Is it wise to work from home?

[SilverBells]

At work, I’ve recently been given the opportunity to bring a laptop home to complete work without distractions from others and theoretically cut back on hours.  

In theory, this seems like a good idea, but I’m not sure how well this would actually work. If anything, this might resolve in me working even more since I would have access to check up and follow up on things over the weekend and other days I have off.  I can see myself checking in frequently too, since  I almost always have at least one or two patients I’m worried about.  

Is this wise? 

[macawake, MSN]

On 3/27/2021 at 8:18 PM, SilverBells said:

When I created this thread, my goal was to see if maybe being able to do some work from home might overall create a better work schedule and reduce anxiety.  I was wondering what the thoughts of others were, and if others have had success in working from home.  However, the more I think about it, the more I believe that completing work from home will probably only enhance my anxiety since I'll have access to monitor patients continuously.  Knowing myself, I'll probably end up logging in multiple times a day.  So you're probably right in that I likely knew the answer to my question even before I asked.   I'm off-the-walls at times, but realistically I'm not completely unintelligent either.   

First of all, I know you’re not unintelligent.

The content of this thread is a pattern with you. Why are you attempting to log in from home and reporting back to us that you are having technical difficulties and can’t access patient charts, when you already know that working at home will likely be detrimental to you? 

It’s the same pattern as I saw in another thread where posters were expressing real concern about your diet and you reported back that you had experienced cardiac dysrhythmias and felt unnaturally tired. And then.. you make a post about eating ten more peanutbutter cups and drinking a gallon of soda. What gives? There is such dissonance in that exchange. Several posters appear genuinely afraid for your health and you respond by posting about even more details of the harmful behavior. 

Assuming that the things you have described in several different threads are actually taking place, this is what I would do if it were me having these problems. 

* Stop working 18-20 hour days Monday through Friday.

* Stop eating crap, crap, and more crap and instead start eating healthy, nutritious food. We only have one body and we only get one shot at life. While modern medicine has made amazing progress and we can repair a lot of damage and replace wonky parts, there is a limit to the amount of abuse one can subject ones body to without causing irreparable harm. 

* Find a job where someone (management) will set limits if I was unable to do so myself.

I must say that I’m surprised that no one has put their foot down at your current place of work. It’s hard to fathom that in a facility staffed with other healthcare professionals, no one would notice your behavior and do something. Any way.. you need more normal working hours that makes it possible to get enough sleep, gives you time and energy to actually cook healthy food and time to spend with people like family and friends.

* Get an appointment and get my physical status checked. If provider gives the okay, start exercising.

* Get immediate counseling for my emotional health.

Bottom line OP, of your life is the way describe, you need to take positive steps with the aim to improve your situation and simply posting here won’t be enough. 

If I’m being honest, I wonder if I’m not contributing to an unhealthy process by even replying here. I think we might be enabling something or other that is not entirely helpful or healthy. 

My final words in this post and thread are these: getting enough sleep, enough nutrients, enough exercise, spending time with people who give me positive energy and making an effort to reduce negative stress works wonders for my overall well-being. I’m pretty sure that is generalizable to most human beings, including you. Take care!

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[guest1163268]

I think that it is very likely that SilverBells maybe have a bit of a Personality D/O syndrome going on based on the attention seeking behaviors evident. 

It's very unlikely that anyone consumes so much pop or work such hours, so logically the threads are a classical way to elicit a reaction. It doesn't matter if the reactions are positive or negative. 

Generally it implies low self esteem or in this case, probably loneliness! 

Either we are being trolled or SilverBells is seeking help. There isn't any narcissism evident or other potentially dangerous markers so I think we are being trolled and I wish SilverBells a happy recovery. 

[Davey Do]

2 hours ago, Curious1997 said:

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[guest1163268]

2 minutes ago, Davey Do said:

 

It could also be attention seeking behaviors. You are the more experienced Psych Nurse so you should put your take on it Davey. ?

[Davey Do]

49 minutes ago, Curious1997 said:

It could also be attention seeking behaviors. You are the more experienced Psych Nurse so you should put your take on it Davey. ?

ACT-SHOO-ALL-LLE, Curious, your perspective is relatively consensual with mine and others- we merely have different ways of expressing that perspective.

There's something in the modus operandi that says to me our beloved Ms. SilverBells is concurrently being entertained by the controversial conversational dynamics. I find her threads and posts to be works of art. That's one reason why I requested, and gained permission, from SilverBells to submit images to her threads.

I've said it before and I will reiterated SilverBells M.O:

A premise is presented that is overtly controversial. Without fail, both the premise and the person is attacked. Instead of reacting defensively, for example, as a Snowflake might do, the opposing presenter's viewpoint is positively acknowledged. But then a "but" is thrown in to potentiate the original premise. This action fans the flame.

