Quote from RN2364
All I am asking is why some male nurses think it's ok to have female nurses do their female patient caths without checking with the patient to see if they mind.
The unbelievably horrifying inequity of this clearly bothers you a lot, so I'll tell you why it happens.
Because "she told me I could do it" will in no way protect a male nurse from the potentially career- and liberty-threatening implications of a false accusation. So much so that some won't even bother to seek consent first. Are females subject to false accusation also? Sure, but let's keep it real. I honestly don't think it should be so unimaginable that men live with that fear. It's the same fear that would stop me from rushing into the women's restroom if I heard someone yelling. My first instinct would be halted while I instead looked around for a female to send in. Do I wish this was different? Maybe. But it's not. Some stuff sucks and will continue to do so. That's people. But if you wanna bust stones, go ahead and demand that he explain the world to you.
Do some guys just do it and not present you with this problem of theirs? I'm sure. But are the other ones such major cads?
Why not just help a guy out and have him buy you a coffee later? Where's the team spirit? I'm sure he's not on here posting about why you immediately seek him out for assistance with elephant-sized patients when a perfectly capable 4'10" 85 lbs. female nurse is standing closer to you.
And don't tell me you don't.