inappropriate work attire

[johnnyDoGood]

ok, i know most of you are nurses and wear scrubs, but do you think this is inappropriate to wear; a woman wears to work essentially a tank top, arms fully exposed and the top is low cut where you can see the vertical "separation" in her breast/busom? i believe this woman is dressing this way to attract someone at work, but that is another story. i'm thinking about complaining. and she couldn't wait until Halloween work custome day rolled around, she was wearing this negligee type top, short skirt and kind of black almost fishnet like stockings. (supervisor was on vaca. that day)

[grannyrn65]

I really don't think it is any of my business what a co-worker wears to work. If a patient makes a comment, unless they are really upset, I'll ignore it. Goodness, getting upset over another employee's attire,people should have worked when I first started my career. Uniform-white only(dress only),white stockings, white shoes, cap, school pin,and name pin. While the top wasn't work ready, again it isn't any of my business.

As for the overly friendly relationship, all I can say 'get a bed' :>)

GrannyRN65

[Spidey's mom, ADN, BSN, RN]

It is unprofessional and inappropriate - unless the OP works in a bar or strip club.

I'm a woman and it is almost impossible not to look at someone who is advertising their cleavage. I work with one such woman - she's been warned but management doesn't follow through on the dress code. Her blouse is so low that when she leans forward when we are having a meeting, they lay on the desk and you can almost see to her belly button. That is just wrong. And very hard not to look at.

As to the affair - sadly, unless it is having an effect on the workplace (besides gossip), you probably should mind your own business.

steph

[rninil]

As I read through the post and the subsequent comments, many thoughts ran through my head. Some of them have already been stated by other posters, so I'll skip to my main point. What's lacking here is an understanding of the big picture. Sometimes we insert our own emotions into evaluating a situation. Maybe she does not have the money to afford better fitting clothing. Maybe her breasts are so large that no matter what she wears, it looks tacky. I know that with the party in my shirt, I can turn the frumpiest shirts into a boob display. Lastly, the OP said that it may not be a nursing situation. Maybe it could be appropriate in that setting. My husband may be more likely to buy a car, cell phone plan, etc from someone who is using their "assets" to attract customers.

And, no, the affair is none of your business!!

[DLS_PMHNP, MSN, RN, NP]

If ANYONE has enough rope, they will hang themselves.

[hearts895, RN BSN]

Your co-worker sounds icky and unprofessional on all accounts but 1. An affair has nothing to do with work, so you have technically have no right/reason to expose it or do anything else related to it. 2. She clearly has no sense of professionalism regarding clothes but I wouldn't create drama by saying anything to anyone - it is her direct superior's problem - not yours. If they (her boss) aren't blind and have some sense, they will eventually take her to task for her clothing.

My advice: Don't get involved, but yeah its a tacky mess in general.

[springRN]

I don't think it is appropriate to show that much cleavage in any work place, I doubt she can't afford proper clothing and the affair is his business if they carry on in front of him and he has to see it. The fact they expose it in the work place is very inappropriate and is sexual harrassment. I once had to know about my coworkers affair with a married man who worked in the same place as we did and it ****** me off to know & hear about.

As for being nurses and seeing skin..just because I am a nurse doesn't mean I want to see everyone's stuff...you mean you wouldn't mind seeing a male coworkers package because you are a nurse and you have seen it all before!! These exhibitionist (his coworker) need to have some self respect

[pers]

I don't think the affair is any of your affair and suggest you keep to yourself. Unless of course you're the kind of person who thrives on sticking your nose in everyone else's business and then being the work gossip who passes all that nosey knowlege on to anyone who stands still long enough to listen to it. People who spread the rumors are no better than the subjects!

As for the work attire, I believe that's a different story. Dress codes are in place for a reason and it isn't inappropriate to ask that they be followed. Many people aren't comfortable with skimpy clothing for a variety of reasons and there's nothing wrong with that. Even scrubs can be inappropriate when the pants are skin-tight hip huggers that show underwear (or worse, butt cleavage). Wearing a tee instead of a scrub top is often considered acceptable but when that tee is skin-tight and you don't wear a bra, it crosses a line. Modifying scrub tops by removing the modesty panel in order to show extra cleavage is also unacceptable. So yeah, I've seen some work "don'ts" and still find it inappropriate even though I'm a nurse and don't consider nudity to be a big deal. Contact the manager or HR if you aren't comfy approaching her yourself.

[coast2coast]

Even scrubs can be inappropriate when the pants are skin-tight hip huggers that show underwear (or worse, butt cleavage). Wearing a tee instead of a scrub top is often considered acceptable but when that tee is skin-tight and you don't wear a bra, it crosses a line. Modifying scrub tops by removing the modesty panel in order to show extra cleavage is also unacceptable.

Pers, you're giving me nightmares over here!

[nursel56]

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Btw, why is this getting under your skin so much? Are you friend's with the man's wife or children? If I got myself all upset over the colossally dumb stuff my co-workers have done over the years I wouldn't have had any time left over to worry about my own life.

[DayOhioRn]

We nurses are fabulous in many ways - but fashion experts and affair intervention specialists we are not. Best go to whatever experts seem most appropriate. note: below are informational links only and not meant as advertisements!

Cheaters.com - Contact Us

Get on the Show: What Not to Wear : TLC

Btw, why is this getting under your skin so much? Are you friend's with the man's wife or children? If I got myself all upset over the colossally dumb stuff my co-workers have done over the years I wouldn't have had any time left over to worry about my own life.

Gee I was just thinking that maybe the OP could hook her up with Stacy and Clinton!

[GHGoonette, BSN, RN]

I agree with all of the following:

1. It is none of the OP's business who is having sex with whom, unless they do it during office hours.

2. Dress codes are management's business, not a junior noncom's.

3. Notifying the husband or wife in any situation involving extra-marital affairs is the action of a deliberate trouble-maker.

4 If the op has a problem with this person being a sexual predator, he should dredge up the courage to approach her himself, instead of posting it on an anonymous forum.

Warning to AN members. This is not the first topic posted by Johnnydogood that was provocative; many of his responses to members' posts were equally provocative, and in some cases bordered on the insulting. This particular thread cannot in any way be linked to nursing and seems to be a deliberate attempt to stir members up.

[headinsandRN]

Warning to AN members. This is not the first topic posted by Johnnydogood that was provocative; many of his responses to members' posts were equally provocative, and in some cases bordered on the insulting. This particular thread cannot in any way be linked to nursing and seems to be a deliberate attempt to stir members up.

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