My Parents are Nurses and Don’t Support My Withdrawal from Nursing School

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Hi all,

I joined this forum because I am in desperate need of support and advice. I am a nursing student in an LPN to ADN program. Both my parents are nurses, I have several family members who are also nurses, and the reason I chose nursing as a major (I am fresh out of high school) is because I want to help people. Everyone was thrilled that I chose nursing. I had an immense amount of doubt about nursing after submitting my application, and realized there are so many things I am passionate about such as social activism and politics and that nursing may not be a good match for me. I have never been a huge fan of science to begin with, and I have not been enjoying really any of my nursing classes except for my Intro to Nutrition class. I had always been very interested in nutrition before applying to college but never considered it as a major. Now I love that class and I want to transfer to a nearby college to switch my major to Nutrition and to get my RD. My parents will not hear any of it. Everyone around my can see how miserable I am in this program expect for them. Since they are nurses they keep telling me “we know what you’re going through and it will be worth it in the end” but what they don’t see is how I fall apart every week after clinical thinking about how I’m signing my life away to do this thing I am unhappy with forever. They keep saying that “I chose this major” and don’t understand that I am change my mind and find something better suited to me. I think I could pass my RN year and get my license, and yes, I probably COULD do this but I don’t WANT to do this. I am doing well in my classes which require an average higher than 85, and I am above that average, even though I am taking 19 credits while most in my class already took their pre reqs and have 10-12 credits (the majority of my classmates are non traditional learners who are mostly around 25-45). I am not afraid of hard work, but doing so much work for something I don’t enjoy in the slightest just doesn’t seem reasonable to me. As an RD I could still help people and do something I love and enjoy, but it just wouldn’t be in the nursing environment. I am very confused and lost and I would appreciate some advice.

Thank you.

Out of curiosity, who is paying for your schooling and living expenses?

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No offense to those who asked who is paying for the program, but IMHO it doesnt matter who is paying financially, because, technically in the end, YOU are paying with your time, effort and motivation. If you choose to do something you are not passionate about the patient's suffer, co-workers suffer and most importantly YOU will suffer. If you know what it is that you are interested in you need to pursue it for YOU, because in the end YOU are the one that reaps or suffers from the choices of your actions that are dictating YOUR future.

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6 hours ago, Kallie3006 said:

No offense to those who asked who is paying for the program, but IMHO it doesnt matter who is paying financially

I think the question was asked more to learn if OP may need to take time off school and work while obtaining financial aid if the parents are paying but may pull support if the major changes.

7 hours ago, Kallie3006 said:

No offense to those who asked who is paying for the program, but IMHO it doesnt matter who is paying financially, because, technically in the end, YOU are paying with your time, effort and motivation. If you choose to do something you are not passionate about the patient's suffer, co-workers suffer and most importantly YOU will suffer. If you know what it is that you are interested in you need to pursue it for YOU, because in the end YOU are the one that reaps or suffers from the choices of your actions that are dictating YOUR future.

I asked the financial question because ACR has many options how to proceed to become a RD from the point where she is right now. Seemingly she is doing good in her LPN to RN school, and i do not feel it is necessary for her to quit it right away just because she now wanna become an RD. Since she is half way through in her LPN to RN school, she may finish it up and go to an RD program if her parents are supporting her LPN to RN school. If so, she may choose to work part time as an RN while being in an RD program.

18 hours ago, ACR said:

I am still unsure of their reasonings. They keep saying that I wouldn’t have known I like nutrition unless I had entered this program, and “I don’t know what I know until I know it” which is their way of saying I can’t decide I don’t like nursing until I am actually working as a nurse.

This is somewhat true as Nursing School is very different then when your working. Also, after getting some experience you could work in public health and help work towards change. With that said if you're miserable then you need to do what's best for you and not your parents.

19 hours ago, Green Tea, RN said:

Out of curiosity, who is paying for your schooling and living expenses?

My parents are. We are did not qualify for financial aid and it is a concern of mine that they will not help me with schooling if I change my major to something they do not approve of. That being said, I could work as an LPN until I save enough money to continue my schooling and not be considered a dependent when filing the FAFSA.

On 11/20/2019 at 12:46 PM, ACR said:
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My parents are. We are did not qualify for financial aid and it is a concern of mine that they will not help me with schooling if I change my major to something they do not approve of. That being said, I could work as an LPN until I save enough money to continue my schooling and not be considered a dependent when filing the FAFSA.

If you expect your parents to support your dream career which doesn't align theirs, you're signing your life away. Life isn't about money at all times, but it's to enjoy while trying to get through the life of joys and struggles. If your happiness matters to you, then dare to cut dependency. Prove it to them that you can do it all alone.

I have a degree in dietetics. If you aren't a science person, do not go down the RD road. The upper level coursework is basically all science, and in order to become an RD, you have to do a didactic program and will likely be working right alongside nurses. Yes, after you get your degree, you could branch out to somewhere else, but guess where most new RDs work? In the exact same settings as nurses. Just my $0.02. GLTU

Finish your current semester so you won't have wasted the time and money you have already spent on it.

After that, do what makes you happy.

Your folks will likely come around when they see you are happy.

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