Jealous much?

[HeatherB,CST]

I am so frustrated with some of my classmates...If anyone knows the best way to handle this, please help.

I am taking pre-reqs this semester, and I am doing really well. Like I am so busy kicking a** that I don't even have time to take names.

That said, I do not run around school acting like Little Miss Know-it all, and I really just keep to myself for the most part with the exception of a few other motivated, excited, dedicated students, with whom I study, etc. We are running into the problem of the students who are not doing as well being nasty and vicious to us because we are "good students".

I was yelled at the other day, by a girl half my age, whose essay I was assigned to proofread (the prof assigned trades). It was really bad, like I am not sure how she graduated high school. It looked as though a second grader had texted it to me. I said nothing to her about how awful it was, I mostly just felt sorry for her. I proofed it, and when she saw how many marks I made on it, she began hollering about how I "disrespected" her. WHAT??? I said nothing personally combattive to her, not even a sideways glance, I just corrected the hundreds of spelling, capitalization, grammatical, and punctualization errors she had made.

In Biology, the faction of kids who generally sleep in class (if they show up at all) have started harassing my lab table if we do not let them see our lecture notes, lab books, etc. We have gone to the prof about it, and she talked to them I guess, because now they just glare at us and kick our backpacks and mutter hateful things when they walk by.

I never expected college to be so much like grammar school! I was detested in elementary because I was labeled a "gifted child" and got pulled out of class all the time for gifted child programs, to sit in classes 2 grades ahead of me, etc. I grew up thinking "genius" was a dirty word. Now, as an adult, I hoped I wouldn't have to deal with this crap. These are young adults acting like the 3rd graders I thought I had left far behind.

I'm just frustrated, because I'm working my butt off, and for my efforts I'm getting chastized. I want to enjoy school, and I do enjoy the content, but that is being overshadowed by the nasty social climate.

The ironic thing is, the only class in which I am struggling a bit to maintain an A average is Economics, the one I take online! So nobody sees that I am not really a straight 100 student! ARGHHH...

[HeatherB,CST]

Hey at least you weren't given a bad grade due to their incompetence. When I attented UofA for awhile the second half of my majors Biology class was graded lecture and lab together. I did great in the lecture portion of the class but ended up assigned to the lazy half of the class for the labs. Basically, one guy had already taken the class and failed so he had the rest of my lab partners all copying off of his old work (hello? he failed!). Thusly, while the other half of the class was performing the experiments and collecting data, my half was sitting on their butts at the benches just chatting and joking around. No one would even team up with me so I could get some actual data for writing the labs. After the first lab I actually asked the teacher if I could switch groups or borrow some of their data for the lab write ups and explained why. He just replied that he knew what was going on but this was "real life" and that I needed to figure out how to work with my group. I basically ended up doing everything alone (and multiple times at that so I could simulate a group answer on my own). Because I refused to copy the work of someone else I got an "A" on my lecture and a "D" in lab for "non-participation" which amounted to a big ol' "C"!!!!:angryfire

Wow, I am so sorry. That just sucks. Honestly, I think his "real life" angle is a line of BS he fed you, so he wouldn't have to deal with the lazy students. (He probably had no idea how to get them to participate) If you were doing every lab multiple times you did not deserve a "D" for non-participation IMHO. I think the teacher is as much to blame in that case as the students. I'm glad you still passed, though. I'm mad on your behalf! :angryfire

[MotivatedOne]

Well I think I've been officially dubbed the "Teacher's Pet" but I could care less...especially considering where I came from. I am not there to play or to make friends with people who are less than half as serious as I am about getting out of there. So I'd just ignore their rude remarks and do you. As far as the girl whose paper you proofed, she should be asking you for help instead of disrespecting you. You did here a huge favor but she probably didn't even take your comments into consideration. I tell ya, sometimes people just need to get off of their high horse and learn how to take constructive criticism for what it is...constructive criticism!!!

[justme1972]

The advantage of being an older student, is I am not at school to make friends.

If the girl who's paper that I proofread screamed about it that I "disrespected her" I would have said, "It's not disrespect, it's suggestions, it's up to you to do what you want with them."

The students that are harrassing you in lab, I would say VERY LOUDLY when the professor is in, "I would really appreciate it if you would stop asking to see my work, after all, we are in the SAME class and have the same opportunity to take notes."

