Matt Lauer Fired due to Inappropriate Sexual Behavior. Has This Happened to You?

Apple-Core, ASN, BSN, RN · Nov 30, 2017

Admittedly it's not fair but the scope of the problem is many orders of magnitude greater when directed toward the paired X's compared to the XY's and hence a much higher priority.

I agree it is more common for men to harass women. However, it is still unacceptable for women to harass men, and also it is not taken as seriously. It happened to my brother, and I know he had a heck of a time reporting it.

Yes, it's happened to me. I used to have a manager that would come up behind me making grunting noises and sniffing. It was absolutely repulsive. Had another manager who used to talk about his sex life and would grab his crotch and tell us (the females) it was "aching from so much use". When I confronted him about it (stupidly alone in the office) he became very aggressive and ended up calling me the C word. I reported it to his manager, but it was a "boys club" atmosphere and nothing happened.

Apple-Core, ASN, BSN, RN · Nov 30, 2017

Men have just as much of a right to not be harassed, assaulted or raped as women do. The gender of the perpetrators and the victims does not matter. It all needs to end. It's not too much to ask to feel safe at work (or school, the bus, home, or anywhere else you might want to venture).

100% agree. I'm no prude - I don't care what you do as long as the other adult(s) involved are consenting. As soon as you involve non-consent, then there is a major, major problem.

bgxyrnf, MSN, RN · Nov 30, 2017

Men have just as much of a right to not be harassed, assaulted or raped as women do. The gender of the perpetrators and the victims does not matter. It all needs to end. It's not too much to ask to feel safe at work (or school, the bus, home, or anywhere else you might want to venture).

As I said, it's certainly not fair nor appropriate.

However, I think at the current moment in our national psyche and dialog, it's inappropriate for men to pipe up with "me, too."

Elvish, BSN, DNP, RN, NP · Nov 30, 2017

Men have just as much of a right to not be harassed, assaulted or raped as women do. The gender of the perpetrators and the victims does not matter. It all needs to end. It's not too much to ask to feel safe at work (or school, the bus, home, or anywhere else you might want to venture).

Agreed, 100%. The male victims of Kevin Spacey's abuse should be supported and believed just as the female victims of [insert whatever powerful man is behaving badly today, because tomorrow there will be another].

The most enormous difference is, women are socialized our entire lives to keep men happy. To keep them from getting angry with us, because who is to say that the butt grab today, if we report it or tell them to stop, won't turn into an assault on our lives tomorrow? Women are told we shouldn't wear that dress, or we shouldn't be drinking, or we shouldn't be at that party, or we shouldn't be out alone at night, and a ton of other unwritten rules that men as a group literally never have to spend a second thinking about, in order to 'prevent' sexual assault. The reality is, men need to behave better.

Most (if not all) women I know have a story to tell about sexual harassment or sexual assault. Most if not all women I know take precautions to attempt keep themselves safe in literally every public space they ever go to. Does every man you know have to do this? If not, why not?

Daisy Joyce · Nov 30, 2017

Part of the problem is that girls are still socialized to be nice and sweet and get along.

Girls also doubt themselves (was it really as bad as I remember? Was it really that big a deal?)

Some men also have a nasty trick of mocking at an allegation of inappropriate conduct with an insult ("please, like i would really go after someone who looks like that")("yeah well, she should be flattered")

Girls need to learn their value has nothing to do with their looks, their popularity, or what they can do for people.

Everline · Nov 30, 2017

Yes, it has happened to me more than once in my lifetime. It was awful. No one cared. At those times, it was just "one of those things". You know, boys will be boys. Men will be men.

It still makes me sad and angry.

Career Columnist / Author · Dec 1, 2017

Often as women we are taken by surprise and let an incident go to not rock the boat. Sometimes we don't even fully realize

what's happened until later.

buffalobilly · Dec 1, 2017

'...nearly all women...'? I seriously doubt 'nearly all women' have been harassed in some fashion. If so, then it would be naive to say they are 'harassed' at a higher frequency than men.

heron, ASN, RN · Dec 1, 2017

'...nearly all women...'? I seriously doubt 'nearly all women' have been harassed in some fashion. If so, then it would be naive to say they are 'harassed' at a higher frequency than men.

This makes no sense at all.

Penelope_Pitstop, BSN, RN · Dec 1, 2017

While working in healthcare (my industry since 2005), no.

While working in the restaurant industry, multiple times by multiple managers.

bgxyrnf, MSN, RN · Dec 1, 2017

'...nearly all women...'? I seriously doubt 'nearly all women' have been harassed in some fashion. If so, then it would be naive to say they are 'harassed' at a higher frequency than men.

In the broadest definition of harassment and expanding the scope beyond the workplace, I think it's probably true that the large majority of women have been harassed at some point in their lives.

To claim that women are no more likely to be harassed than men is absurd because of the power inequality in what remains a patriarchal society.

Teresag_CNS · Dec 1, 2017

I was interviewed two days ago by NBC news reporter Elizabeth Chuck regarding sexual harassment of nurses. She wants to hear from others. My interview lasted about 15 minutes. We need to tell these stories. Thank you for speaking up, nurses!