inappropriate work attire

[johnnyDoGood]

ok, i know most of you are nurses and wear scrubs, but do you think this is inappropriate to wear; a woman wears to work essentially a tank top, arms fully exposed and the top is low cut where you can see the vertical "separation" in her breast/busom? i believe this woman is dressing this way to attract someone at work, but that is another story. i'm thinking about complaining. and she couldn't wait until Halloween work custome day rolled around, she was wearing this negligee type top, short skirt and kind of black almost fishnet like stockings. (supervisor was on vaca. that day)

[roser13, ASN, RN]

i am not a nurse, nor did i say i worked in a hospital setting. i work in a different setting. i am studying an allied health profession, which brought me to this site. i was asking as a general question. i really don't want to look at that all day. i do believe it is written in the guidelines. this lady has been working for the company a long time, and i think people get complacent. btw, i do see hanky panky with those two, and yes he's married. i know it's none of my business, but i think this needs to be exposed.

Yes, I'm dense, but please explain to me why you've come to a nursing forum for advice???? (other than the desire to prove the point that allnurses.com should require some type of nursing ID to post)

[RedhairedNurse, BSN, RN]

if you don't want to look - don't. you could always just look her in the eye when you speak to her.

an affair is none of your business and you have no right or responsibility to expose it or judge it.

unless you are her manager honestly it sounds like you need to mind your own business.

The OP shouldn't have to make any effort whatsoever by trying to ignore her provocative dress. That is the reason we have dress codes.

The Affair may be none of his business, but telling him not to look or "look her in the eye" is ridiculous. If It weren't for peripheral vision that may be possible. Lol

I say confront her or complain to your manager, but the affair is their business. Good luck!

[KarmaWiseRaven]

I have an idea ( i get those some times ) How about minding your own business and do your job like your suppose to do. Are you like the fashion and relationship police? Are you jealous someone is getting some and your not?

I'm sure ( not positive) But i could bet if the RN Supervisor ( Nurse Manager) has a problem with her dressing or how she acts on the floor she would say something. And I'm sure she's a big girl and knows what is appropriate at work and whats not. These are my thoughts use them as you wish

[coast2coast]

The OP shouldn't have to make any effort whatsoever by trying to ignore her provocative dress. That is the reason we have dress codes.

The Affair may be none of his business, but telling him not to look or "look her in the eye" is ridiculous. If It weren't for peripheral vision that may be possible. Lol

Really? I find it remarkably easy not to notice cleavage on anyone, anywhere out in the world. Perhaps I have superpowers. Or a brain tumor impairing my peripheral vision. Hmm.

Dress codes exist to promote professionalism, not to protect against sexual harassment (which is what he is bordering on, if he goes around staring at her chest all day long).

[RedhairedNurse, BSN, RN]

Karma, Why do you have to be so sarcastic and rude? The question by the op was legitimate and he doesn't need to be treated in such a rude manner!

[Not_A_Hat_Person, RN]

If you want to say anything about the co-worker's dress, say you've overheard patients complaining about her attire.

Unless the lovebirds are disappearing and leaving you in the lurch for hours at a time (which has happened to me), or you're forced into awkward situations when the spouse calls or visits, I'd leave the affair alone.

[RedhairedNurse, BSN, RN]

Really? I find it remarkably easy not to notice cleavage on anyone, anywhere out in the world. Perhaps I have superpowers. Or a brain tumor impairing my peripheral vision. Hmm.

Dress codes exist to promote professionalism, not to protect against sexual harassment (which is what he is bordering on, if he goes around staring at her chest all day long).

Once again disagree, he's not the one bordering on harassment. I find it very hard to believe that if some one walks up to you with their breasts hanging out, you're not going to notice? That's very very hard to believe.

Personally, I'd be offended if I worked with someone like the op does and had to see that every day. I once worked with some one like this and it's not something that you get use to, in fact, it's a little sickening if you ask me.

[CaitlinAnn]

I guess its a matter of how much they bother you. Boobs don't bother me regardless of where I'm at. As nurses, or nurses-to-be, why should they/would they bother us?

[regularRN]

I don't get this post at all... but as a nurse, I have been exposed to the human body such that all and anyone can dress in any manner that suits them. It's all just human flesh... !!!

[BigB_RN]

This is an odd, yet entertaining post.

[BigB_RN]

Well, more silly than entertaining.

[AmericanRN]

so you don't think the affair is any of my business? probably not, but if i were married i would want someone to tell me about this. this is inappropriate work behavior.

What good would it do? 1) is the behavior affecting the business as far as profits or customer satisfaction? 2) as many people can tell you often times a spouse will not believe people when they are told their spouse is cheating on them and they certainly won't believe it from a person who isn't even a friend of the familly 3) What if the guy has an open marriage with his wife aka swingers and they pick people for each other? This has been known to happen.

I would be very careful if I were you because you may be seeing what you want to see not what is actually there. What if you are wrong across the board regarding a possible affair and both the male and female coworker sues you for libel and slander? I'm not trying to put you down but think about the ramifications it can have all the way around because you have some axe to grind because she is showing some cleavage.