son yesterday, "Ben, What do you want to be when you grow up? A Doctor right?" My son looks at me and says, "No! I want to be a nurse dad." I ask him, "Why do you want to be a nurse?" He tells me, "So I can go to work with you and see you all the time dad, plus I want to help people like you do."

My little boy made me cry right there. It wasn't the fact that he wanted to be a nurse, it was that he wanted to work and be with me and he has a sense of caring. I tell you, that just made my day and I wanted to share it.

[RHIA, RN]

Thanks for sharing!

My little girl on the other hand . . .

One day her cousin hurt her leg, my little runs to get a pillow and blanket and told her to lay down. I smiled and said "Awww, are you going to be a nurse?" She looked at me and said "No, I'm going to be a Cinderella princess!".

Gee thanks, kid. She is 3 y/o, BTW.

[Jenni811, RN]

Cute as can be. :)

Mine is a little younger, and he wants to be "an alien doctor...and you can be my nurse, Mom." Kinda tells you what he thinks of the pecking order around here! Although it is cute when people ask him what he wants to be when he grows up and he tells the "A xenobiologist!"

hahahaah An alien doctor! Adorable.

[Jenni811, RN]

I'll be another one thanking you for posting a smile for my day!

My DS is a bit older now (11yo) but when he was a preschooler he wanted to be a woman when he grew up. (This REALLY freaked out his father!) Digging into it a little bit, he wanted to be able to have a baby in his tummy (like I did) and be a mommy (like I was) when he grew up. (awwwwwww!:redpinkhe)

I explained that it wasn't possible for him to have a baby in his tummy, but that it didn't matter if he was a mommy or a daddy, b/c all that mattered was that he loved his child -- cuddles and hugs and kisses and security and all that stuff that he gets from me can be provided by a parent of either gender.

(of course, now that he's 11yo, he's MORTIFIED at the thought that he used to want to be female! )

Here's hoping that we're FINALLY starting to shed the stupid gender roles, and the next generation will be full of men who aren't afraid to show that they care!

YES!!!!! too funny. Share that on his wedding day :) You must.!

[RNlvn]

awww tear

[Batman25]

He' a keeper. What a little sweetie. And kudos to you for being a wonderful father whose son clearly thinks the world of him.

[nuangel1, BSN, RN]

thats cool.made me smile.thanks for sharing.cute kid

[chuckz, BSN, RN]

Thank you so much folks, but like I said, Ben is an amazing kid in his own right, without my input. Last summer at the gym I bought him a water blaster to play with at the gym pool. It was the first day he got it and he was so excited. When other kids saw the fun he was having, they came up and wanted to play. My son let them play with it for about 45min without touching it. He wasn't being bullied nor did anybody take it from him, he just allowed them to play with it and splashed about. I asked him about it later and he actually told me, "I had fun seeing everybody have fun, plus I get to take the water gun home."

It's funny because I never wanted kids like some of you. I was/am selfish with my time and I always said I won't have a child. Ben came and my life changed. There has not been one day.....NOT ONE DAY that I have thought that this day with him wasn't better than the day before. I don't believe in children being an emotional crutch for the parents. I think I have to be there for him to show him right and wrong and how to be a good person.

Never had a dad or mother around too much. I was raised by my Grandfather and he showed me that a man can be tough (He was a pro boxer and a Russian farm boy) and still be thoughtful, generous and kind. I am a competitive powerlifter and am not a small dude, most of my patient's think I am security.....but I always try and be kind and compassionate. It's a lesson my grandfather taught me and now I teach my son. My grandfather lives through Ben.

Ok....waaaaaaay too much insight I know, but I just want people to get a sense of the importance of this little boy to me. Thank you for listening and all your kind words about him....I appreciate it very much....I also appreciate people thinking I am a a good dad, that makes me feel better than anything anybody could ever say. Thank you again.

[digoe74]

That was so sweet! What an amazing little man you are raising and he obviously adores you! Be proud -- he will grow up to be one of the "nice guys" and he won't be finishing last either!

[Sugarcoma, RN]

Well Chuckz I could certainly hear how much he means to you in your posts, they are just oozing with pride! I did not plan my first child but like you I have been nothing but smitten and grateful he is in my life and he is 21 now! You've got a darling little guy there no doubt about that! Good job!

[brillohead, ADN, RN]

YES!!!!! too funny. Share that on his wedding day :) You must.!

Oh yeah... DEFINITELY! hehehehe

[JRP1120, RN]

What an awesome Daddy you are! Thank you for teaching him how to be loving, caring, kind and considerate! You are also shaping him to grow up to be one heck of an awesome husband to some lucky little girl out there someday and in turn, another awesome Daddy, like yourself!

KUDOS to you most definitely! :)

[gentlegiver, ASN, LPN, RN]

Thank you so much folks, but like I said, Ben is an amazing kid in his own right, without my input. Last summer at the gym I bought him a water blaster to play with at the gym pool. It was the first day he got it and he was so excited. When other kids saw the fun he was having, they came up and wanted to play. My son let them play with it for about 45min without touching it. He wasn't being bullied nor did anybody take it from him, he just allowed them to play with it and splashed about. I asked him about it later and he actually told me, "I had fun seeing everybody have fun, plus I get to take the water gun home."

It's funny because I never wanted kids like some of you. I was/am selfish with my time and I always said I won't have a child. Ben came and my life changed. There has not been one day.....NOT ONE DAY that I have thought that this day with him wasn't better than the day before. I don't believe in children being an emotional crutch for the parents. I think I have to be there for him to show him right and wrong and how to be a good person.

Never had a dad or mother around too much. I was raised by my Grandfather and he showed me that a man can be tough (He was a pro boxer and a Russian farm boy) and still be thoughtful, generous and kind. I am a competitive powerlifter and am not a small dude, most of my patient's think I am security.....but I always try and be kind and compassionate. It's a lesson my grandfather taught me and now I teach my son. My grandfather lives through Ben.

Ok....waaaaaaay too much insight I know, but I just want people to get a sense of the importance of this little boy to me. Thank you for listening and all your kind words about him....I appreciate it very much....I also appreciate people thinking I am a a good dad, that makes me feel better than anything anybody could ever say. Thank you again.

No, not way to much insight. Our children are our future, when we are gone, all that will be left is a tiny bit of DNA (future generations) and a few memories. I think it's wonderful that your Grandfater taught you so much and that you are teaching it to your son. That your son is such a caring person is a memorial to your Grandfather and a major accomplishment to yourself.