Male Nurse, Female issues?

nursetim, NP · Oct 17, 2010

Dude, I've had them tell me about their cycles. :rolleyes: It is better now that I am an NP though with one exception. I recommend testosterone fueled activities.

remifentanil · Oct 31, 2010

And you do NOT,, repeat NOT want to be treated like one of the girls.... Before I got into a nursing speciality that was male dominated.. I was an ICU nurse for many years.... on a night shift years ago.. I was sitting charting... before computers....and tuned into a conversation that was occurring across the table from me.. and .. I AM NOT MAKING THIS UP... was a conversation about what all three of these airheads boyfriends SEMEN TASTED LIKE.

You want no part of that kind of crap.

RLeeRN · Nov 20, 2010

Being one of two males when I was in nursing school I remember the endless chatter about this and that and that and this. I had no clue what in the world was so interesting that they found time to stand at the nurses station while I was flying up and down the halls caring for patients, sweating like a pig! I was even told that I looked to focused to some other students and therefore was making them uneasy. I want to do the best job I can to care for people, back up my co-workers, but not engage in drama of any kind. Life is to short, God is to good, and my family is all the world to me, so I have no need to seek out mindless chitter chatter when I have real important things to focus on.

Anyway, when we switched to Critical Care/ER rotations I remember one of my female nursing instructors who spent most of her career in the ER Trauma background telling some of the ladies that they needed to learn how to engaged in man talk....Direct to the point, no time for feelings to be hurt or reading into tone of voice. Nothing personal. She was not one to stand around talking about the cutest scrubs ever, but indepth understanding of what was going on with a patient clinically at any given time.

GHGoonette, BSN, RN · Nov 20, 2010

Quick way of getting rid of the gossip:
"Betty is such a lazy piece of crap (blah blah blah)"
"Oh really? Every time I've had any interactions with her it's always been amicable. Actually she's helped me out quite a bit."
"Ashley is such a backstabbing *****"
"I've not heard any gossip coming from her so I wouldn't know."
Even quicker way: "That's your problem. Kindly don't make your problem my problem."
I do think, however, that if women and men handled things in the same way things would be so much easier. "Dude you left me a f*cking mess"
Sigh. Wish I could say that. Just once....

GM2RN · Nov 25, 2010

god i wish it was normal conversation! i wasn't hoping they shared in the male locker room conversations but i was hoping they would share in what i would consider normal conversation! its fine they complain once in a while, its only to be expected, but i feel like im the dumpster for all that is bad, whenever they have something depressing i would be the first to hear about it. i dont know what it is about me but it seems to draw out those feelings in them! one time one of the nurses told me and i quote "your too happy you know that" i didnt know you could be too happy!!. its fine though i've grown to accept that and let it come in one ear go straight out of the other.
as for the backbiting im the newest person on the floor, so i dont know any of the staff well enough however i find alot of them passive aggressive towards each other, and me included, there are definite clicks on this floor i prefer to remain neutral

What you have to get it that men and women are different, and their conversation IS normal for them.

noctanol · Dec 27, 2010

Hi Everyone
I Have to get this off my chest before i explode. is it just me or do female nurses treat you the same way they would treat a girlfriend? ... k that came out wrong! my dilemma is do female workers in your place of employment tell you about the awful hairdresser and the sloppy husband and the tuna casserole that went bad and the guy in room 303 that is checking her butt out and the diet they are on.... or is it just me. i dont mean to be rude or anything but for the love of god and all that is holy there are days when ive had 70 bajillion code browns and i dont want to hear this on the 15 min break i get. sometimes i feel like taping their mouth shut with that flimsy tape they call tape. and another thing do you guys get the 1 nurse telling u that nurse whatever is a ***** and then nurse whatever telling you that nurse 2 is a ***** and nurse 2 telling you that nurse 1 is a *****... and you dont want to hurt anyones feelings so you just nod in agreement... cause to be honest im sick of playing this game, there are days where i would rather eat my lunch in the john than listen to another word of this dribble
lol well glad thats off my chest

what else do you want them to talk about, cars and booty???? all they do is try to strike conversations, you are the odd one out. We have male CNA's, nurses who interact. WHT u dont know is that females like a good listener and you might just be that. Try and make them your enemy and you are going to be the talk of town,

exit96 · Jan 17, 2011

Each gender has their specific default conversation tendencies. And within the genders we find folks with certain interests sometimes that are able to talk about something a little more interesting than the 'Norm." With the women I find that most, in my experience, CONSTANTLY talk about; their kids, cooking, their kids, what a jerk the husband is, their kids, photos of their kids, diets...