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it's been a rough start to the new school year. my young 2nd grader has, what seems, a severe learning disablility. we have an appt next week for a psychologist, but it can't come soon enough. it's so frustrating for me and i'm sure just as bad, if not worse, for him. i usually end up getting angry and yelling at my child before our lessons are done. i know he can't help it, but i just don't understand. some of the simplest tasks such as remembering a nickel is 5 cents, a dime is 10 cents..... and counting by 5s and 10s this should be a learned skill by now and is by most 2nd graders. sometimes, he'll just throw a guess out there....like tonight i wanted an odd number between 85-88 and he said 33. i'm so sorry and love my child very much. i am seeking help, i hope we can both get the help we need.

we had issues like this last year as well, but we both worked very hard and he earned fairly good grades. the school work is much more difficult this year, so we will be having a much harder time. i also had testing done last year, by the diagnostician at the public school, and showed my child to be at the lower end of the average student. this time we'll see a doctor that can put a definitive diagnoses and hopefully get the help we need.

is there anybody else out there that has been through this? please offer me some words of encouragement. it's awful. it was a bad night and i got upset, needless to say, my child and i were both crying!

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Homeschooling is what finnally helped.

I've thought of homeschooling, but what does a person do for social interaction when the child is being homeschooled. I know of a high school student that has been home schooled for most of his life and I believe he is the shyest person I've ever seen. Won't speak to anybody.

Our public school district has home school program but we used the one through Kern County Superintendent of Schools. http://www.valleyoakscharterschool.org/

They were wonderful!!! I was able to put a little less time on SS and science and more time on Land Arts and math. Went we went to the grocery store my kids would have to count out the dollars and cent to pay the right amount. Cooking counted as math too--doubling a recipe for cookies had to be done by them. All this counted toward homeschooling. I was also surprised at how little time we spent homeschooling--usually from 9 am til noon with a PE break in between then 1 hr after lunch. For socializing we met other HS families at the park 1-3 times a week for PE and fun. We HS parents would come up with our own field trips too. Sometimes (I have a motorhome that sleeps 10) I would load up moms and kids and we would go to the beach for 4-5 days of play and HS on the picnic tables. Our HS program also help weekly field trips and had enrichment classes. Enrichment classes met 1 day a weeks for 1-3 hrs and usually had a hands on science experiment or LA class taught by a teacher. It gave the kids interaction time also. And you begin to look for interaction time. Our parks and recs from the city has art classes, basketball etc. Soccer is also interactive.

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Depending on what area you live in, you may be surprised to find a very active homeschooling community! I'm near St. Louis, and there is a thriving network out here; pretty much any style you can think of, there's an active group. I researched it myself for DS but then decided that he and I butted heads too much.

Something else, another poster made me think of it, see if you can figure out what kind of learner your son is. Schools do not teach well to kinesthetic (sp?) learners (or "hands on"). They are built to function best when teaching visual and auditory learners. We had issues with teaching money as well; even with pictures on the paper, my stepson had a hard time. Once I got out the change jar and we started playing around with the actual coins, though, it was like a light went off.

There are all kinds of resources online for teaching/teachers that you can get stuff off of....I used to use edhelper.com to get printables for the kids (I think there's a nominal fee, like $20/year). Do a search on homeschooling resources and all kinds of stuff will come up; not saying that you necessarily need to homeschool him exclusively, but if you think about it, that's what you're doing after school with him anyway. Might as well get some advice and possibly even materials from other parents who have been there.

Sorry if I sound a little disjointed...I've been up for nearly 28 hours now....

I had similar problems with my now 3rd grade daughter. I tried many different tutors to no avail. Finally, someone recommended Huntington learning center to us. They start by giving a full educational eval. which showed that she had problems in math and reading comprehension. They assured us that they could help get her back up to grade level. We were very skeptical since we tried many different avenues with no success, but decided to give it a try.

The progress she has made is amazing!!!!!!!!!

She attended 3x's a week over the summer and continues to go after school 3 days a week for 2 hrs.

Now she does her homework on her own, even math!!!!!!!!

I would highly recommend this franchise to anyone who has children struggling in school.

