Mom is abusive to all the nurses

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That's the bad part of my new 2nd job. The good news is that I can walk to work since it is so super close to me. I can sleep in late since I am so close. I'll save money-won't have to buy any gas. It is only once a week. I can't stand abusive people but there are many benefits to be so very close to this job. So, how have you dealt with abusive moms? The patient is fine. It's the mom who is the problem. I was told that she is bipolar and is abusive to all the nurses. Yikes!!!:crying2:

I just got back from my 4 hour shift. Mom was a completely different person this evening. She even apologized for the way she treated me this morning!!!:eek: She was nice and pleasant towards me the entire evening!!!!!:yeah: She even talked to me about some of her personal problems!!!!! Unbelievable.

Don't let your guard down with her.

Yes, caliotter3 I am still going to watch my back. Thanks. I am wondering what the agency told her today?:confused: I am wondering if they told her that I was the only nurse left? Maybe they told her "It's either this nurse or no nurse." I was told that she has already chased away most of the nurses.

It could also be a manifestation of her mental illness. Don't make her behavior your problem. There are other clients out there.

I am hoping for the best. But if she gets nasty again with me that's it. I am not going to put up with a Dr. Jekyl/Mr. Hyde type. Yes, there are other clients available-absolutely.:yeah:

Specializes in LTC, Memory loss, PDN.

I'm just reading this and it's like Dejavu. I once had a case with a bipolar mom who would not take her meds on a regular basis. It's a hard life(having bipolar). I didn't want to quit the case, because the hours were perfect, but when it gets to the point where the situation does not permit you to perform your duties in a safe and reasonable manner, it's time to move on. I'm so glad it worked out so far for you. Caliotter3, YOU ROCK.

Specializes in Private Duty, L&D.

Wow, i just read this thread in disbelief. It would be so hard to work with someone so hot and cold like that Mom. How did your shift go besides her being nice to you? Have you gone back at all?

The two cases I work for are very different from each other as are the home environments. My adult vent patient has Grandma home all day but we have a separate "nurse's room" to hide in if we wish. This particular patient sleeps all day but is awake all nite. Nite shift is busy getting things done but day shift is sooo slow because he's sleeping. I spend my days talking to Grandma and watching TV in the living room.

My other job is a small home caring for two disabled children who need care and the mom is usually there with the adult disabled individual. Us nurses do not care for the adult, that's mom's job. However, he does have a PCW on occasion. There is no separate place for the nurse's, no nurses room so we spend lots of time with the Mom and disabled adult. She is mostly OK to be around. I spend alot of time on my laptop there.

Its good to plan ahead to keep busy to make the shift go by smoothly and fast.

Interesting read so far. Not knowing anything other than what's posted about this case it sounds like the agency should try sending in a male nurse to change the dynamics. She may not be as snappy with a man. Personally, I wouldn't tolerate her unacceptable behavior and try to use a more therapuetic approach that validates her feelings. Sounds like mom is attention-seeking and a social worker may be needed at this point to work with mom.

Thanks all. I don't think I will go back. I really do prefer to work evenings or nights. This job is a day shift job. Plus she requires frequent nasal suctioning which I find unbearable. I don't mind suctioning a trach or mouth but a nose?:eek: I am hoping that my other home care agency can get me some evening and night shifts for hospice patients.;)

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