Job Discrimnation !

Tweety, BSN, RN · Jun 27, 2007

the reason why i post this question. is that i want for a job interview. and the person that interview was tell me to stay away from the room that likes to gossip ok. the interview was about to hand me employess hand book, when i told her how i get defensive about sitting in a room where someone is talking about their sex life, or sitting just f-this and f-that etc etc. not once did i say anything about god ok.
plus i told her that when i go on break i usely in up going out to my vehicle because i don't want to hear it, i mean you can't tell that person or people to shut up or how you feel right? so the interviewer took back the employees hand back. i just want you people opinion. did i preach to her no i didn't. maybe my title doesn't match my question.

Maybe she didn't think you were a good match. She's looking for the best employee for the job, and this includes getting along with the people already there, not someone that sits in their car isolating. But it does seem strange that she told you to stay away from gossip and when you told her how you dealt with it, she was turned off.

Next time leave it all out. If someone tells you "stay away from the gossips", say "thanks for the advice. I'll do that".....instead of saying "yeah, I'm so turned off by sex talk, and f-this and f-that". Keep it simple.

Take this as a learning experience rather than being discriminated against because you believe in God.

buildingmyfaith57 · Jun 27, 2007

Maybe she didn't think you were a good match. She's looking for the best employee for the job, and this includes getting along with the people already there, not someone that sits in their car isolating. But it does seem strange that she told you to stay away from gossip and when you told her how you dealt with it, she was turned off.
Next time leave it all out. If someone tells you "stay away from the gossips", say "thanks for the advice. I'll do that".....instead of saying "yeah, I'm so turned off by sex talk, and f-this and f-that". Keep it simple.
Take this as a learning experience rather than being discriminated against because you believe in God.

thank you tweety for your advice. but know tweety how many co-wokers do you know that does their best to a volved going to the break room, or the smoking area because of the swearing that goes on? and you don't have to talk about god ? if it looks like im trying to argy im sorry its not my intention.

buildingmyfaith57 · Jun 27, 2007

Yeah, I think regardless of god or the "F" word, telling your potential employer that you can't socialize with others and instead spend time hiding out in your car to be a big red flag. In interviews, don't we try to put our BEST food forward? Before you alienate yourself from your potential future co-workers, wouldn't it be good to first see if you can actually find a friend there to spend breaks with?

i have didn't say anything to the interview about god.

period and two she doesn't know i beleive in god.

ukstudent · Jun 27, 2007

i have didn't say anything to the interview about god.
period and two she doesn't know i beleive in god.

Now I am really confused. You the OP wrote about discrimination based on talking about god. Now you say it had nothing to do with talking about god, because you didn't. I think you are upset that you did not get the job that you were interviewing for and are trying to blame it on discrimination. I see none.

Tweety, BSN, RN · Jun 28, 2007

Nothing wrong with avoiding gossipy people in the breakroom.

Is English your first language?

ceecel.dee, MSN, RN · Jun 28, 2007

Pray for them, OP. Privately, just between you and God. Forgive them, too.
For we wrestle not against flesh and blood but against....spiritual wickedness in high places.

See.....even this, spoken in earnest (I assume) can sound condescending and even threatening to those who are not coming from the same "place" as you are.

OP...I can see why you could be inadvertantly misunderstood.

No one who offers up to the interviewer the insight that you gave her about how you percieve the existing staff can actually expect to be hired. Your mistake was giving out TOO much personal information. You must play the game! In America we must (or at least try to) smile through life...good and bad (it's expected)...and that would probably serve you well in your job hunt.

Tweety, BSN, RN · Jun 28, 2007

See.....even this, spoken in earnest (I assume) can sound condescending and even threatening to those who are not coming from the same "place" as you are.

Thanks. I let it slide without commenting but since you did. The "spiritual wickedness in high places" reference could definately be misunderstood.

buildingmyfaith57 · Jun 28, 2007

Now I am really confused. You the OP wrote about discrimination based on talking about god. Now you say it had nothing to do with talking about god, because you didn't. I think you are upset that you did not get the job that you were interviewing for and are trying to blame it on discrimination. I see none.

no im not upset.