(I'm a male) She has some concern, but honestly I don't blame her. I'll be going to school with lots of beautiful nursing students and we will all be working closely together. Also they say your classmates in nursing school become friends for life. This closeness with other girls seems to always threaten the current girl in your life in my experience. Also she said that I probably wont have that much time for her. 1 day per week I'm guessing?? I start nursing school in 1 year from now.
I do not plan on hooking up/dating any of my classmates because 1) I love my girlfriend and she could possibly become my wife 2) I do not want to jeopardize in anyway my schoolwork.
Oh, sweet mother or pearl! Really? Okay, I have a very low tolerance for this. (for personal reasons)
1. You will not be going to school with beautiful soon to be nurses. It's must be a guys dream or a womans biggest fear.
2. You can walk outside to check the mail and run into a beautiful girl that lives next door.
3. If you're gonna cheat....then you're gonna cheat. Her insecurities are not going to stop you.
4. You will not form life long bonds with your classmates. I can almost guarantee that within a year of you graduating you probably will not talk to any of them unless you work in the same hospital/clinic/floor.
5. Your g/f needs to get a life and get over the fact that at any given moment you could dump her for another female regardless of where you are.
6. Nope you wont' have much time for her. She may need to find a hobbie.
7. If I seem a bit harsh....well....my hubby use to be the same way with me when I went to nursing school and guess what? He had two choices...1. Keep his crazy jealous ideas to himself or 2. Leave. We are still married so you can guess which option he took. You cannot succeed in anything if you have someone dragging you down verbally or physically. It will be demanding enough without "extra demands" from someone you love. I hope she supports you and you guys end up married for the next 50+ years! (and yes that was heart felt!)
When I went to nursing school there ended up being 3 divorces and several break-ups, when my exhusband went to school I divorced him while he was in school, since he was habing an affair with one of his fellow classmates. Now he tells me how he messed up and she is nothing what he wanted..So it does happen, but it takes 2 to tango....:redlight:
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(I'm a male) She has some concern, but honestly I don't blame her. I'll be going to school with lots of beautiful nursing students and we will all be working closely together. Also they say your classmates in nursing school become friends for life. This closeness with other girls seems to always threaten the current girl in your life in my experience. Also she said that I probably wont have that much time for her. 1 day per week I'm guessing?? I start nursing school in 1 year from now.
I do not plan on hooking up/dating any of my classmates because 1) I love my girlfriend and she could possibly become my wife 2) I do not want to jeopardize in anyway my schoolwork.
Input?
Are you young?
This whole situation is silly.
She's insecure and with this whole 'You won't have time for me' stuff, obviously can't see the forest for the trees. I dont see how anyone can deal with a partner like that, but...hey - that's your business.
You likely feed into her self-worth issues with this, 'I'll be with lots of beautiful nursing students' mess. Do you tell her this, as well?
I don't know what you're expecting but most women in nursing school are usually too busy with school, work and homework to be creating 'nursing school romances'.
Dude...I haven't read any previous posts yet, but let me be honest with you....if you are on task and serious about nursing school, you will have no time to get to know your "girls" in class in any other way than as classmates/colleagues....any classmate you have , guy or girl, will be focused on the main prize: becoming a nurse....you will make some friends along the way, some may be like family when you are all done....but that will happen because of a great deal of respect and teamwork, not romance....tell your girl not to worry, this is serious business and there simply is no time for "hooking up"....good luck!....
To be honest there were several hook ups in nursing school. 1 guy for 20+ girls. Spending 40+ hours together combined with the fact that usually only other nurses it nursing students understand nursing school. It's not like other types of career paths. This is not like going off to be a teacher, not knocking teachers. Nursing school can consume your life and relationships that aren't strong going into it are not going to last. Period because at the point where you have more work than you can possibly manage and you girlfriend is on another jealous insecure tangent, you will have to make a choice. This comes from my personal experience only with jealous boyfriend. And I didn't even have guy friends in school.
Instead of worrying about your relationship, your girlfriend should be working constructively on strengthening your relationship. Then she won't have to be concerned with losing the relationship.
If you were going to cheat on or leave your girlfriend, you certainly would not need nursing school to do that. If you are committed to your relationship, nursing school is not going to change that.
(I'm a male) She has some concern, but honestly I don't blame her. I'll be going to school with lots of beautiful nursing students and we will all be working closely together.
AHAHAHAHA! Sorry that was funny. Nursing school dynamics goes something like this, "Do you know what we're doing? Nope do you? Great, where's the clinical instructor? I am so tired. Do I smell like poo?"
Also they say your classmates in nursing school become friends for life.
Oh my. I hope not.
This closeness with other girls seems to always threaten the current girl in your life in my experience. Also she said that I probably wont have that much time for her. 1 day per week I'm guessing?? I start nursing school in 1 year from now.
That is the only valid point of her concern. You will be very short on time. Just set aside date night and stick with it. You'll get pretty good at time management.
I do not plan on hooking up/dating any of my classmates because 1) I love my girlfriend and she could possibly become my wife 2) I do not want to jeopardize in anyway my schoolwork.
Input?
The guys in my program are just that - guys in the program. I don't think anyone looks at them as potential partners.
omg... Please tell her not to worry ! You will be 110% busy, stress out, because of the all the studying materials in nursing school ! all i think these days are lab/hw/practical/tests/tests...etc... ( my mind has not thinking about sex for the last 2 days ! and that's a long "time" for most men :)) )
First of all, you will barely have time to spend with your current girlfriend, let alone time to start a new relationship. Second, you should be in nursing school to learn to be a nurse, not to find a hookup. Third, the longer you spend with your classmates, the longer time you have to determine what about them really drives you up the wall. You will like most of your classmates, but the longer you spend with them, the more you will notice their idiosyncrasies. The better you get to know your classmates, the more you will realize that you could probably never have a relationship with any of them.
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Oh, sweet mother or pearl! Really? Okay, I have a very low tolerance for this. (for personal reasons)
1. You will not be going to school with beautiful soon to be nurses. It's must be a guys dream or a womans biggest fear.
2. You can walk outside to check the mail and run into a beautiful girl that lives next door.
3. If you're gonna cheat....then you're gonna cheat. Her insecurities are not going to stop you.
4. You will not form life long bonds with your classmates. I can almost guarantee that within a year of you graduating you probably will not talk to any of them unless you work in the same hospital/clinic/floor.
5. Your g/f needs to get a life and get over the fact that at any given moment you could dump her for another female regardless of where you are.
6. Nope you wont' have much time for her. She may need to find a hobbie.
7. If I seem a bit harsh....well....my hubby use to be the same way with me when I went to nursing school and guess what? He had two choices...1. Keep his crazy jealous ideas to himself or 2. Leave. We are still married so you can guess which option he took. You cannot succeed in anything if you have someone dragging you down verbally or physically. It will be demanding enough without "extra demands" from someone you love. I hope she supports you and you guys end up married for the next 50+ years! (and yes that was heart felt!)
Good luck and best wishes!