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Specializes in aged -adolescent.

Hi all

Just wanted to let you know I lost my beloved husband last Saturday morning at 0140 hrs. Life will never be the same. We were told he died peacefully and we were supposed to be contacted but it must have happened too quickly. I got to say a lot to him earlier that day and he had a nice funeral with many of the carers in attendance. He was definitely waiting for the family to come and especially our daughter (RN/midwife and now expecting). I think it said a lot for the carers that even towards the end he just didn't want to go into any other care because he liked the staff and I've told them that. It's very lonely here now so I will probably be checking in more often while I am waiting for a job to come up.

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Specializes in Med/Surg/Ortho/HH/Radiology-Now Retired.

My deepest sympathy to you. May it be some small comfort knowing others care and are thinking of you.

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i am so sorry to hear that.

i pray for you.

be strong.

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Specializes in ICU.

Deepest sympathy for your loss.

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Specializes in Theatre.

Have been keeping you in my prayers. I gathered from a previous post that his death was imminent. My heart goes out to you. Allow yourself time to grieve. It takes time to adjust to a major change in your life circumstances. I pray all goes well with your daughter's pregnancy.

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Specializes in aged -adolescent.

Thanks everyone for your responses.

I did subsequently find out someone had been with my man when he did die,they weren't expecting it so quickly. The male carer was in the room at 1.20 am and at 1.40am Col died, just stopped breathing very peacefully from what I hear. Knowing that, it is a great comfort. Sorry I have taken so long to respond but I have been for a break down south and actually caught flu.

Now for the good news I have an interview for possible grad program on the 20th this month. Should I tell them about making a medication error. ( I was told I should have revealed this by a smaller hospital which is run by the people with whom I have the interview even though it did not occur at their hospital). I feel the NUM was just being very picky and I am prepared to tell them should it come up. Any suggestions. I am really looking forward to this and should I not be chosen for a grad program I want to ask about the possibility of a transitional part time program. Thanks

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First I would like to offer my condolences to you...you are remarkable in your strength. About mentioning med error, if you were applying for a nursing job, that might be something you'd need to mention. However, for a grad program, I don't see how this is something that needs to be mentioned. If things are different in Australia, and not mentioning it could be a potential problem for the reasons you mentioned, then I would find the best possible way to bring it up and just get it out there. Perhaps they will ask some of those 'pat' interview questions (ie. What is your greatest strength/skill/nursing talent? Weakness? Etc.). If so, maybe you can work it into one of those answers, with THIS advice: don't work it into an answer that it obvious. If asked your greatest weakness, don't say "giving medications because I made a med error once". Instead, if asked about your nursing strengths, you might be able to mention how you handled medications for x number of years, under all kinds of pressure. That you had a medication error once, and while it shames you, you were forthright in bringing it to someone's attention and this makes you proud, even as you are so regretful that it happened.

Maybe I'm way out there and these are dumb suggestions. Just trying to brainstorm here, on your behalf...My best to you & your family!

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Specializes in Medical.

Deepest sympathies - however expected, the loss is no less grievous.

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Specializes in Theatre.

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You've had a difficult year to date with lots of stress and grief. As you move from one phase in your life to another it is important to be positive. From memory the medication error was not entirely your fault. If it comes up I would be inclined to say you have leant from past situations during your clinical placements ie. that errors occur because of a series of events rather than one specific action and that through an event you have learnt the value of adhering to correct procedures eg to check everything yourself and not just rely on someone else's word no matter how experienced that person is. Don't stress too much on this issue. What they will be looking for is someone who is confident, willing to learn, adaptable, good interpersonal skills, enthusiastic etc. You have the knowledge, you have life skills. Sell yourself positivley. Do you have to complete selection criteria for a grad program? If not it may help to get hold of selection criteria for a Level 1 and use it as a guide to presenting yourself.

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Oh, no... I am so sorry to hear this... my deepest condolences as well as prayers for you and your family. May you feel uplifted from your friends around the world holding you up in prayer. We are always here for you...

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Specializes in aged -adolescent.

Thank you all. I shall let you know how I get on. This is a terrific site and I thank you all for being there, for comforting those of us who have problems and because of the positiveness you display. I know you've helped me tremendously.

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my deepest sympathy and a heartfelt words for your husband i will be reaching out to pray for the soul of ur beloved husband

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