Just graduated but I am sad

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Specializes in GI Surgery Step-down.

I just graduated last Friday and passed my classes w successfully. I am sad because almost 10-12 student failed from OB class avarage of 74-74.4 -73 and so. All those students were passed successfully other class. The ob class coordinator ****** of this semester because we did complained her to chairperson. She told us unit three exam will be chapter 19-20 only. And exam was cumulative entire topics so fat we learned. Everyone failed badly ! Some of us passed. And final even was so weird. People who got 80s unit 1-2-3 failed on final exam. I am so depressed and don't even wanna go graduation. Any idea what we can do! I hope I will be feeling better soon. :(

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I'm just going to offer some advice in a matter-of-fact way to you:

1. be happy and proud that you passed

2. offer emotional support to those that didn't pass

3. focus your energy on studying for the NCLEX instead of worrying about your peers that didn't pass. There are always going to be those who pass and those who don't. Like I said, you need to focus on the next step and beginning your career, not on the past.

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Specializes in GI Surgery Step-down.
I'm just going to offer some advice in a matter-of-fact way to you:

1. be happy and proud that you passed

2. offer emotional support to those that didn't pass

3. focus your energy on studying for the NCLEX instead of worrying about your peers that didn't pass. There are always going to be those who pass and those who don't. Like I said, you need to focus on the next step and beginning your career, not on the past.

Thanks

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You mentioned you had complained to the chairperson about her. Rule #1 in Nursing Fight Club is never to retaliate against those who hold the upper hand. And she clearly did and your friends paid the ultimate price. But from a different point of view, I believe statistically that that amount of failure is normal. Our program loses upwards of 20 each semester; in our school of 120 incoming class, we dwindled down to the 90's going from Fundamentals into Med Surg and then we went down to the 70's for Med Surg II. So around graduation there are only about 50; less than half of the class made it.

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Specializes in Prior military RN/current ICU RN..

"any idea what I can do"?? Yes be an adult and a professional nurse and move on with your life. If you don't want to go to the graduation that is your right as an adult. No one is going to make you attend, however I think sucking it up and finishing what you started shows maturity and a willingness to complete something no matter what. I am trying to understand..if things don't go exactly like you want you just get depressed and quit? That will not serve you well as an RN. Understand as a professional nurse you need to be aware of the big picture and that sometimes you won't agree with doctors orders. Just as you won't always agree with every single instructor you have.

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Specializes in GI Surgery Step-down.
You mentioned you had complained to the chairperson about her. Rule #1 in Nursing Fight Club is never to retaliate against those who hold the upper hand. And she clearly did and your friends paid the ultimate price. But from a different point of view, I believe statistically that that amount of failure is normal. Our program loses upwards of 20 each semester; in our school of 120 incoming class, we dwindled down to the 90's going from Fundamentals into Med Surg and then we went down to the 70's for Med Surg II. So around graduation there are only about 50; less than half of the class made it.

Things are not fair And this makes me upset. They could be fair to everyone instead of playing games !! I think this is not professionalism!! While they try to teach us how to be professional...

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Specializes in ICU.

Nursing tests usually ARE cumulative. Everything you learn in nursing classes builds on itself. I don't see why that would surprise anyone. The NCLEX will be based on everything you have learned. I agree, move forward.

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Specializes in Pedi.
Things are not fair And this makes me upset. They could be fair to everyone instead of playing games !! I think this is not professionalism!! While they try to teach us how to be professional...

First, life isn't fair. It would serve you well to realize that now before you enter the real world of nursing.

Second, I don't really see what's unfair about this. Students who met passing standards passed and those who didn't failed. That's par the course for school and VERY fair.

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Nursing tests usually ARE cumulative. Everything you learn in nursing classes builds on itself. I don't see why that would surprise anyone. The NCLEX will be based on everything you have learned. I agree, move forward.

Albeit true, you gave kind of a harsh response... The OP stated that the instructor explicitly stated the final would only cover chapters 19 and 20. My adult health final was, in fact, not cumulative, for what it's worth.

OP, people will fail, try again, and pass or either fail out completely. It's easier said than done but your only option is to focus on yourself because you are most important. It is exceptionally sad to see people go, but that's how it is unfortunately. Have a nice break and congrats on GRADUATING NURSING SCHOOL! YOU made it! Get some headspace over Christmas break and then prepare to study your butt off for NCLEX and finally enter your career. Congrats again. :)

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Specializes in Critical Care, ED, Cath lab, CTPAC,Trauma.
Things are not fair And this makes me upset. They could be fair to everyone instead of playing games !! I think this is not professionalism!! While they try to teach us how to be professional...

Life is seldom fair...((HUGS)) Be happy that you passed and pass NCLEX. It is what it is...there will always be those who do not pass.

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Specializes in Neuro, Telemetry.

No reason to be upset. You passed. Some classmates didn't pass, and maybe there was some intentional harshness from the instructor as retaliation for reporting her, but that's life. It's not always fair and we just have to do the best with what we have an deal with it. My cohort started with 90 students. We lost 40 by the end. Then with repeats for block 2, we started with 80. I'm not sure of exact numbers, but I know we lost at least 20 students by the end. I have asked people from fourth block about their class, and was told that by block 4 less than half the original cohort is graduating together with students who have repeated a semester to join our cohort.

Basically from experience from my class combined with what I hear here, losing a good amount do students by graduation is pretty normal.

Dont dwell on another students failure. Celebrate your success. If those who failed truly want to be nurses, they will find another way.

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The compassion you feel for your fallen classmates is an admirable trait that will serve you as a nurse, HOWEVER becoming overly involved will hurt you even more once you start your career. You Will be an advocate for your patients, and as such you SHOULD care, but you will lose patients and that NEVER feels fair. You need to learn to keep your distance and stay removed enough so that each loss doesn't affect you so badly that you end up burned out or depressed.

Celebrate your victory, be kind to those who failed, but don't take it so to heart. Move on and best of luck in your career.

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