In my last role as a school nurse there was a girl who, at the age of 11 told her parents she wanted to be a boy. So,, the parents did what they could and got help from various doctors and experts, and over the course of the next 3 years I got to know this student well, and regardless of what I thought on the matter, was able to support this student. The student knew I had a different perspective but we had a good working relationship and this student appreciated a different perspective eg I disagreed with the hormone blockers, chest compression brace and eventual male hormones.
Anyway, during this student's time here, 2 close female friends of the student decided they were trans as well. The thing is, I believed they were not trans. I knew both of them had serious family issues, including a family divorce, and had also gone through the gambit of self harm - from cutting, eating disorders etc. But the rest of the group of girls all agreed they were trans, and encouraged this.
At about the same time this was happening, Brown university came out with a study looking into ROGD (rapid onset gender dysphoria) which showed that the vast majority of the teens and young adults coming out as trans, were not actually trans. They cited various issues, including media pressure as well as underlying, unresolved psychological issues. Unfortunately, because this study was not 'affirming' of their transition, the study was withdrawn due to media pressure.
Anyway, regardless of my thoughts, these students were sent to the pediatric psychologist, who promptly refused to see them. I knew the psychologist very and and she confided in me that it's far too dangerous a minefield and she could easily lose her licence. She said that basically, any opinion that did not affirm someone as trans risked it all. A second pediatric psychologist I knew also refused to see them.
Anyway, the school decided to go along with one of the girl's requests to be called a boy. I was not happy to do this, but did ask my manager if the girl's parents were aware we were calling their daughter a boy. My manager said 'Yes' the parents were aware.
I was not convinced I was being told the truth, and about one week after being told the parents were aware, the headmaster had a talk with us in the health center, and told us that if we have any communication with the parents, not to call their daughter a boy or use her boy name ie we were told to lie to the parents.
I was not happy to do this, and quit. And now I'm in the middle of the Australian desert having new adventures.
Can you recommend some of the ones you have used ??????
Oh my trauma counselor was at my local Vet Center, and they deal exclusively with military veterans who had experienced service related traumas that qualify for VA Health Care. You *obviously* wouldnt qualify for their services.
Really, now. Scurry along, little princess. Rest easy, knowing what the real men braved, for you to sit around trolling.
I don't agree with your comments, but I will fight to the death for your right to express them.
Oh my trauma counselor was at my local Vet Center, and they deal exclusively with military veterans who had experienced service related traumas that qualify for VA Health Care. You *obviously* wouldnt qualify for their services.
Really, now. Scurry along, little princess. Rest easy, knowing what the real men braved, for you to sit around trolling.
I don't agree with your comments, but I will fight to the death for your right to express them.
Thats what separates the men from the boys, son.
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I wouldn't because of my bone spurs. ???, but thank you for your service, I hope it made a difference ???
Honestly, it sounds like you (and your pediatric patients) are better off with you in the desert. No offense, and maybe you're just trying to stir the pot, but I am like super confused as to how you think you're qualified to assign genders or decide what pronoun another person should be using.
I think there are many other people who should be in the desert too, based on replies and likes to some really discriminating and hateful comments. I really hope those people don't ever have to work with people who aren't 100% straight and "normal" but I know that's a ridiculous hope. What YOU think of someone's gender identity is irrelevant because YOU aren't THEM. Really shameful.
This is a topic that hits home for me. My daughter and a group of her friends “came out” as transgender at school in the 8th grade. I was not informed of this by her school, a concerned parent informed me that my daughter along with her friends were going by male names and pronouns at school. Previous to this sudden change, my daughter was into makeup, hair, and fashion. Within a months time, she now wanted to cut her hair short and dress in masculine clothing and ditch everything that she considered feminine. When I confronted her about her new identity she informed me that she had been cutting herself, had depression, and had been inducing herself to vomit since she came out. Had this concerned parent not notified me, I would be in the dark to all of these underlying issues she was having. I had to pull her from public school and this friend group as they were all also cutting themselves and some were even making suicidal comments online. Long story short, I did a ton of research on this topic and have found that there are no solid grounds on affirming gender requests and that most kids will grow out of this. I did find a counselor for my daughter that agreed and did not focus on her requests to be a male but on her underlying issues as mentioned above and her self confidence. My daughter never did request that her counselor or her family call her by these pronouns and her new name. Now that about six months have gone by, my daughter is now thriving and living as her true self, which is a beautiful young lady who is confident in herself and participates in many extracurriculars and sports. She now tells me that she felt that all of her friends had pressured her into being transgender and that she had been following transgender teens online who also convinced her that because she had low self esteem and did not like her body that she was indeed transgender. So while many think that it’s out of respect to call a child by their preferred pronouns, think of the impact that this situation has on the mental health of the child and the devastation that this has on a family. Parents have the right to be informed before this social transition takes place. After all, a child needs permission to go on a field trip or to have sex education but a school can change your child’s name and gender without permission! People are fine with transgender ideology until it hits home and it is your child who is suffering.
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Oh my trauma counselor was at my local Vet Center, and they deal exclusively with military veterans who had experienced service related traumas that qualify for VA Health Care. You *obviously* wouldnt qualify for their services.
Really, now. Scurry along, little princess. Rest easy, knowing what the real men braved, for you to sit around trolling.
I don't agree with your comments, but I will fight to the death for your right to express them.
Thats what separates the men from the boys, son.
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