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I don't think its depressing. I think especially if you choose to work hospice you've accepted that death is a natural part of life. I think we all go home and cry every now and then because we work with people and there will always be people who touch our lives but its not like we cry everyday.
There's always a balance of patients who die or get worse and those who are seen by you the nurse making fantastic recoveries. To see a patient who was on the brink of death living life again is most rewarding indeed. Deaths are an unpleasant reality, some deaths are less pleasant than others. Nursing is a tough demanding field, yet the rewards outweigh the depressing incidences that one can face on a daily basis.
Remember, as a nurse you define your work. That's the creative aspect to nursing.
No one can really teach you how to be the best nurse you can possibly be. The best nurse is molded by trial and error, self reflection and perseverance.
Taking vacations, visiting with friends outside of work, exercising, and planning a healthy diet-- all can deter one from becoming depressed. Pharmaceuticals would be last on my list of deterrents.
Never discount the counsel and advice from other nurses regarding patient care: this to me is nursing's greatest strength.
In my limited experience, it's all about perspective. You can choose to focus on all the things that are wrong with people- chronic illnesses, cancer, addictions, terminal illness, loneliness in LTC, etc- or you can choose to focus on how you're working to provide excellent care, thereby making their day or their life a bit better. Of course it's sad when bad things happen to good people, but if you focus on your job, and your contribution to their life, you realize that you can be a positive influence, even if it is in a small way. Giving someone comfort (physical or otherwise) in their last days, supporting people who are going through a difficult time, having a conversation and showing interest in a person who is separated from their loved ones- these are all ways that we help people in bad situations, and give them something positive to remember or feel or look forward to. Perspective, baby.
I have not been a nurse forever by any means, but the reality is: you can't save everyone's life. When you are providing end of life care, you know that you are helping them die with dignity, and helping the families through a difficult time. You just provide the best care you can, and when it gets to the point where the patient most likely is "no longer there" (just alive physically by mechanical means), then the focus of care shifts to the families. You make the patient comfortable, and show compassion. It's rewarding to know that you helped someone in their greatest time of need.
It's not as if everyone dies (unless you work in hospice, and not everyone is cut out for such a job. Hospice nurses must be compassionate (really, all nurses should be). You will save people's lives, prevent them from having complications, and heal them, but all of it is rewarding when you have the proper perspective. You will find an area of nursing that fits you best.
I don't go home and cry, but there are times when I think about patients when I go home (it's impossible not to sometimes), but I try my best to separate work from home so that I don't get emotionally burnt out.
Good luck!
in fact, i am not a real nurse, but it seem to become a RN within last 1 week since my pregnant sister has to be in hospital. staying in the hospital nearly whole night make me exhausted.
I admire those who are willing to become an RN. But in fact, i think that RN is a good job not depressing one all time. RN require the deep medial and health care knowledge and interpersonal skills too,:)
AddisonLawrence03
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how do you deal with seeing people get sick and die all the time? or especially nurses who work in hospice? are there times when you go home and cry or do you just stay strong and learn how to cope with it?