Something else which invariably occurs are questions from the opposing perspectives. This is the method of the opposing perspectives feeding the monkey and fanning the flame. The original premise is supported through answers, which act as as ammunition for the opposing perspectives, and the momentum continues.

I believe our Ms. SilverBells is something of a genius manipulator. She gets her need fulfilled while allowing the naysaying hatchetmen to get their needs fulfilled also.

Long live the Queen!

 

[guest1163268]

1 hour ago, Davey Do said:

ACT-SHOO-ALL-LLE, Curious, your perspective is relatively consensual with mine and others- we merely have different ways of expressing that perspective.

There's something in the modus operandi that says to me our beloved Ms. SilverBells is concurrently being entertained by the controversial conversational dynamics. I find her threads and posts to be works of art. That's one reason why I requested, and gained permission, from SilverBells to submit images to her threads.

I've said it before and I will reiterated SilverBells M.O:

A premise is presented that is overtly controversial. Without fail, both the premise and the person is attacked. Instead of reacting defensively, for example, as a Snowflake might do, the opposing presenter's viewpoint is positively acknowledged. But then a "but" is thrown in to potentiate the original premise. This action fans the flame.

Something else which invariably occurs are questions from the opposing perspectives. This is the method of the opposing perspectives feeding the monkey and fanning the flame. The original premise is supported through answers, which act as as ammunition for the opposing perspectives, and the momentum continues.

I believe our Ms. SilverBells is something of a genius manipulator. She gets her need fulfilled while allowing the naysaying hatchetmen to get their needs fulfilled also.

Long live the Queen!

 

Sort of my sentiments exactly. I enjoy how SilverBells gets everyone's goat going. I like winding up some people as well but she's got me beat. 

IMO you should never wear your heart on your sleeve and impulsively react or you could run into a sadist like me and I will have you going. People think that's cruel, I see it as someone who needs to grow up and I'm teaching them a lesson. There are many things that will elicit strong emotions and the sooner you can control them, the better of your life will be. 

[dianah, ASN]

This is a gentle reminder to post to the subject of the thread only, as tangent discussions tend to derail the thread.  Thank you.

[Davey Do]

2 hours ago, dianah said:

This is a gentle reminder to post to the subject of the thread only, as tangent discussions tend to derail the thread.  Thank you.

Speaking of the subject of the thread, thank you very much for the gentle reminder, dianah, I thought about working from home at one time.

It was in my years as a freelance artist, before the internet was in full swing. I purchased books on the business of becoming an artist and working as an illustrator.

A downfall that the author of the book on illustration pointed out was that it was a lonely job. The majority of the time, one had to work alone, without interruption, in order to focus on the tasks at hand. Being an asocial recluse, I saw this as not a downfall, but as a plus.

Alas, it was not meant to be, for my at home generated illustrations did not receive a lot of attention or draw much income. The majority of my income came from commissions  from having to sit down and meet with prospective clients, murals with a community theatre, street cartooning and shows.

4 hours ago, Curious1997 said:

you should never wear your heart on your sleeve 

 I agree, Curious. Even if you are in a two-dimensional claymation character.

 

 

 

[SilverBells, BSN]

On 3/28/2021 at 2:15 AM, brandy1017 said:

I don't understand how they got you to accept this job where you are supposed to be available 24/7 and do the workload of several people!

Also to the point of being concerned about your patients and wanting to prevent any decline, you are NOT God!  You aren't even a Dr so you can't order meds or tx.  Even Dr's don't work 24/7, they usually have colleagues help take call. 

As another OP said, we can't live forever.  But we can keep people alive much longer, but many are very fragile and may crash at any time and need a tune up in the hospital.

Are you truly management?  Because it seems a lot of the work you do is that of a bedside nurse and that should be paid hourly and you deserve OT, not salary.  Whichever, I still advise getting another job elsewhere.

I'm a unit manager so on the lower-end of management I would say? Basically, my position allows upper management to assign any task to me they would like, and that often includes bedside work.   And while realistically I understand that some patients will decline eventually or no matter what you do, for me it's hard to put into practice because I went into nursing with the intent on helping others get better.  I still have this mindset every day at work despite knowing that I work with the geriatric population and decline is eventually inevitable with older people.  

[Hannahbanana, BSN, MSN]

On 3/27/2021 at 10:19 PM, SilverBells said:

FYI:  As of right now, I am having technical difficulties logging into any work application other than my work email.  In other words, I cannot access any patient charts to do any follow ups, charting, monitoring, etc.

If I were your management that’s exactly what I would do to get you the heck out of the building: tell you to work from home and then cut off your access. 

If we can see what you’re like from out here in electron-land, imagine what somebody with direct observation can see.  

[Davey Do]

4 hours ago, Hannahbanana said:

we can see what you’re like from out here in electron-land

[duchess78]

Wow, just wow. Stop feeding into it. No further replies. Look up attention seeking behaviors. 

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