Lost hope :(

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Ok so I don't really know where to begin! Today was my first training day at my new job, which is like no other place I have ever seen nor heard of. The sound and classroom training had me so eager to start and build a relationship with the patients! Well today I have spent 90% of the shift crying (which is pretty unlike me). My trainer was an older nurse with 20+ years experience so I thought wow I'm going to learn so much, boy was I wrong. I come in she throws the MARS on the table says here's the meds (in a cabinet, which is sooo out of my element) and then she says set up your meds and she leaves... Well I don't really feel comfortable pre poping meds especially on people I don't know... Well long story short she comes back makes several rude comments and then starts freaking out. Amongst the crisis of her melt down the PTs come to the window ( which again I'm not used to) and she starts telling me to give them meds. I'm running like crazy.. Point of the story I made a med error which I have never done and it broke my heart. I have always prided myself on being a prudent nurse. I take complete responsibly for the med error but I'm just soo upset that I feel like I was set up to fail! I guess my question is are there still caring nurses out there? I became a nurse to help and I took this job because I loved what it was all about but seeing in one day how unprofessional and rude people are just makes me lose hope! I mean she didn't just talk to me like this it was the PTs as well. Maybe I am naive and what not but I have been nursing alone now for about 2 years and I already feel burnt out but I don't take that out on the people who need me most.

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Are you in a prison or rehab?

Usually they come to the window with ID you can match against the MARS. What did the classroom training involve?

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No I'm In a place residential living program for adults and children with behavioral problems. They don't have any real identifiers some have pictures in the MAR

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Are you in a prison or rehab?

Usually they come to the window with ID you can match against the MARS. What did the classroom training involve?

The training was mainly for the techs.. Just on holds, restraints, and behavioral classes

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Specializes in Emergency Nursing.

After working in a hospital environment, I am not sure I can ever comfortably go back to anywhere other than the hospital.

I don't ever want to be where you are at now ever again, CNLLVN. I will say, it does get better, but it takes many months of tears to be shed, lots of binge eating, stretch marks from the binge eating, vesicular ischemia from the atherosclerosis, HTN from the arteriosclerosis, excessive cortisol release and a depressed immune system, when you go to wash your hands, you realize your out of soap AGAIN and thus can't wash your hands and you know you REALLY need to wash your hands because you're immunocompromised from excessive stress and then the MI or stroke happens....

heaven help us all.

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Hang in there and don't let a sour nurse ruin you on nursing. Do your best, maybe she's testing you. I will say she probably has a lot of experience she might eventually share. Don't let her make you leave.

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Hang in there, you can do the job. Don't let another nurse intimidate or rush you! Take your time and do it correctly. It won't be long before it's second nature. Good luck.

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I'm hoping. I'm going to be a float on every "dorm" but it seems a little better vibe on the children's side versus the adult! I'm just prayer for a better day than yesterday! I am hoping the rest of the nurses are actually nice caring people and not mean and rude! Thanks for all the support guys!

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Specializes in ICU.

Keep your chin up, and your mind open- give it a chance, maybe even 2. Good luck and hugs to you.

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CNLLVN, I had an externship for two months and found that I had difficulty fitting in one of the clinics. I was the only male and felt picked on by the main LVN Lead. The LVN was always accusatory. I learned to be assertive, which actually made me feel good--it helped create confidence and a parameter for me to work in. I eventually floated (By my request) to a different clinic; the other clinic was Sooooooo much better. The LVN there was nice to me and helped me become a better MA. I learned that not all places are the same. I look forward to hearing about things improving for you!!

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Thanks everyone for the feedback! I'm still hanging in there I just don't know for how much longer. The more I observe and I am around I notice so many things that make me a bit nervous. They don't chart like I am comfortable with ( that's what is going to save my license if something happens) the most I have seen is a 3 sentence nurses note on an "assessment" done on a child who had a really bad behavior issue. The med pass is crazy to me how the pre pop meds put them in a container and carry them all around this 400 acre campus.. How is that state legal? Idk if they fall under a different credential?? But I will stick it out and do what I need to for the time I can.. But I was also promised part time and they consider prn part time sooo I may only get a shift or two every couple of week : /

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OMG! I feel like you are going through the same thing I did my last term of school. The only advice I have for the way she treats you is stand tall. When she tries to say mean things or boss you around be assertive and let you know these are YOUR patients and will not allow her to bully you. Second with the charting, a professor of mine gave me advice once to have your own nursing journal. Every night when you get home jot down your events of the day in detail without violating HIPPA. She did this every day for twenty years on those yellow legal pads. One day she was asked to appear in court for some situation and luckily she had her notes to reference back to and she actually ended up winning because of them. So moral of story, take notes to save your butt if need be. Hope things are better for you now :-)

Grad May 2013, Licensed July 2013 , Charge Nurse at Skilled Nursing Facility in OR

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