It is very expensive though. But it is well worth it to see our daughter actually like to do her homework now. Her self confidence has grown a lot.

Do you have any thing like this in your area? we're from ny.

Well, my prinicipal said this hurt the teacher's feelings and not to go around her. The prinicipal has also called me "obsessed" and has also asked me if drugs were used during pregnancy. THE GALL Of that woman !!! I'm so hurt by her comments! Yet she sends home a parent school year manual that says the parents should be involved with their child. So I get involved, I get obsessed:crying2:.

You never know...this could be a HUGE part of your son's problem...if he is being singled out by the teacher not being taught...any student would get poor grades.

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Hi!

I'm the mom of a LD child - she's almost 20 - and will hopefully graduate from a private school for kids with LDs and cognitive disorders. We have been through much grief, many tears and battles over the years. We tried private school and public schools. It was not until last year we were referred to a very specialized school for kids with IQs 70-100 with significant LDs/cog impairment and for the first time in her life is experiencing success in school and is a totally different person.

She will never go to college, that is not her path. Her LD is now classified as "static encephalopathy". She'd been chronically hypoxic and has had several anoxic hits (CHD). She processes extremely slowly. Her new school focuses on real world education - how to apply that science lesson to your real life, etc.

Your principal and this new teacher have bigger problems than your child. They are accountable to you - you pay their salaries. Their attitudes are totally unacceptable.

You are not alone. There are so many others in your shoes. Feel free to pick their brains. Check out what's available in your community.

Hugs,

Cindy

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thanks so much. i never realized there would be so many understanding people. i thought i'd catch some flack for admitting to getting frustrated and yelling. you all are great, thank you so much. this has helped me a lot. :)

thanks so much. i never realized there would be so many understanding people. i thought i'd catch some flack for admitting to getting frustrated and yelling. you all are great, thank you so much. this has helped me a lot. :)

We have ALL been there. I have come home from school, and the kids have been out of control, and I have found myself being the wicked witch of the west and more than once I have yelled to turn around and see two of the most precious kids eyes well up into tears.

That is when you scoop them up, give them a big hug...tell them how sorry you are..and say, "You know, sometimes Mommy's make mistakes too."

My children are very understanding...now they are old enough to understand, "Mommy just needs a few minutes to herself."

You aren't mad at your son...you are yelling because you are scared for him...and it's hard to control your emotions sometimes.

Just do the best you can...show that you love him at every opportunity and he WILL know that when you do lose it that you are having a "moment".

So Britney how is it going? Any better? Keep us posted!

I don't have children, but have friends with LDs and used to peer tutor others with LDs. What I found really helped with the people I was tutoring was to try and relate as much back to their interests as possible. I worked with two 113 year old boys who had slipped through the cracks and were unable to read.

To encourage their reading I spent time talking to time talking to them to find out their interests and tried to focus as much of what we did to their interests - for example one of the boys liked motorbikes so we concentrated on reading anything about motorbikes and I presented him with the idea that by improving his reading he could potentially get a manual on restoring motorbikes and restore one himself as he got older...

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So Britney how is it going? Any better? Keep us posted!

The last few days at work has actually helped me out of my depression with this situation. Last week was so depressing for me....couldn't leave the house or hardly get out of bed. We have an appt with a PH.D. very soon that will hopefully give us a definitive diagnoses and also give me some sort of resources to help us both. We saw a psychologist last week and waiting for test results but it's almost certain we're dealing with ADHD; I basically knew that already. I also think we're dealing with dyslexia and also possibly dyscalculia, that is from internet research I've been doing. Thanks for asking. I'm really trying to lighten up with my child and not work so hard for the sake of our own mental health. Soon, maybe we'll have a solution to this problem.

Thank you. It feels good to know that I'm not alone. Thank you so much. :loveya:

Trust me, you are not alone. I am going through a very similar situation. I have just learned to be patient. I know that neither him or I can control his LD. I definitely try to reward him with high fives, snacks, or whatever, to show that he's doing well. I think it's encouraging for him and he seems to retain things more when he's recognized for them. For us, repitition is the key. Best of luck to you.

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