I just have ZERO patience when it comes to things like that

A girl in our clinical group caused our ENTIRE group to lose a reward challenge (a full day off from clinicals) by not donating blood....she KNEW her iron was low, but if she had went, waited, and got a "cannot donate" form from the bloodmobile, they count that as an attempt and we don't get penalized for it.

She asked me if I was mad, and I told her, "Yup, sure am. I don't know how you'll make it as a nurse unless you learn the concept of teamwork."

[shippoRN]

good grief they KICK your backpack in lab???!!! Are you kidding???!!! Its college for goodness sakes, grow up!

One thing my parents taught me is nothing comes easy in life.

People like that, who think that they are entitled to have everything handed over to them annoy me to no end and I especially do not like bullies.

Keep up the good work and try your best to ignore them.

In the end you're gonna be the one with the A's that you earned fair and square!

[shippoRN]

Hey at least you weren't given a bad grade due to their incompetence. When I attented UofA for awhile the second half of my majors Biology class was graded lecture and lab together. I did great in the lecture portion of the class but ended up assigned to the lazy half of the class for the labs. Basically, one guy had already taken the class and failed so he had the rest of my lab partners all copying off of his old work (hello? he failed!). Thusly, while the other half of the class was performing the experiments and collecting data, my half was sitting on their butts at the benches just chatting and joking around. No one would even team up with me so I could get some actual data for writing the labs. After the first lab I actually asked the teacher if I could switch groups or borrow some of their data for the lab write ups and explained why. He just replied that he knew what was going on but this was "real life" and that I needed to figure out how to work with my group. I basically ended up doing everything alone (and multiple times at that so I could simulate a group answer on my own). Because I refused to copy the work of someone else I got an "A" on my lecture and a "D" in lab for "non-participation" which amounted to a big ol' "C"!!!!:angryfire

wait a minute, "non participation"??? How is it non participation when you were the one doing all the work??? I don't get it.

Was there no way you could contest that grade or argue it?

[SparklyGirl]

Wow. I have never encountered anything like that.

I *did* transfer out of my Interpersonal Communications class which was a daytime class, into a weekend class because...well for a lot of reasons.

But I'm really sorry you have to endure that. I'm not sure I could.

[SarasotaRN2b]

Wow, I am so sorry. That just sucks. Honestly, I think his "real life" angle is a line of BS he fed you, so he wouldn't have to deal with the lazy students. (He probably had no idea how to get them to participate) If you were doing every lab multiple times you did not deserve a "D" for non-participation IMHO. I think the teacher is as much to blame in that case as the students. I'm glad you still passed, though. I'm mad on your behalf! :angryfire

Totally agree! I know the class is over, but I would have hightailed it to the department chairman. You've invested both time and money into that class, and the remark made by the professor was quite blase. You weren't the one not participating, it was your lazy classmates.

[Music in My Heart]

I'm kind of a punk, I guess, because I would've responded, "Oh, yeah, sorry. It's perfect just the way it is. Keep up the great work!!"

Someday she's going to be wondering why she's getting no interviews with the resume and cover letter that she sent in.

[WLBRNSOON]

I do sympathise with the OP. Being ostracised for taking your education serious is very grade-schoolish. But the nice thing I've found about college is that no matter how annoying your fellow students are, you'll probably only see them for one quarter (if that). The slackers do eventually get weeded out and the other students you see again in the higher-level classes will have a bit more focus. I myself have seen some classmates whom I couldn't fathom why they even bothered registering.

I'm sure it'll get better for you, just don't let them drag you down to their level.

Rob

[HeatherB,CST]

I'm kind of a punk, I guess, because I would've responded, "Oh, yeah, sorry. It's perfect just the way it is. Keep up the great work!!"

Someday she's going to be wondering why she's getting no interviews with the resume and cover letter that she sent in.

That is too funny! If we have to swap and proofread again, I may be tempted to say just that!

And yes, they actually kicked our stuff! In that infuriating passive-agressive way that looks like maybe it was an accident (if someone were to call them out) but it definitely was not. Crazy, huh?

[smk1, LPN]

Jusy keep doing what you are doing. These people won't be around much longer if they can't hack it. Don't let people rain on your parade and make you feel guitly about doing well.