This thread is quiet interesting. Until recently, I had not been a "victim," but found myself in an untenable position.
I have been successful in my jobs prior to my last job as a nurse. I take responsibility for my actions and don't make excuses. I am burnt to a crisp and will probably never work in a field I was passionate about. My co-workers know my caliber of work and watched in horror as the events that led to my quitting unfolded. My FMLA rights were violated, my basic rights violated (attempting to deny my lunch break - making sure that I lost my differential in the process). I did have a bad day, got ambushed (was told a meeting was about one thing only to find out it was totally different). I was in the process of transferring to another unit and that was derailed.
The unit I resigned from (I had worked in this system for 15 years) has seen 5 RNs resign in under 2 years - no one had jobs lined up but could no longer tolerate working for this manager. The unit is small, maximum of 15 people full & part time. I had stellar reviews.
I am sad to say that a co-worker has taken my place as "the whipping girl." She has tried unsuccessfully to transfer out (manager has bad mouthed an excellent nurse).
I am happy to say, though, that my blood pressure is now normal. I am able to take care of my back (we had heavy call schedule) appropriately and have had only 1 flare up of back problems. Even though I am now lugging SCUBA equipment, my back remains good!
Are there "victims" who are truly their own worst enemy - for sure. Then again, some of us have truly been victimized - 5 people in 1 unit can't be wrong. Hope the "higher ups" have taken note of the turnover rate.