Is this normal for a Dr.?

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Hello everyone! I don't post very often but I am learning so much from these message boards! I will graduate from nursing school this summer. And yes, it still feels like an eternity. I have a question and I'd really like to hear your opinions from a nursing point of view and from a mom's view, for those of you with children. Ok, you have a young mom (29) and a young male pediatrician (33), both married. The Dr. spends a lot of time in the room with this mom. Do you think it's strange for the doc to compliment the mom everytime she is there? For example, telling her how funny, smart, pretty, she is. Also, would it be weird for him to tell her what great hair she has and proceed to touch her hair (while standing about 3 inches from her face!)? Have you ever seen this kind of thing and is this normal behavior for young docs? opinions please.........By the way, I work in pediatrics. Thanks! :uhoh21:

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Specializes in Pediatrics, Nursing Education.

that's weird.

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Hello everyone! I don't post very often but I am learning so much from these message boards! I will graduate from nursing school this summer. And yes, it still feels like an eternity. I have a question and I'd really like to hear your opinions from a nursing point of view and from a mom's view, for those of you with children. Ok, you have a young mom (29) and a young male pediatrician (33), both married. The Dr. spends a lot of time in the room with this mom. Do you think it's strange for the doc to compliment the mom everytime she is there? For example, telling her how funny, smart, pretty, she is. Also, would it be weird for him to tell her what great hair she has and proceed to touch her hair (while standing about 3 inches from her face!)? Have you ever seen this kind of thing and is this normal behavior for young docs? opinions please.........By the way, I work in pediatrics. Thanks! :uhoh21:

Yes, a bit weird. But, it's nobodies business.

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Specializes in Specializes in L/D, newborn, GYN, LTC, Dialysis.

inappropriate behavior.

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Specializes in Clinical Risk Management.

Sound like he's hitting on you, IMO.

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Agree - inappropriate, especially the touching.

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I've been in the medical profession for 10 years and have experienced this kind of behavior more than once(and this is in the military...so you can imagine...) The truth is, working in such a "fast-paced" environment, not to mention long hours, takes its toll on relationships. You begin to build a bond with those who understand and experience the stressors of the occupation. I never was one to say "stop" or report this kind of behavior and because of my ignorance and other's ignorance this behavior has almost become acceptable. There is also the fear of standing up to a Doctor, who is probably your boss. You decide how you want to take these "advances", blow them off...accept the compliments...take the "talking" a step further...but know that someone may be hurt if this continues and that you have the power to stop this and report this kind of behavior. Just wanted to let you know you are not alone...

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inappropriate behavior.

DITTO!!!

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Specializes in Geriatric, LTC, PC, home care, pediatric.

inappropriate behavior :uhoh21:

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Specializes in NICU.

Yes, inappropriate. Moreso because this sounds like a mom of a pt to this pediatrician (or am I interpreting this wrong?). He is violating the line between doctor and pt.

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Specializes in LTC, sub-acute, urology, gastro.

Inappropriate & unprofessional!

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Specializes in NICU.
Inappropriate & unprofessional!

all of the above and . . . eeeeeewwwwwwwwwww :uhoh21: creeeeeepy!

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